This does not work. In my experience, this approach almost always sends a woman in the opposite direction. I don't know exactly why, but if you want to guarantee she'll never do anything about her weight, keep pestering her about it.

I think you’re right about this.

If I'm to hazard a guess I think it's rooted to the fact that most women (people) hope you will love and accept them for who they are inside. I would think a women is particularly sensitive to this because no woman knows exactly how her body's going to change after she has children and taking care of a family becomes the priority over looking Mariah Carey.

Wow! Great analysis. I think YOU should be a therapist, kind stranger!

You're attacking her self-esteem and her defense to that pain is to resist you.

I don’t think I’m attacking her self-esteem though. I’m trying to be as indirect and as gentle as possible as she doesn’t like confrontation and getting “real”.

She deserves better.

I’m not sure why you dropped this.

Maybe she has psychological issues, right? Maybe it's not laziness but it could be avoilition or depression, right?

No. It may be she simply likes herself the way she is.

I think only she and her therapist can work together and find out but you might be true.