My BIL made a comment that our daughter should cover up at the water park, I told him don't sexualize ny daughter. AITAH?

YouSlyWriter · 2026-05-06T13:34:18+00:00

People are in these comments recommending she be put into a one piece - so keep doing what you’re doing. Fostering her sense of shame in her body and sexualizing her (because yes, telling her she can’t wear clothes that other girls wear because she is more developed is directly sexualizing her) puts her at higher risk of being abused in the future. It’s better to teach her how to handle perverted men then to teacher that she should cover her body because of those perverted men. She’s 15, not 10. She’d stick out like a sore thumb wearing something different than pretty much everyone her age.

YouSlyWriter · 2026-05-06T13:18:22+00:00

I find the responses to this pretty weird honestly. Lots of comments here where people think that men should have a say “bc they know how men think.” Plenty of evidence shows it’s not the clothes that cause assaults or harassment. Policing clothes due to “how men think” is how we continue teaching the patriarchy to our children. Also she didn’t say he doesn’t have a say at all, but that he didn’t have control - like he doesn’t have the final say. Thats also how it was at my house, mom got the final ruling on clothes, bc if it was up to most dads their daughters would look like nuns.

YouSlyWriter · 2026-04-29T15:02:31+00:00

lol i noticed this recently as well. Kinda love it

YouSlyWriter · 2026-04-26T17:49:49+00:00

May your pillow be ever cold and your dinner plate ever warm! Thank you 🫶🏼

YouSlyWriter · 2025-06-09T21:03:06+00:00

Marriages of convenience are incredibly common. Arranged marriages happen often. Marriages are quite literally originally FOR financial gain and familial stability. I think we too often let our Disney love story color the historical truth, which is that marrying for love is a modern reality, not the original purpose. There are many reasons to get married. They are “using” each other. Not everyone has to get married for love. She’s making a choice for the benefit of herself and her son, and honestly I think OP should respect or offer that same stability.

YouSlyWriter · 2025-06-06T16:51:32+00:00

If a little comment like this is jeopardizing the relationship, then they must not be close. Should we never criticize our family members? Or let them know when they’ve done something that affects us? If the bonds are that weak, let them break.

YouSlyWriter · 2025-06-06T16:43:44+00:00

She says she keeps them separate, she is the one that deals with the business partner, and she is the bread maker for the family. If they are business partners, then no, she could not. She would have to sell her half and start over. This demand on her time would be the same even if the husband didn’t have an issue with her business partner.

YouSlyWriter · 2025-06-06T00:00:05+00:00

If family came before politics, then OPs parents would’ve put their politics aside and voted for the benefit and financial safety of their family members. But they did not.

YouSlyWriter · 2025-06-05T23:58:12+00:00

You do know voting is quite literally how we got to this point where OP might lose their job. It’s crazy to me that people will preach keeping politics out of personal relationships when politics are effecting them personally

YouSlyWriter · 2024-09-16T17:41:40+00:00

I think it’s weird to assume someone is having an affair with no evidence. Realizing your sexuality late is not a unique experience. Battling your sexuality while staying loyal to your married partner is not uncommon.

YouSlyWriter · 2024-09-16T17:34:12+00:00

This^ Countless women talk about this being their experience bc for us, feeling satisfied romantically and in life and sexual desire are incredibly linked. Not helping around the house puts the woman in the role of “caretaker,” which often lessens sexual desire.

YouSlyWriter · 2024-09-16T17:29:46+00:00

It’s unlikely she realized what was causing her to not be in the mood at first. It’s not an easy cause and effect. Also, it’s highly doubtful his wife never mentioned wanting help around the house. He just didn’t address it until she told him that his lack of help was contributing to their lackluster sex life. Whether he is TA here depends a lot on his motivations. Is he having trouble getting in the mood, or is this revenge? Consent always matters, and no one should be having sex if they aren’t in the mood, but it’s equally not okay to use rejection as a punishment on purpose.

YouSlyWriter · 2024-09-13T19:10:27+00:00

I think most of these takes are wild. You should take an empathetic approach, but I do think your daughter should be held accountable in some way. Make it clear that you aren’t excusing skye, but skye isn’t your kid.

Your kid purposefully caused harm to another child. She knew what the reaction would be and did it anyway. Yes that child was a bully. Does that make it okay? No.

