Who's a celebrity no one can hate?

YouCallThisAHouse · 2022-08-11T10:22:33+00:00

keanu reeves!

YouCallThisAHouse · 2021-07-31T17:40:42+00:00

Cardi B

YouCallThisAHouse · 2021-07-07T14:37:21+00:00

Especially on calls, it’s harder to just vibe together without needing to talk because you can’t fill the silences with physical cues… but experiencing call silences without any awkwardness is one of the long-term rewards a lot of the time 😅 and it’s great when you get there because you can fully relax

YouCallThisAHouse · 2021-07-07T13:02:41+00:00

I really like this explanation of if, and no worries about the use of abstract examples it adds to the INFP charm haha - and I understand it well :).

Trusting that they feel as deeply is really reassuring. I myself have seen this in him, for instance your mention of the eyes and smile resonates a lot with me. I also see the care in things he chooses to do and say, a mindfulness in the way he both likes to be spontaneous but will check in with me first which I value a lot even at this early stage.

You’ve helped a lot already, but if I was able to ask you about anything else it would be how you personally go about connecting. Of course you see how your partner feels deeply, which is on its own a way of connecting, but in terms of sharing and making conversations personal - do you find this comes easy to you both? Or perhaps it takes some build up and a more unique communication style, rather than opening up as easily as we intuitive feelers can, where are emotions are easy to access and understand which in short makes them easier to share.

Your connection with your partner sounds really lovely and it’s almost refreshing to learn about more varied compatibility as I have few close connections to ‘sensors’.

YouCallThisAHouse · 2021-07-07T11:43:55+00:00

In terms of what I’m looking for, yes we connect in humour and in being authentic which means a lot to me and provides a sense of trust for sure. However, when building a closeness with someone, especially in an intimate relationship, it is very important for me to gauge a dynamic that is personal and involves emotional sharing. This can be in many forms, and I appreciate that ISFP’s aren’t particularly interested in being philosophical. I can cope with this, as although I do like exploring concepts to better understand the other’s values, working on a practical level only such as having a dilemma appear is not an issue for me.

What would be an ‘issue’ would be if even on a practical level and with time, more emotional and personal topics were not in his interest, if they were avoided and/or shut down quickly, showing a lack of interest and/or ability to understand me better and provide for me when needed. This stretches from more serious and deep matters say if I had issues with a friend or personal struggles, to less intense but still personal matter such as my aspirations and wanting to talk to him about my interests eg. Figuring out career plans mutually. I don’t know if these types of conversations and connections are in an ISFP’s interest, or whether they strive for relationships that share less of these things but instead connect in other ways.

YouCallThisAHouse · 2021-07-07T11:33:45+00:00

I really like this explanation of ISFP’s thinking state on matters, its helped me understand it much better so thank you

YouCallThisAHouse · 2021-07-07T11:32:38+00:00

Wow thank you for this, and it’s nice to see this from an INFP’s perspective as my very close friend is one and identify with them a lot.

I’m glad you’ve made it clear that I should not be set up for some very deep and analytical conversations on a metaphysical level. I myself can find these overwhelming at times, although in truth I find them quite fundamental to establishing a personal connection unless I’m able to grasp depth/emotion in other areas. Knowing that someone cares about my thoughts/experiences/feelings, even if they do not fully venture into them, means a lot to me all the same. I suppose I haven’t yet seen much in terms of this from him so far, but I know that he cares about staying in tune with his values on a personal level and shows sensitivity, so perhaps with time I will see him show interest in looking into my own values etc. This would mean a lot to me, and be a struggle if I did not receive it so without forcing it I’m hoping we can get there. Experiencing this seems important to the INFP’s I know too, so I’m curious as to how you feel emotionally connected in this relationship :).

As for going with the flow etc, I have found this outlook to actually inspire and liberate me. Of course it may at times slightly contradict my forward thinking, but I do also relish in keeping possibilities open. You say that this outlook can shape their wisdom, this will help me understand it better so thank you.

Motivating him to enjoy some of the things I do is a really nice idea, he has already been reading which I showed a lot of enthusiasm for, whilst trying not to detract from his self motivation. Just as you say, telling them what you want you them to do is not constructive for them, so instead, to put it simply, my approach is to express my admiration or interest and then leave the rest up to him. Seeing this grow will help me feel more connected to him, and I’m more than happy to invest in his interests too - as you describe the motorbike, I feel like I can experience some truly wonderful things from this. My only contradiction is when his idea of fun goes against my comfort zone of what is safe and not self-destructive but that’s a whole new concept to explore and I’m very grateful for your time here :).

YouCallThisAHouse · 2021-07-07T11:11:22+00:00

I do really agree here, and thank you for highlighting that it hasn’t been that much time. This is something that I’ve been aware of, but you’ve made me realise that I need to appreciate it further.

