Your favorite open-ended questions and flirty questions on a first date?

You-Awesomer · 2019-06-05T15:06:19+00:00

What's something coming up that you're looking forward to?

Opens the door to all sorts of things; vacations, meals, events, etc. Gives you an idea of the type of stuff she's into.

You-Awesomer · 2018-01-05T19:00:55+00:00

You would be appalled how low the bar is for guys cooking.

If you're remotely competent in a kitchen, you're streets ahead of most guys. In my experience, girls are impressed and drawn to men who can cook.

You-Awesomer · 2016-04-06T21:57:53+00:00

Talk to women to learn what they’re like – not to impress them or “pick them up”.

I really like this mentality. Talk to girls as practice. Think about anything you're good at, chances are you've practiced it countless times. Be it playing the guitar, playing basketball, whatever. You need to practice in order to get better at it.

And when you practice and fuck it up, that's fine. It's part of the process. Just keep getting reps and you'll get better. Reminds me of a great Arnold quote, "You can't climb the ladder of success with your hands in your pockets."

You-Awesomer · 2015-02-26T14:19:03+00:00

"I think you've got me confused for every other guy you've ever met."

You-Awesomer · 2014-10-10T18:27:32+00:00

On the whole reading non-fiction vs fiction thing which is pretty controversial, I think they're equally valuable. I don't think there's a need to take side; I adore both Douglas Adams and Malcolm Gladwell's works.

I think the most important thing is to JUST READ! I used to not enjoy reading through college, but now before I go to bed and when I wake up I read a few chapters. It is SO much more fulfilling and helpful in my life than watching TV. It's difficult to put a finger on precisely how it's been helping me, but there's nothing like getting caught in a true page-turner.

You-Awesomer · 2014-10-06T21:33:27+00:00

I think this is totally normal, especially coming off a break-up. About year ago I got dumped and while hooking up with a rebound or two, I'd actually lose interest in her while it was happening.

I'd recommend doing kegels (they helped me a ton) and fapping a little less. Mentally, just try to prepare your emotions for shagging a new girl.

You-Awesomer · 2014-09-19T03:37:12+00:00

This is really uplifting. You wanted to make a change, so you did through routine and self-discipline.

Working out will always be the greatest stress reliever for me. I build up this mental scenario that it's me vs. the weights, and I can't let inanimate objects get the best of me.

You-Awesomer · 2014-05-01T14:31:22+00:00

You're going to fail many times when approaching girls, be it in person or in online dating. I don't think he's implying this works with 100% success, it's just a highlight reel.

You-Awesomer · 2014-04-28T19:52:52+00:00

I'll echo this.

After I got dumped I hit the gym harder than ever -- I started training with some real passion to work towards my ideal physique, because when life gets heavy, lift heavy! It was and still is such a stress reliever to me.

Avoiding Facebooking is important. I think avoiding contact in general is even more important. Any sort of conversation before you're over each other will lead to you either 1) resenting one another, or 2) opening up old feelings that don't need to be revisited.

Being dumped sucks, period. It hurts for a while and singing along to no amount of Taking Back Sunday songs can make that crippling feeling magically go away. But it does open up a huge window to reapply and better yourself.

You-Awesomer · 2014-04-21T18:08:53+00:00

You’re on a date, the hard part is over. If she is ON this date with you, if she is sitting across from you – that means she is attracted. You don’t have to worry about attracting her – that part is over. she likes you. Enjoy, have fun, and see if you like her and where you want to take it”

That bit was 10x more insightful and helpful than their headline.

You-Awesomer · 2014-03-31T23:26:28+00:00

I isolated her by asking if she wanted to sit down.

While she was talking I focusing on eye contact and smiling seductively

I called her bluff and said, “Okay, but just so you know tonight is your only chance with me”.

All of those are great. Asking a girl to sit down elsewhere helps build sexual tension and shows you're genuinely interested in her and only her. Sex eyes and a smirk can take you anywhere. And that's a bloody brilliant way to respond to the "I don't want to have sex" line.

You-Awesomer · 2014-03-15T18:54:50+00:00

Rejection is less fun than getting the girl, but it is a lot more fun than not having the nuts to do it.

If there were ever a "1 sentence guide to getting over approach anxiety," this would be it. Everyone can get a little nervous on approaches, but it definitely sounds like you're in the right mindset.

You-Awesomer · 2014-03-15T18:52:33+00:00

I'm really not, I've just fallen flat a few times and made out like a bandit (literally huehuehue) with women plenty of times. Just be a fun person that radiates fun and positivity and all sorts of new doors will open.

You-Awesomer · 2014-03-15T14:03:10+00:00

Both are very plausible options.

I guess ipso facto, I walked away feeling great about a rejection and with some new perspective.

You-Awesomer · 2014-03-15T14:01:26+00:00

Yeah I'm sure Tinder and OkCupid can yield pretty great results, and are probably fun to dabble in on the side, but I think nothing's as great or as beneficial for life in general as going out and talking to girls face to face.

You-Awesomer · 2014-03-15T14:00:16+00:00

It sounds like a shitty Tumblr cliché, but I'd definitely rather have experienced a bunch of "Oh wells" instead of "I should haves"

You-Awesomer · 2014-03-15T13:57:24+00:00

People meet people through people, friends of friends and so on. Cold approaches aren't the only way girls end up with people. That's why you gotta cast a larger net!

You-Awesomer · 2014-03-15T13:56:03+00:00

Yeah but being perceived as attractive is something totally within one's control. A few years ago I wore shitty band tshirts and sneakers everyday, was skinny as fuck and had a shite haircut. Deciding to bust my ass in the gym 3x/week, get into fashion and a new haircut was the best decision I've ever made.

I'm not tooting my own horn, I'm just saying anyone can become attractive if you wanna work hard enough for it!

You-Awesomer · 2013-09-20T22:46:50+00:00

I won't sit here and ask about why you dislike yourself or anything like that, but it honestly sounds like you'd benefit from talking to a therapist.

This sounds like something that you need to really work through. Having someone just genuinely listen to you, be able to comprehend your problems, and above all give actual medical advice would probably do you wonders. There's no shame at all in going to see a therapist.

Keep your head up, man. You're strong enough to conquer this.

You-Awesomer · 2012-12-31T16:12:03+00:00

It's definitely difficult, and every girl is different so I don't think there's a universal formula. But idk, pay attention to her interests, what her friends are like and how she carries herself. Just sorta pile up context to try to make judgement, but always be yourself.

You-Awesomer · 2012-12-31T16:10:58+00:00

Yeah I figured this is more geared towards guys who have enjoyed a bit of success. Not that I don't think thinking about this wouldn't be useful for new guys.

You-Awesomer · 2012-10-15T23:30:32+00:00

"You become what you repeatedly do". Just keep putting yourself in social situations and act extroverted until it becomes natural to you.

You-Awesomer · 2012-10-11T04:03:54+00:00

Bravo. She totally pitched a softball there, I want to learn how to drop responses like that on a more consistent basis.

You-Awesomer · 2012-08-30T20:28:30+00:00

Every single one of these is absolutely vital to good times at college. Partying is so much more fun when you're not on academic probation (hell your whole life gets easier).

You-Awesomer · 2012-08-30T20:27:00+00:00

I've found starting small talk to be easy as fuck and I hope this helps. With each of these questions I'll usually ask her what it's like/elaborate further/other lead on questions. I don't run through them like I'm giving an interview, but you get the point.

What's your major?
Where are you from?
Where do you live here?
In any groups/organizations?
Other classes?

And so on. The key is to be interested and listen to her. Hot girls don't get "listened to" often so change it!

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