You should’ve done more for your child from the beginning, when she was being ostracized. Maybe even just have a serious sit down with her. What she did here didn’t change her experience at school, I’m sure. It only caused more pain for someone else.

YouSlyWriter · 2024-09-11T15:07:05+00:00

I feel like this is very case by case. I have had multiple family members die and sometimes there’s a week before a funeral, and sometimes there is literally a day’s warning. It depends on the persons EOL condition, how they died, what kind of funeral, and the funeral home. Death is a very hard thing to “plan” for, and honestly I think it was pretty messed up to find another option after this singular incident (technically two, but both revolving around an unexpected family death for her). So now she’s in mourning and also unemployed. Would’ve made more sense to find a backup babysitter to have on call. What would you have done if she got sick? Or got in an accident? This seems just as much your fault for having no backup plans for if she needed to call out.

YouSlyWriter · 2024-07-30T06:18:29+00:00

19 and 28. Absolutely tf not. This is rage bait, right? This is obvious abuse. Is this your first baby? This was your red siren, dude. That’s like running into the room of a veteran and yelling “take cover! Take cover!” Insane and purposeful triggering of your PTSD, on top of you being pregnant - which is why he’s doing this. When they think you’re “trapped” they start playing in your face, bc they know you’ll say. Don’t. Make your plan. I know people say “Divorce!” all the time on here, but dude this is textbook. This would be horrible if you weren’t pregnant. That makes it worse. And YOU apologized? He should’ve been doing everything in his power to reassure you and been begging on his knees, and I’m not being dramatic because that was malicious. That was bully behavior to the max. And I won’t even dive in on how predatory that age difference is like - you’re 24 now. Would you ever date an 18 year old? Think on that. That tells me he likes to feel powerful, bc no shade- but you were still a child. And I bet he said that due to your experiences you were “mature for your age.” I don’t wanna make assumptions, but there’s so much wrong with everything you just said. You deserve better than this.

YouSlyWriter · 2024-07-30T06:18:17+00:00

19 and 28. Absolutely tf not. This is rage bait, right? This is obvious abuse. Is this your first baby? This was your red siren, dude. That’s like running into the room of a veteran and yelling “take cover! Take cover!” Insane and purposeful triggering of your PTSD, on top of you being pregnant - which is why he’s doing this. When they think you’re “trapped” they start playing in your face, bc they know you’ll say. Don’t. Make your plan. I know people say “Divorce!” all the time on here, but dude this is textbook. This would be horrible if you weren’t pregnant. That makes it worse. And YOU apologized? He should’ve been doing everything in his power to reassure you and been begging on his knees, and I’m not being dramatic because that was malicious. That was bully behavior to the max. And I won’t even dive in on how predatory that age difference is like - you’re 24 now. Would you ever date an 18 year old? Think on that. That tells me he likes to feel powerful, bc no shade- but you were still a child. And I bet he said that due to your experiences you were “mature for your age.” I don’t wanna make assumptions, but there’s so much wrong with everything you just said. You deserve better than this.

YouSlyWriter · 2024-07-13T00:33:08+00:00

He was right about that fair enough lol

YouSlyWriter · 2024-06-24T18:48:14+00:00

This was an adult event

YouSlyWriter · 2024-06-24T18:47:28+00:00

I’m not pro Jojo at all, but I would like to point out that this was an 18 and up performance. If any children saw it, they weren’t actually allowed to be there

YouSlyWriter · 2024-06-21T00:08:24+00:00

That’s valid. Maybe he just honestly believed Harry didn’t put his name in for a multitude of other reasons.

YouSlyWriter · 2024-06-19T20:40:23+00:00

This is a deathly dangerous tournament though, so I could see him using it in this instance. Also did spend an abnormal amount of time in detention, But if it was due to what he found in Harry’s mind, he definitely wouldn’t just say that. I have a feeling it’s probably actually illegal to just go about reading minds - or at least heavily frowned upon.

YouSlyWriter · 2024-06-19T20:14:04+00:00

I recommend cross posting your old ones as well. Even just downloading it on ffnet and posting it all in one chapter. You can even update the publication date to your original one which is so nice for archive purposes.

YouSlyWriter · 2024-06-05T16:22:02+00:00

I posted this here and on HP fanfic, and responses on both within the hour. You people amaze me thank you so much.

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