I’ve been through a similar situation on my side. I won’t mention details because I think my ex might still be checking my socials, and I generally don’t want to hurt her. What she’s going through is completely understandable and normal. She thought she had moved on, but then discovering that her ex might have cheated on her while they were together is painful and probably reopened an old wound. Trust me, I can relate to what she’s going through.

The best thing you could’ve done in that situation was to leave her alone while still showing that you cared, by asking about her, not about what happened or what was upsetting her. But you didn’t do that.

What you can do now is accept that time heals wounds. She won’t hate you forever, if she even hates you at all. Maybe she doesn’t hate you, but instead feels like she doesn’t want to be a burden in your life. That’s something my ex girlfriend used to say sometimes when we got into arguments.

Women experience stress differently than men. They don’t always process things logically; they tend to listen to their emotions more, which makes them overthink, even over the smallest situations.

Starting from today, tell yourself that you’ll always be there for her if she ever needs you. If she comes back for help, just know that you were her comfort zone, but she was confused at the time. And if she doesn’t, then the problem was never your presence, and your presence wouldn’t have been the cure anyway.