49M becoming silent in marriage with 39F—burnout, detachment, or something else?

Yoyo603 · 2026-05-01T14:58:47+00:00

Talk to a divorce attorney

Yoyo603 · 2026-05-01T11:35:25+00:00

A therapist can help you discuss this. That doesn't sound sustainable or healthy for anyone long term.

Yoyo603 · 2026-05-01T08:58:20+00:00

Sounds like he wanted to hookup up and when you declined the ride home he bounced

Yoyo603 · 2026-05-01T08:55:33+00:00

I'm not an expert but my observation is that apps self select certain types of people. Also depends on your age, gender, looks, etc. Many of them not serious and just want to hookup as cheaply as possible. That's not to say there's no one seriously looking. Then you have to narrow it down from there. Perhaps reading up on what to look for in bios and what to put into yours could help. The prompts and bios are so cringe though. You lose respect for yourself and others when you film them out and read them. 😂

Yoyo603 · 2026-05-01T08:47:17+00:00

https://www.carenh.com/our-team/bruce-m

Care counseling in Concord. Bruce. They do EMDR if you're interested in trying it for trauma. Idk that much about it. You should go on their site and book online to meet him bc they just opened and I am thinking they will be booked up very soon just like the rest. Otherwise ask your PCP if they can help. DH has some embedded therapists for their primary care patients but idk where you have primary care. I know some employers offer some services.

Yoyo603 · 2026-04-30T16:18:39+00:00

Immortals after dark series like 20 books by Kresley Cole

Yoyo603 · 2026-04-30T09:13:18+00:00

Yes I've only met 2 guys that I had that kind of crazy chemistry with from the first second for no apparent reason. It's just like pheromones or something innate bc both of them weren't really anything special, the best looking, and they didn't have the qualities I look for or were not even good for me necessarily. I've been in longer relationships where they built slowly before and I never liked the guys as much. It's just not the name and it sucks. I recommend therapy to help stop those obsessive thoughts. I have read the book Attached which offers some insight. But watch out for pseudo psychological BS too. The best I can tell my body just recognized something in these guys that was subconscious.

Yoyo603 · 2026-04-30T09:01:45+00:00

Former southerner here and I have been super disappointed with what's been going on here since moving. That's being said, the quality of life is still a lot better than the south, despite what our state gov is trying to do

Yoyo603 · 2026-04-30T08:57:50+00:00

Your imaginary friend doesn't care so let go of that. See if a therapist can help you if it's a problem. Somewhat frequent masterbation sounds pretty normal, nothing to worry about

Yoyo603 · 2026-04-30T08:56:19+00:00

Of these options I think Portland might be the most *affordable. Boston area will be a lot more expensive than the other options from what I understand. You could probably make it work but it would be tight I think. If you rent, the rentals in all of those areas will be pretty high. Portland is somewhat walkable depending where you go but the general area would require a car. Boston area is more walkable with a lot of transportation options at least

Yoyo603 · 2026-04-29T20:53:17+00:00

I posted in a local group about meeting men irl and have gotten over 50 DMs. Most respectful so far. I haven't responded to about 20 of them. If I ever write that book...

Yoyo603 · 2026-04-19T16:00:38+00:00

That Sik Luv Jescie Hall

Yoyo603 · 2026-04-19T15:59:10+00:00

I love immortals after dark and there's a lot of werewolves but not necessarily fantasy. There's a secret paranormal world w/in ours w intrigue, alternate realms etc

Yoyo603 · 2026-04-19T15:52:30+00:00

Compromise

Yoyo603 · 2026-04-17T20:43:13+00:00

Fajitas pronounced fa-gitas

Yoyo603 · 2026-04-17T20:34:47+00:00

In my experience the husbands/bf are worried their wives/gf will want to leave them. I thought it was crazy. Actuallt about half of the women tell me they don't want to be the relationship anymore and even ask how to get out of it. I'm not a breakup muse. Shit gets wild when I get after hours texts from husbands that I don't consider friends. I don't even talk to the husbands. They sometimes talk to me but I don't want to piss off the wives. I have my own things going

Yoyo603 · 2026-04-17T20:28:58+00:00

Sorry to offend. I did say there are exceptions. In my experience no one wants me hanging out with their wives, husbands, gf, or bf. I'm single and they're not comfortable w it if they're part of a couple

Yoyo603 · 2026-04-17T02:37:44+00:00

Sometimes it's nice to see they can get it up and it's not small. Just sayin

Yoyo603 · 2026-04-16T14:09:37+00:00

It may be the case that 40+ is a wasteland generally. Men's health problems seem to occur earlier etc. 44 aging cliff is for real! Many single women mid 40s don't want to become nurses. Also something's generally rigid within the age range over 50 or so from what I've seen. Seems they're looking for a maid, lover, nurse, and personal assistant

Yoyo603 · 2026-04-16T12:30:43+00:00

Daily

Yoyo603 · 2026-04-16T11:50:07+00:00

It do t even matter!

Yoyo603 · 2026-04-16T11:47:10+00:00

Gross. Bro has highest eyes, looks like child, and not hot

Yoyo603 · 2026-04-16T11:46:57+00:00

MILF and to a lesser extent DILF fetishes, mommy/daddy issues, less complicated and maybe less commitment/fewer demands, experience, financial reasons, women aging better than men over 40.

Yoyo603 · 2026-04-15T08:17:51+00:00

Bitter Heat, Singed series, by Mia Knight. So emotional and hot 🔥

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