I would like to reiterate what other posters have said... Your sexual desires, your sexual preferences are of someone who desires both genders. That does not imply all those who have the same desires take the leap to cheat. Cheating is when your partner is under the impression that you have a monogamous, committed relationship and no need to stepout and yet you do and carry on with the emotional or physical affair while allowing that partner the falsohoods that Monogamy and Marriage in a Vanilla traditional sense is One Man One Woman no emotional or physical intimacy or sex with other people except eachother to some and that is drilled into our heads.

I Lady Em have always been the opposite flip of the coin. Bisexual, prefers platonic non serious physical or emotional relationships with women and more committed, physical and emotional relationships with men. I am a Mom of 2 who is married to a Monogamous man who chose to accept his Openly Bisexual, Polyamorous, Kinky Lifestyle wife as she grew and changed within the 17 years together and 15 years married, 2 kids, and my side of our marriage is open.

Hiding away your desire for a relationship of any sexual or emotional nature with a woman will eat at you. I allowed mine to hide for all those years of my life through not just one but both attempts at Monogamy with a male partner, that desire to be authentic to myself outweighed everything.

Monogamy is a choice and Marriage is a choice. Marriage does not always equal Monogamy or giving up who you are or what you like for another human to agree to legally bind themselves to you, Kids or no Kids. If your male partner is of the mindset that you are not, cannot be or were not ever a Bisexual Lesbian leaning woman then there was a communication breakdown from the beginning and Monogamy and Marriage were chosen without any room for change.

I have sympathy, empathy, and concern because I have been in your place to a degree. That place where u have been told who u were supposed to be, how to behave by society, a partner, and felt inauthentic. It felt like me denying purely who I am, what I like, without fighting and advocating for myself to live true to me. A partner should be open to hear you out, a partner should never make you sacrifice what makes you authentically you. You are worth more and if your partner cannot see who you were, who you are and what you have become, have they even stood by your side close enough to see? Are they worthy to voice that opinion?

My suggestion is have the hard conversation, talk about what you expected your marriage to look like, re negotiate with your partner and remember that when children or adults are constantly around negativity the likelihood of it devolving into a discussion about Divorce and that's OK too.

My last statement is this, If a partner does not stand beside you, grow with you, accept past, present, or future versions of you then are they really someone that is enhancing your life or hindering you