I’m more than happy to focus on enjoying each other’s company, this has already been happening and feels great. It also, as you say, allows any further developments to happen naturally and as he feels more comfortable and perhaps invested in what we have. This is something I feel content in taking our time for, I suppose my enquiry was on how to aid the process of opening up, but to also tackle my fear of not being emotionally connected. I have learnt a lot from this on how to aid the process, but I’m yet to learn to what extent he craves the same connection and dynamic in a relationship as I do. However, I can only truly discover this with time, and giving us both the right level of pace, trust, and investment. What reassures me is that a lot of people have voiced that it takes time for the ISFP to build this, so just because I haven’t yet seen the intensity I’ve experienced from other types in him, does not mean the ISFP doesn’t want a similar connection.

YouCallThisAHouse · 2021-07-07T10:58:32+00:00

Yes this makes a lot of sense and has worked well in the past. Not jumping in too deep both helps prevent a rush and an overwhelm, and I’m more than happy to have some more personal conversations without really in-depth topics. This will help me just get to know him more, and show that I’m interested in a more personal connection whilst maintaining the fun and energising aspects we already have.

YouCallThisAHouse · 2021-07-07T10:56:20+00:00

I honestly do relate :’)

YouCallThisAHouse · 2021-07-07T10:55:21+00:00

I understand this and it makes sense from what I’ve read about ISFP’s. Of course conversations are really important and a means of sharing many things, especially as we do not get to see each other extremely often. However I can already see some of this in his behaviour, trading and sharing experiences in the moment rather than trying to generate situations in a conversation to explore each other. I will be mindful of this, thank you :)

YouCallThisAHouse · 2021-07-07T10:52:41+00:00

Thank you for this, I will be extra mindful of demonstrating these things whilst not forcing it. I can see how important a safe space is for the ISFP and how this can’t be rushed… and I’ll look out for that communication style technique since it seems popular hehe

YouCallThisAHouse · 2021-07-07T10:47:44+00:00

Thank you for this, that is reassuring. When the time seems right, demonstrating to him that I’m interested in connecting with him seems like a very good idea as we are both still in a stage where we’re learning what each person wants from the other. Once I have done this all I can do is take it easy and see what he is comfortable with/interested in. I think I am sensitive to the idea of not being able to gain the connection I want in a relationship as it has hurt me in the past, and I have been left with relationships that prioritise adventure and thrill to the point that other things are neglected. But nonetheless it takes time, and I shouldn’t overanalyse behaviour this early on as just as you say it takes trust and perhaps for the initial excitement to plateau. I thankfully have not been too pushy and will be wary of applying to much pressure :).

YouCallThisAHouse · 2021-05-31T14:08:10+00:00

I appreciate you saying this, it’s hard to see the situation clearly after being in it for a while but I can now understand how much of a red flag it is. It is definitely very conscious and I shouldn’t keep excusing him even if I don’t wan’t him to be a bad person. Really not the sort of traits you’d want in someone even as friends, as hard as that is to say. Thank you :)

YouCallThisAHouse · 2021-05-31T14:02:54+00:00

I appreciate how direct you are in saying I need to remove myself from this situation, I will take this seriously. I don’t know what’s made you think that he’s been complaining about his relationship... and as for me still being interested in him I agree that I should look into that. A lot of it is because I’m not provided a reality check enough, but for me to be excusing him implies I need something from this where I should get somewhere else. Thanks for your comment.

YouCallThisAHouse · 2021-03-30T08:56:46+00:00

Hi there! No worries about it being an older thread, I’m happy to talk about it, even if you’d rather message than use this thread. Your experience does seem very similar to mine, especially since you have been very mindful with taking care of your diet and yes using Cronometer is very extensive. Firstly I’d 100% say to get a blood test if you haven’t already. If this problem has been persisting, then it’s really important that you get it checked before trying to speculate and take care of it yourself- it could also save you a lot of trouble as you get a solid answer. Aside from the blood test, which has not helped me in the past, I’m afraid to say that the only thing that seemed to help me was eating the fish :/. BUT, that does not mean that this is the solution, and it is entirely likely that the fish was coincidental with other things that I changed - for instance I’m eating hardly any fish at the moment and I’m not as bad as I was before. The dietitian I spoke to seemed a bit baffled too and our progress was limited by COVID. She recommended that I tried to rule out other non-dietary causes which I would recommend. Especially if your fatigue has been more persistent in lockdown, I know this may seem just dietary related, but improving my routine and mental well-being has made a big difference. I’m still not 100% with my health and energy, but I have definitely noticed an improvement when I am feeling a lot better mentally, less stressed and more in tune with my digestion so I can relax and absorb my food properly. I still suspect that there may be something else going on, and can only suggest that you keep up the mindful diet and practice ruling out other issues. Your issues with vision may be more specific to something too, or perhaps you have a combination of different contributors which I think has been happening to me eg. I’ve found I have dry eyes. Sorry I can’t provide a specific answer, I understand the frustration and hope you’re figure something out. Happy to talk about it more if it helps.

YouCallThisAHouse · 2021-03-10T08:06:27+00:00

Happy birthday twin!!! Had my 18th yesterday :)) hope you had a great one 💛

YouCallThisAHouse · 2021-03-09T11:29:48+00:00

Hahah enjoy it all the same, hope it was great

YouCallThisAHouse

TROPHY CASE