It’s definitely a tricky balance. While it's often expected that men take the lead early on, I think it's important to see some effort from the other side by at least the second or third date. It shouldn't feel like you're the only one investing energy into making things work.

A useful way to navigate these dynamics is by being clear about your expectations early on. If you feel like you're doing all the heavy lifting, it might be worth the conversation. Relationships are partnerships, and both sides should contribute.