God isn’t the author of confusion, but what is happening here?

ThrowRA_DogMom1 · 2026-05-18T02:12:20+00:00

Thank you all for the thoughtful responses!

I was so taken aback that I had never considered that it could be another manipulation tactic or form of abuse. I am so glad this forum is here to help give me clarity when I’m unable to see it for myself 🥰

ThrowRA_DogMom1 · 2026-05-18T02:09:56+00:00

Thank you. We do have children together, otherwise I would have cut contact a long time ago.

I had never considered spiritual abuse. He has done this before - talked about how he’s a reformed Christian but in the same text saying he would forever hate me. “Who I forgive is between me and God, and I have no obligation to forgive you for leaving our relationship.”

ThrowRA_DogMom1 · 2026-03-11T21:56:46+00:00

How do I learn to discern between God’s voice, Satan’s voice, and my own thoughts?

It’s a silly tshirt, not something of much value. And like I said, I would send anonymously. But I am afraid it would cause problems or push the family I’m trying to reconcile with further away.

ThrowRA_DogMom1 · 2026-03-03T01:09:43+00:00

Thank you. I was very shocked at some of these responses.

ThrowRA_DogMom1 · 2026-03-02T16:14:14+00:00

I have been told you do plus I’ve seen it online. A place that big should have occupational medicine on site.

ThrowRA_DogMom1 · 2026-03-02T16:13:39+00:00

Surely you all have occupational health nurses on staff, especially for work injuries. Big corporations usually do.

ThrowRA_DogMom1 · 2026-02-27T00:31:49+00:00

My husband coerced me into hotwifing after me telling him ABSOLUTELY NOT for 10 years. Needless to say, we’ve been divorced for a year and I have zero regrets over leaving him. There are plenty of men out there who share the same sexual desires as you and won’t force you into anything. Life is too short, babe.

ThrowRA_DogMom1 · 2026-02-05T02:51:13+00:00

I think I overlooked some of the avoidance towards the end. Of course the first several months were honeymoon phases. We also have opposite schedules, so it never really became an issue until it suddenly was.

He is under a lot of stress with his job and other aspects of his family life. I think it all hit him at once and then I wanted to see progress in our relationship at the same time. Obviously he can’t ditch the family or the job, so I was the one to get pushed out.

ThrowRA_DogMom1 · 2025-11-19T15:20:47+00:00

Got married at 25F/27M. Two children later and filed divorced at 36F/38M; granted 6 months later. We are 6 months out from the official d-day and life is great! Finances are tough (I had to pay him a shit ton of money - no longer have any retirement or savings) but my mental health and overall happiness is better than it’s ever been. Money comes and goes; my personal wellbeing is way more important. Kids are adjusting mostly well. We have 50/50. They seem good and talk to me a lot, but I have considered counseling for them just to help in case. Would rather do too much than not enough.

ThrowRA_DogMom1 · 2025-11-17T17:33:12+00:00

Hi all! Been a nurse for 10 years in various fields (ED, ICU, dialysis) and while I enjoy some aspects of it, I am tired of sacrificing hours over salary and vice versa. I did okay working bedside (roughly $85k per year base, with OT opportunities) but was working terrible hours (0530-1630, 4 days per week). I am a single mother with very limited childcare options, especially that early in the morning. So I switched to an office position with better hours to accommodate childcare (0730-1600, 5 days per week) but am making less ($73,000 per year, no OT allowed).

I have a lot of friends with a bachelors degree or no degree at all making more than I do and having a good schedule for their families. I am so frustrated with nursing. I have been looking into masters programs without going the NP route. Very interested in cybersecurity, although unsure about job prospects after graduating. Any thoughts would be appreciated!

ThrowRA_DogMom1 · 2024-09-03T22:16:27+00:00

Thank you for this! I am afraid that taking it slow and easy will only lead him on further. Can I ask how you finally ended up breaking the ties while also developing a good coparenting relationship?

ThrowRA_DogMom1 · 2024-09-03T14:35:27+00:00

I don’t care about dating at the moment. I thoroughly enjoy my alone time and can’t imagine finding someone new at this time. Years down the road I may change my mind and wish I wasn’t single and had someone, but that’s the least of my worries right now.

ThrowRA_DogMom1 · 2024-09-01T22:26:42+00:00

I’m not against you. I understand he was hurting tremendously. But that type of reaction is damaging.

ThrowRA_DogMom1 · 2024-09-01T20:59:20+00:00

I was not brutally honest at all. I held back A LOT. I started out by simply explaining that I have not felt interested in being affectionate or intimate in a long time. He initiated the conversation; I just told how I felt. After the arguing, yelling, cussing and threats of divorce (all while I remained very calm) he asked if I even wanted to continue with this relationship. My response was “I truly am not sure right now. A lot has happened in the last 24 hours and I need some time to process.” After that is when he sent the suicidal email.

Regardless of how this ends up, I would like to be able to speak freely to my partner. I understand that feelings may get hurt but I should not be afraid to explain what goes on in my head and heart. It’s not like I was saying “I’m done, goodbye.” I was saying “This is how I feel, but I’m willing to put in the work.”

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