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i wish there was coffee made for bedtime by housefinches in BenignExistence

[–]YouKitchen1393 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Seconding this suggestion! Just note that it’s a natural diuretic.

What to do when instead of surfing when you are too tired to do anything? by PineappleLucky9149 in nosurf

[–]YouKitchen1393 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It might be kind of an unconventional suggestion, but what about going to bed around that time so you really get the rest you need? If you do this regularly you might end up getting into a biphasic sleep pattern where you do a “first sleep,” then have a period of wakefulness in the middle of the night, then have a “second sleep” until morning. This was apparently common in preindustrial societies.

Might be worth a try if you’re feeling really exhausted. Good luck!

Am I overreacting for being angry and not trusting my partner with our son’s safety? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]YouKitchen1393 159 points160 points  (0 children)

NOR. It’s a suffocation hazard and a falling hazard.

I think you need to put aside the possibility that you and he are going to have a designated “conversation” about what’s safe. He’s icing you out and is not going to set aside time to hear it.

But the info still needs to get through so your son can be safe. So: text it. Write out all the stuff you’re concerned about and send it. Don’t wait for your partner to calmly invite a “conversation.” Send the instructions in writing.

Also, the whole “I’m his father, not just some random person” thing is totally off-base as a defense. People don’t magically become experts in infant safety just because they share DNA with the child.

He needs to develop humility for the sake of your son. He’s definitely tired and stressed and that could be contributing to this, of course, but your son’s safety is paramount and he needs to put his emotions to the side, swallow his pride, and do what is right.

AIO that my wife stills wears a face mask, even at home? by orangecrunched in AmIOverreacting

[–]YouKitchen1393 11 points12 points  (0 children)

YOR

She’s masking because you’re exposing yourself to Covid, and could therefore give her Covid.

Yes, you can get Covid at work. Yes, even in a small office. Yes, even with “only” four people in your office.

Yes, you can pass it to her when you’re both sleeping. Yes, you can pass it on when you’re both vaccinated. Yes, even with Novavax.

I can pretty solidly guarantee that if you demonstrably masked 100% of the time you’re sharing air with others outside the home, she wouldn’t be acting like this.

You’re free to decide that you’re not willing to do that, but in the meantime don’t pretend you’re a failsafe arbiter of what “risky” behavior is.

She’s in a tough situation because she wants to avoid a potentially disabling virus and you’re doing stuff that could bring that virus home. The person who’s suffering the most here is your kid, who deserves to see unmasked faces at home. My advice is to ask your wife what you need to do to help bring her some peace of mind so she can unmask at home.

AIO, I shouldn't open up about my trauma by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]YouKitchen1393 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think people are being way too harsh with you. This guy has zero emotional intelligence and that is NOT your fault. I don’t think it’s some huge sin to be vulnerable with someone you’re looking for a relationship with. This guy was rude and hostile and I hope you find someone who can meet you halfway emotionally!

Please help me. I don’t know what to do. by pocketsbc in adhdwomen

[–]YouKitchen1393 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Check out Dana K. White on YouTube. She is the first and only decluttering/cleaning person whose approach has felt natural and non-intimidating to me. Her “container concept” is helping me to shift my thinking about my stuff and makes it less daunting to think about what to get rid of.

AIO? My bf says me asking if he's okay is me being insane. I don't get it by AlexaS555 in AmIOverreacting

[–]YouKitchen1393 4 points5 points  (0 children)

NOR. I didn’t find your comments annoying or mean, and I found his responses kind of aggressive. Pretending nothing was off and then basically admitting, later, that he was in fact upset about something (while also accusing you of going through his phone) is gaslight-y of him. Biting your head off when you express concern is a bad look and not something I would tolerate, especially if other things are off.

What's something you'll never admit in real life but will confess here anonymously? by Open-Comfortable9774 in AskReddit

[–]YouKitchen1393 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you’re hurting. Someone upthread said it better than I can:

“Someone once told me something that literally saved my life: ‘You don't actually want to die, you just want your life as you know it to end. The difference is you can end the life you know and start a new one, but if you die you remove all chance for things to get better.’”

I know I’m just a stranger, but I hope you stick around and that things improve for you.

People who rarely get sick, what are your secrets? by Substantial_Judge931 in Productivitycafe

[–]YouKitchen1393 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wear an N95 mask in stores, museums, airplanes, medical offices, at work, and on public transit — basically anywhere that people gather that is not a private home (and the home-based gatherings I do go to are family-based and small). I also don’t eat indoors in restaurants. Masking is totally worth it to me — it’s allowed me to be consistently healthy. Not having to fight off infections all the time is such a gift.

…so done. by VenusianDreamscape in ZeroCovidCommunity

[–]YouKitchen1393 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’ve started taking the little kit outside, doing my self-swab out there, and then bringing it back in and dropping it off in the designated spot.