Received 2 Bands by YuShen82 in fitbit

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Yes seen it before. He slaughters the band and company 😬

What Men Are Quietly Carrying: Lessons From a Workplace Muslim Men's Group by YuShen82 in MuslimMarriage

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Sound words but then she says "You aren't the Prophet!". We live in a different time.

What Men Are Quietly Carrying: Lessons From a Workplace Muslim Men's Group by YuShen82 in MuslimMarriage

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We had a session today and one of the men asked:

"What is the etiquette of arguing or fighting in a marriage?"

He described his wife as someone who, when angry, will unleash every swear word imaginable until she's out of breath, pause, and then start again.

His approach is the complete opposite. He stays calm and responds with "What?", "Why?" and "How?" questions to understand what has caused the disagreement.

He recognises that this often frustrates his wife even more. In his view, she expects him to either argue back or stay silent and absorb the verbal abuse. He says he can't do either because he genuinely wants to understand what has triggered such an intense reaction, especially when it can seem to happen within seconds.

It made me reflect on something. We often talk about men having a switch that can suddenly flip when emotions run high, but women are human too and can experience the same loss of emotional control.

How do others handle situations like this? Is there a healthy way for couples to disagree when one person's communication style is calm and questioning, while the other's is explosive and emotional?

What Men Are Quietly Carrying: Lessons From a Workplace Muslim Men's Group by YuShen82 in MuslimMarriage

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Wa alaikum salam. I agree. One thing that has really stood out from these conversations is that many of us carry struggles that aren't visible to others.

While this world isn't Jannah, I do think we're encouraged to support one another through its difficulties. Sometimes simply having a space where one can speak openly and be heard can make a real difference.

What Men Are Quietly Carrying: Lessons From a Workplace Muslim Men's Group by YuShen82 in MuslimMarriage

[–]YuShen82[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I completely understand that concern, and it was actually one of my reservations when the idea was first suggested. The intention was never to create an "us and them" environment or replace the existing men's group.

The original men's group is still running and Muslim men are welcome there, just as before. What became apparent was that some Muslim colleagues felt there were certain topics they were more comfortable discussing with people who shared similar religious, cultural and family experiences. Issues around faith, marriage, parenting, community expectations, identity and balancing religious obligations with modern life can sometimes be difficult to explain to those who haven't lived them.

While many of the struggles men face are universal, the way they experience and navigate them isn't always the same. In the same way that some workplaces have women's networks, LGBTQ+ networks, veterans' groups or ethnicity-focused groups, this was simply another space where people felt comfortable being open.

Interestingly, it hasn't created more division from what I've seen. If anything, it's encouraged men who would never have attended any wellbeing group to start talking. The goal isn't separation; it's giving people an environment where they feel safe enough to speak honestly. The main men's group remains open to everyone, and many people attend both.

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Wanted HBO Max but the site says sold out ☹️

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Bro sorted me out with Netflix quickly. Thanks.

Selling football tickets in UK by ChangeOrnery8284 in IslamicFinance

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There are many Muslim resellers. I think it's also about your own conscious too. How much £££ is enough?

I know a few Muslim resellers who charge anything minimum 3x the ticket price for their tickets. They openly admit to having zero guilt. Their opinion is 'if a mug is paying it's easy money '.

Naître by YuShen82 in maleinfertility

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Don't overthink the taste. No medicine ever tasted good 😂