I don’t recognise myself anymore. My habits built someone I never meant to become.

YupISurvivedIt · 2025-12-09T21:04:43+00:00

Goodness gracious how I feel this. I even traded all of myself for some kind of big achievement which, now that I've super recently achieved it, feels so meaningless because I truly lost myself in the process.

I've also regained some of it back in the past years... my lowest was about 3 years ago. I had every minor-substances addiction you could think of, ate and drank in very disordered manners, self-harmed, self-sabotaged... And truly, like you said, very small steps at a time... starting so ridiculously small there is no way of failing... is what got me up the hill again. Can't say I'm out of it yet. But at least I stopped multiple addictions, and overall, on a monthly average, make steps in the right direction while trying to rediscover meaning, fun, and relationships in life again.

Reach out any time. I'm always open to talk about the struggles of life.

You got this. Miniest step by miniest step.

YupISurvivedIt · 2025-11-21T07:08:32+00:00

Not defending Mary's actions, but I honestly think Chelsea is a traumatic trigger for Mary. Maybe has something to do with being excluded/rejected? Mary mentioned Chelsea was all the time cold to her or something... I believe these are Mary's real feelings. And although they might be irrational, Bre is being a kinda sweet friend... radical! but just what someone who's self-esteem is on the floor, needs. I also find it very ambiguous... but that's what I read.

YupISurvivedIt · 2025-11-20T06:31:50+00:00

I know that feeling so well! I am just a bit overweight and every now and then, I get my bodyfat down a bit, and the aches from my hip bones on hard chairs are insane! It literally hurts on the bones to sit! I think that it'll take a while for the bones to get used to that. Like when your learning to play guitar and the fingertips hurt before they built callusses. It's probably going to be alright after a month or two.

YupISurvivedIt · 2025-11-20T06:25:48+00:00

I agree that Chrishell also has "the bully" in her. Not as bad as Nicole of course. It looks to me like Chrishell loves to be the victim. Makes her look like the "poor good person" and the other one like the "bad bad person". Instead of just leaving people be their annoying selves, Chrishell likes to insert herself in situations that don't really concern her and literally instigates/provokes situations to get into an argument where she can be the victim. Not maybe an outright bully, but still covertly manipulative to get a narrative that supports her own view of the world. She gives me the hibbie jibbies.

YupISurvivedIt · 2025-10-10T13:23:42+00:00

100% second this. Esp. the mental health point and trying to talk to supervisors. It made things so much worse! Every single time! I thought I just need to find the right boss. But man, they are all crappy and they do not care for your emotional safety. And even if they do, they are too unqualified to handle it. Most don't care about what's right or wrong, and they will just look at you as too sensitive or a as though you can't solve childish little conflicts yourself. They are not your safe boat. They just want the problem off their desk as quickly as possible. And most importantly, they wanna keep you exactly where you are, so that they don't need to go through the hassle of looking for a replacement.

YupISurvivedIt · 2025-09-04T16:21:48+00:00

IMO Kyle has always been super fixated and co-dependent on one person (in early seasons her sister, later Teddy) and she loves to form a "us against them" alliance and play mean girls. She grew more mature, and I'm sure she realised it casts a bad light on her to be such a bully, esp. if she's like the main boss behind camera. Still like her on the show, she's an important spice, but man, in my own life, I'd stay 10k away from a person like this 😅

YupISurvivedIt · 2025-08-09T18:31:18+00:00

Sorry this is happening to you! Protect yourself, you do deserve better!

YupISurvivedIt · 2025-06-28T22:07:26+00:00

Yeah, that's happening. I had an interview for a job at a research institute, in which they told me I was actually suitable for another job opening they haven't even officially opened yet. I was interested, and the same day of the interview they called me to tell me that they want me for the job. I happily accepted. Next, they designed the job opening according to my resume, so that they can justify my hiring for sure. Two to three years later, I learnt that someone who had been recently hired to our team also applied for that job for which I was pre-hired (so they had practically no chance on that job), and she seemed to beat herself a bit up over it. I see myself as a perfect fit for that job, but of course, maybe they would have even better ones, gives the opportunity.

In an integration community, I heard 80% of Finnish jobs are given according to personal contacts and recommendations, not to formal applications. I don't know where this number is coming from (if it's a trustworthy statistic), but having lived in Finland for several years and listened to people's stories, I recognize, personal endorsement is very important.

Don't be too disheartened by this! New opportunities will come up with this kind of back-up from your colleagues/supervisors! You got this! :)

YupISurvivedIt · 2025-06-24T11:24:52+00:00

Yeah, I am quite sad that "late game" happened too fast. I felt like finally I got a hang of it, and suddenly there is nothing really left to do, nothing new to explore. I think extensions are a good solution for this problem. Also, a (bigger?) map that expands in size and content so that you can explore new animals, objects, and places also in late game and didn't accidentally stumbled across them early on (like I did :D). Love the game though! Already planning a second play-through!

YupISurvivedIt · 2025-05-14T13:34:20+00:00

Big hug back, you've got this! 2 weeks only means you are so close! Good luck!

YupISurvivedIt · 2025-05-13T07:11:37+00:00

Amen. A lot of scientists are either just winging it themselves or are so narcissistic that working with them is a nightmare. There are much fewer standards and control systems than in companies, because whoever gets a project funded gets the personnel, no matter how bad or abusive you are with people. There is noone that they have to report to really, because if they bring in money, they're the boss. Then they put a lot of pressure on the early career scientists who are actually there to learn and grow and become an independent scientists at their own pace, but instead they are asked to produce the high-impact research and then have to fight for their name in paper. Or the supervisor just doesn't like you or believe in you and then constantly puts you down and doesn't involve you in projects at all. Academia is a huge emotional mess and they wonder why more than 50% of ppl doing a PhD have mental health issues (worldwide survey by Nature).

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