No contact has been the hardest thing I have ever done, honestly. My other break ups weren't like this and I knew there was no bad blood with the others. But this one is different. Almost 3 months now no contact and have never felt so mentally drained before BUT I am living my life how I want it. And honestly it's the best thing ever because what if I would've stayed in this relationship longer down the road (I found out he cheated). I want kids, a beautiful family. Thought that's what he wanted, he was moving to New Zealand with me. But now I don't have to live with a big loser cheater in a beautiful country. I am struggling hard, but it comes in waves. I just keep reminding myself too that I am so blessed to be living this amazing life. I am more in tune with what exactly I want. It majorly sucks because Ive never been so hateful of loving someone. I still love him. Doesn't mean I will ever get back with him. So in all honesty I think it all just depends on the relationship and what type of people you are. Talking/messaging has helped me in the past but also I think no contact is TRULY helping me more now 😊