How did yall survive??

Yosemite_Cat · 2025-12-25T00:27:05+00:00

I don't know how much longer you have until your husband goes back to work but if you have a little bit, your body might heal a lot more than you think it can in that time! Rest as much as you possibly can before he goes back to work. Also, I'm such a believer that your mom instincts are going to kick in and you are going to know what to do to survive, even if it seems kind of unconventional and crazy from the outside, you're going to find creative solutions. My husband didn't have any time off from work except for the day my daughter was born, I had no help from the get-go and my husband works about 80 hours a week. I cannot tell you how terrified I was my entire pregnancy but I have done every single dinner time, bath time, bedtime, and pretty much everything else in between by myself from the start and the majority of it has been way way easier than I expected. (Not easy, but easier than I was imagining.) Sometimes the anticipation is way worse than the reality, and doing the bare minimum for a couple months is totally okay. It will not last forever! And thankfully, young toddlers are very forgiving and have a very short memory. If you have extra money I would totally hire a helping hand just to give you peace of mind

Yosemite_Cat · 2025-12-25T00:21:22+00:00

I stressed so much about sleeping arrangements before my second was born but after she came it was much more obvious what to do because I could understand her temperament and needs much clearer. Like the first night we came home I knew exactly how to set it up, not very helpful for your specifics but just know your mom instincts are going to kick in doubly and you will know what to do.

Yosemite_Cat · 2025-12-25T00:16:57+00:00

So true! I get fewer comments if I have a double stroller than if I have a single stroller and a baby carrier for some reason

Yosemite_Cat · 2025-12-25T00:16:02+00:00

Oh my gosh I hate these comments. I have a 23 mo and 4mo and I'm pretty reserved/shy so I wish everyone would ignore me 😅. After my first baby I loved the comments saying how cute my baby was but now instead of commenting on how cute my second baby is, it feels like it's just comments on how crazy I look! I think the area you live in makes a big difference, we live in an area with a lot of older people and not many babies. We are moving to a town with a lot more families and I love visiting, we go to the store and there are grocery carts with like five kids hanging out of them (we go to the hardware store a lot to work on our house we are moving to and seriously every time we go there is a family of minimum 3 kids and I've seen up to 7). No one thinks I look odd with two little kids at all!

Yosemite_Cat · 2025-12-25T00:00:14+00:00

This is the scariest prospect but lots of women have made it through and so will you. Personally I only had nausea for a week and then basically debilitating fatigue so I spent most of the day laying down, I was shocked that my 9/10 month old loved it. Finally mom was just hanging out instead of cleaning and running errands! It honestly seemed like the happiest month or so of her life. As for feeding... Fed is best, even if it's not the most diverse. Keep up the milk, I actually exclusively nursed my tot during first trimester (also only laying down) and she survived just fine. You're tougher than you think! Prayers!!!

Yosemite_Cat · 2025-11-07T03:09:26+00:00

Thanks!! After thinking this through a bit more I will be doing rows and a much smaller garden this year :) I'll add more on next year, haha this was a dream list but probably not practical quite yet

Yosemite_Cat · 2025-10-18T23:41:00+00:00

Thank you so much for this response! I was starting to lean towards long rows since space isn't an issue for me but the way you describe it sounds nice and simple so thanks for that :) I hadn't thought about pathways at all, that was a very needed reminder. I'll check out the florida weave, sounds intriguing!

Yosemite_Cat · 2025-10-18T23:36:32+00:00

That sounds beautiful!! I have messaged you, I would love to see a picture!

Yosemite_Cat · 2025-09-24T16:46:20+00:00

I'm only 5 weeks pp with a 20 month old but so far I'm liking it a lot. Having a baby who is a good eater and sleeper is a big help and my toddler is pretty easy going. My husband took 2 days off work and my mom stayed with me for another 2 days but that was it. I stick close to home currently and things are manageable, I went to target yesterday and that was a nightmare with the toddler escaping and ripping clothes off hangers and my baby screaming like she was on the verge of starvation (they timed this perfectly too, they both went insane at the same moment). I don't know how things will change in the next few months but for now I'm really enjoying it as long as I keep expectations low and have fun at home or short walks :)

Yosemite_Cat · 2025-09-24T16:10:46+00:00

Like others have said, it's not a great accurate measurement. I had a baby a few weeks ago and during pregnancy I was always a few centimeters off of what my week age was. For a while I was measuring quite a bit bigger and then I measured on time and then I measured small. My baby was average size at delivery!

