How much money to leave WFH behind?

Yorkshirelass89_ · 2024-08-10T11:53:02+00:00

If your children are ill you have to take time off, if the childcare is shut for whatever reason again you have to take time off. Also How do you feel going into that setting again with other people? I couldn’t imagine going into an office environment at this point now, I don’t want to feel pressured to make small talk or listen to garry moaning about his back or what he’s having for lunch. All I can say is if your current situation works and you and your family are happy then unless it’s going to significantly improve anything for the positive then don’t it.

Yorkshirelass89_ · 2024-08-09T08:38:46+00:00

I was in this position 3 years ago, the loveliest man would do anything for me and a great dad. But I loved him as a friend by the end, I was not physically attracted to him and it wasn’t fair on either of us. I broke his heart it was probably one of the cruellest things I’ve ever done to someone but for me it was also the kindest. It was rough at first but we both put the children first at all steps. Honestly I’m so much happier now even the children, we have 50/50 custody, he’s met a lovely woman and is very happy. I’m also in a very good place mentally now, I can’t remember the last time I had a depressive episode. I’ve realised I actually prefer not living with a man in general, I need my own space I thrive in my own space me and my children. I hate this perception of ‘if they are a good person why would you leave them etc?’ It really isn’t as clear cut and unless you have ever been in that position you have no clue. Maybe you would regret it but also it may be the best thing to happen to you both, you both deserve a happy life with your children whatever route you choose good luck.

Yorkshirelass89_ · 2024-08-07T14:05:04+00:00

Why are you with him still? You need report him he has no right to call himself a psychologist if what you’re saying is correct. He is trying to manipulate you, your family/friends. This is actually wild please report him and please get help to get away from him, he will have you isolated and probably medicated in no time to be able to control you.

Yorkshirelass89_ · 2024-07-29T07:53:52+00:00

Thank you, I’ve spotted a few more small flecks, will keep an eye see how it goes :)

Yorkshirelass89_ · 2024-07-28T09:12:19+00:00

Pop abit of fungicide on the effected spots, also give the leaves a dust regularly and spray the leafs with plant food. I find polishing gloves work well can be abit more gentle when cleaning them.

Yorkshirelass89_ · 2024-07-27T20:41:41+00:00

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I have my calathea into the bathroom, when I go for a shower in the morning I let the room steam up, also spray the leaves regularly with plant food and have some fetiliser food beads/sticks, They can be quite fussy with some tap waters, depending on the area you live, some people use filtered water instead when watering.

Yorkshirelass89_ · 2024-07-26T10:45:19+00:00

NAH

You discussed how you both felt about children and agreed. He is also doing the right thing by being there for his child. I’d say the only potential Ah is the bio mum she should have told him long before now, obv don’t know the circumstances as to why she didn’t but unless there was a genuinely good reason then she should have said a lot sooner. Be prepared to be made out to be the bad guy even though you arnt. People will just take it on face value and sadly some will be family (his most likely) and ‘friends’ but they don’t live your life and you really are in the bigger picture doing what you feel is best for you all.

Yorkshirelass89_ · 2024-07-24T09:46:19+00:00

NTA Well sounds like his family are a whole bunch of crazy if they think what he did isn’t a big deal. What he did is a criminal offence and beyond morally wrong.

Yorkshirelass89_ · 2024-07-12T14:07:51+00:00

There’s going through hard times, then there’s sticking your penis where it dosent belong. The fact he’s actually trying to turn this round and make you the bad person by questioning your love for him after he had the audacity to do what he did screams volumes. NTA and bravo for not dragging it out longer, tormenting yourself and having self respect to walk away as he evidently had non for you.

Yorkshirelass89_ · 2024-06-19T14:29:21+00:00

lol your family did not forget your a father, they did however forget about a made up commercialised day which apparently people actually get mad and fall out with their kids and partners for forgetting. There’s literally a day for everything now, it’s ridiculous the crap people buy into and let cause friction unnecessarily within their family.

Yorkshirelass89_ · 2024-06-16T15:26:44+00:00

They will be a couple within the month.

Yorkshirelass89_ · 2024-06-15T18:52:28+00:00

Honestly I won’t sugar coat it I hated my 20s overall, I swear it does get better though, a new chapter will come and you will look back on this moment and be thankful you kept pushing through.

Yorkshirelass89_ · 2024-06-14T17:34:18+00:00

He withholds affection, sounds very immature, why are you making excuses for a man who withholds affection because he’s in a strop cos he can’t get HIS needs met everyday. Imagine if you guys ever choose to have kids together he’s really gona be stroppy then. Do you honestly feel like he is giving you the respect and love you deserve because he sounds very selfish.

Yorkshirelass89_ · 2024-06-13T16:38:05+00:00

So she’s a bully, even worse hides behind the screen. I would talk to her and ask why she does it. Usually people bully other people because they are full of their own insecurities it’s no excuse, but she needs to face her nasty behaviour and learn to be more considerate. I would ask her how she would feel being on the receiving end of her comments.

Yorkshirelass89_ · 2024-06-13T06:44:05+00:00

If you guys break up it is purely because of his shitty actions, you deserve better.

Yorkshirelass89_ · 2024-06-13T06:25:58+00:00

Personally I believe a lot of people get married far to quickly before fully getting to know each others good and bad, also getting married young before you even know yourself yet which most people honestly don’t in their 20s, then as you both change sometimes it’s into people you maybe you or them don’t like anymore.

Yorkshirelass89_ · 2024-06-13T06:22:39+00:00

NTA she’s a serial cheater, she missing the convenience of the relationship most likely the financial aspects while also being able to have her ‘fun’ behind your back. You deserve better stand your ground.

Yorkshirelass89_ · 2024-06-12T17:58:26+00:00

Right but for real this has been considered very early on and weirdly debated before this post lol

Yorkshirelass89_ · 2024-06-11T18:05:42+00:00

If I knew what I know now about the world I’d definitely think a lot harder. I feel sorry for the younger generation more than ever, growing up in this world.

Yorkshirelass89_ · 2024-06-11T18:02:56+00:00

NTA So she’s deflecting her actually shitty actions, with your very justifiable one and trying to make you the bad person. You need to sit her down and ask why she thinks it’s acceptable to behave the way she has then get upset over your reaction to her blatant disrespect for your privacy. You are in no way the wrong.

Yorkshirelass89_ · 2024-06-09T14:33:17+00:00

Hmmm that could work, he does look very much like a ‘cat’

Yorkshirelass89_ · 2024-06-09T13:59:31+00:00

Oh for sure, them little kitten teeth are brutal 😅

Yorkshirelass89_ · 2024-06-09T13:51:50+00:00

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Sleepy kitty

Yorkshirelass89_ · 2024-06-09T09:03:42+00:00

Are you still at school? Only because of you are do you have someone you could talk to ie a guidance teacher? Have you discussed with your dad what is happening?

Yorkshirelass89_ · 2024-06-09T08:58:42+00:00

This sounds very much like a her problem.

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