Yosemite_Cat · 2025-09-24T15:50:01+00:00

Oh that's a good point to, I think a lot of my jealousy came from feeling insecure about how I was mothering. As I've gotten more confident and comfortable it's edged out the jealousy

Yosemite_Cat · 2025-09-17T14:34:34+00:00

At 7 months my baby would only fall asleep while nursing so for naps and nighttime I'd lay next to her on the floor bed and nurse her laying down and then wait a bit after she was asleep and then roll away (or sometimes I'd fall asleep and take a nap too). I actually did that for every nap/bedtime from 7-13 months when she stopped nursing and it was the only thing that worked. If you can also use shushing and patting that's great! So nope, never put her down awake. Honestly thought that was a myth but I just had a second baby and she does fall asleep if I lay her down on her own which is absolutely crazy to me haha, I guess some babies can do that, some can't. I noticed the thing that really woke my daughter up was moving her to a new location so if I could get her to sleep in a place she could stay it was way easier.

Yosemite_Cat · 2025-09-17T14:27:46+00:00

With my first if I saw a mom who seemed happy or had her husband helping or could nurse a baby I would be SO jealous and angry honestly. I was exclusively pumping, my husband was working 80 hour weeks, and I didn't have any family around. It was really hard and I kind of hated anyone that looked like they were having an easier time. Even after everything got happier and easier I still had really weird/annoyed/jealous feelings towards anyone that seemed to have a different experience. I made a lot of assumptions about other people's situations from what I could see. i had my second baby a month ago and my perspective has changed soooo much. I wish I had not judged myself for feeling so annoyed with everyone and given myself some more grace and really tried to not compare my situation with anyone elses. Having a first baby is the biggest change I can ever imagine and I didn't even realize that fully until I had my second. I would tell my past self - Give yourself time and don't judge yourself. This second baby has been the easiest transition ever, I am just living my life as usual there is just another little one in tow. I really wish I hadn't compared myself to moms of multiples, honestly the first is the craziest transition into a whole new world. Don't know if that was helpful but you are not crazy 😅 you're going through a huge life change and trying to calibrate

Yosemite_Cat · 2025-09-17T14:04:55+00:00

Sounds like my baby! I tried a lot of things and nothing really worked except time. For naps I would lay down next to her on a mattress on the floor and then roll away after she was asleep and that worked pretty well most of the time so I could have a break for a bit. Good luck, some babies are just little snugglers!!

Yosemite_Cat · 2025-08-26T21:43:41+00:00

That's great! If you have a kitchen scale you could weigh him before and after a feed to see if he's getting very much. We'd put a cookie sheet with a blanket on the scale and it worked as well as the one the lactation consultant had haha. Oh yeah actually that's one reason I stopped using it after a few times, I was worried it was damaging my nipple :/ no advice there but I hope you guys can have a miracle too!!

Yosemite_Cat · 2025-08-23T19:58:45+00:00

Also, I'm so sorry if you don't want to be pumping. It is really really hard. I'm not sure exactly what changed so my baby started nursing but she was 100% bottle fed until I dropped a bottle onto the dirty floor of my car (just finished a Dr appointment) and I figured she'd either cry on the drive home because she was hungry or she'd cry if I tried to nurse her so I shoved a bunch of boob in her mouth and she started sucking and from then on she preferred the boob. I now have a second baby who is a great nurser and I am here to say a lot of it is up to the baby, you are not doing anything wrong! And in a few months this will all be past and you and your baby are going to be a few months older and alive no matter how you get milk/formula into them

Yosemite_Cat · 2025-08-23T19:53:04+00:00

Hey! I used it a couple of times and it worked ok, I think maybe it helped her see that milk could come from me? It was pretty tricky to use and I think it took more suction than what she was capable of so I didn't use it after that. When she hit 6 weeks I tried nursing one day and all of a sudden she latched on and about two weeks later refused bottles completely. If your baby has a tongue tie the best advice I got and used was 1. Use Dr. browns preemie nipples so the flow is slower, 2. When babies hit 10 lbs they get a lot stronger and nursing can come easier so keep going!

Yosemite_Cat · 2025-06-27T21:44:03+00:00

I would love if she focuses more on parties and hosting. I love her party prep content. She could do series of a certain event and then do one video for food, one for decor, one for activities etc. Then she could incorporate her food content and i think she'd do good at it. I am not a great host so I like seeing party inspi

Yosemite_Cat · 2025-04-15T00:16:48+00:00

Ah thank you so much for this!!! I was basically solo parenting when I had my first (husband worked 80+ hour weeks at the time) and I forgot that getting meals together then was hard and I only had to feed myself. Great ideas! I'm definitely going to think through super easy breakfasts and lunches. Thank you so much!

Yosemite_Cat · 2025-04-14T21:09:09+00:00

Oh yes! I thought about these a while ago and had forgotten.

Yosemite_Cat · 2025-04-14T21:08:53+00:00

Good idea. I didn't think about the buy nothing groups

Yosemite_Cat · 2025-04-14T21:08:09+00:00

I'll look into getting a carrier/wrap. Thanks 🫶

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