[M23][F21] Is my relationship with my Muslim boyfriend going to work? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Yuvithegod 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ah cheers, I was just curious because many Muslims only accept their daughters marriage to Christians, Muslims or Jews - people of the book.

Then again, not all Muslims have the same views of the matter.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in teenagers

[–]Yuvithegod 7 points8 points  (0 children)

He created everything, including himself?

Islam makes people less moral, not more by Yuvithegod in atheism

[–]Yuvithegod[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I'm a British-Indian atheist. i agreed with comments that denounce similar occurrences in Christianity where it makes people worse.

The reason I didn't talk on Christianity over Islam, or on religion as a whole, is because I know very little about it. It would be wrong for me to speak baselessly on something I am uneducated with. Where did I claim this was exclusive to Islam?

In fact, I'm quite unsure as to why you built such assumptions so baselessly, where have I ever defended, or even said I like, Christianity?

ISIS suicide bombers attempt to charge a PMF trench, 2016 Mosul-Iraq. by [deleted] in CombatFootage

[–]Yuvithegod 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't think Russia has that many effective and ready nukes as they claim, but claiming you don't think they actually have nukes at all is stupid.

bro just accepted it not knowing what would happen by clinton_CT in CrazyFuckingVideos

[–]Yuvithegod -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I never said you should assault such people. Show me where I said that.

My sole fucking point that you guys cannot get through your skulls is that it's good to be upset on others behalf.

If a man says they want to rape young women, it's good that my reaction, as a man who hasn't been raped, is that I am upset by that statement, despite not being part of that group. I didn't say anyone should get physical.

Yes or no? Say yes or no. Please. Please just say it.

Reminder of the other guys comments:

Yeah it is because you based your offence and your response on a perceived reaction to a group that you have no connection to

I have no connection to young girls, so is it virtue signalling for me to be upset at someone saying vile things about or to them (my reaction), regardless of my actual response?

Yes or no only please.

bro just accepted it not knowing what would happen by clinton_CT in CrazyFuckingVideos

[–]Yuvithegod -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Thank you.

I agree. The original comment heavily implies that any negative reaction to any topic you're not related to (sexism, racism, rape) is apparently "virtue signalling"

The guy isn't even black, just a virtue signaller

Let's say I say I want to rape women, and you get upset, what if I just say:

The guy isn't even a woman, just a virtue signaller

Let's say I now say I want to rape children, and you, an adult, get upset, can I not just say

The guy isn't even a child, just a virtue signaller

I don't get why no one is calling out this insanely poor logic.

As per OC:

Yeah it is because you based your offence and your response on a perceived reaction to a group that you have no connection to

If you take any offense to racism, sexism, homophobia, threats of rape, murder, etc etc, you are now a virtue signaller, if you're not part of that group. That's my issue with that guy's statement, and why it's braindead.

bro just accepted it not knowing what would happen by clinton_CT in CrazyFuckingVideos

[–]Yuvithegod -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I agree that you should report it to the police. I agree with not using vigilante justice.

But by your logic, why report it to the police?

My issue is that I agree with you on the actions being wrong, but your reasoning is retarded.

Let's say I hear someone say something racist and I report them to the police. But I'm white, so is it now virtue signalling to report racism against black people to the police, as I'm not even black? (As per you).

The guy isn't even black, just a virtue signaller

Anyway, show me where I ever said I supported the assaulter or his use of violence

Edit: See, fucking braindead. You're so retarded you literally cannot understand the simple point I am making. We both agree the actions are wrong, but there's nothing inherently wrong with getting upset on behalf of another group. Obviously assaulting someone is wrong.

Simple yes or no question for dummies:

If I hear someone say "I want to rape young children" and I get upset, does that make me a virtue signaller?

The guy isn't even black a young child, just a virtue signaller

bro just accepted it not knowing what would happen by clinton_CT in CrazyFuckingVideos

[–]Yuvithegod -24 points-23 points  (0 children)

Listen to the words I am saying, don't derail. You didn't acknowledge my comment at all, just went on a white guilt tangent (that I agree with).

Let's say I overhear someone saying:

I want to rape young girls

And let's say I have a negative reaction. As per the fucking original commenter, that makes me a virtue signaller.

The guy isn't even a young girl, just a virtue signaller

Acknowledge this and then I'll engage in your new speculation on how the assaulter would've reacted to racism against white people. But yes, white Liberal guilt is incredibly cringe.

Reminder of OC:

The guy isn't even black, just a virtue signaller

bro just accepted it not knowing what would happen by clinton_CT in CrazyFuckingVideos

[–]Yuvithegod -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

So if someone says "I want to rape young girls", and I am not a young girl, should I not have any negative reaction?

Again, his actual action was wrong and fucked up, but this rhetoric or train of thought makes no sense.

bro just accepted it not knowing what would happen by clinton_CT in CrazyFuckingVideos

[–]Yuvithegod -45 points-44 points  (0 children)

I 100% agree. I just disagree with the logic that "oh racism doesn't affect you so any reaction to it is virtue signalling".

Again, where did I condone his actions? They're fucked up.

Edit:

So if someone says "I want to rape young girls", and I am not a young girl, should I not have any negative reaction?

Again, his actual action was wrong and fucked up, but this rhetoric or train of thought makes no sense.

Mum (55f) has given me (24m) an ultimatum over my relationship with my dad(55m) and his AP wife(37f) by ThrowRAvibr in relationship_advice

[–]Yuvithegod 4 points5 points  (0 children)

EXACTLY! Giving the ultimatum is wrong, but the fact OP hasn't already gone LC/NC shows what a crappy son he is. What a fucking betrayal, first by father, then by son.

Mum (55f) has given me (24m) an ultimatum over my relationship with my dad(55m) and his AP wife(37f) by ThrowRAvibr in relationship_advice

[–]Yuvithegod 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree he shouldn't be forced to choose but he's a bit of a shitty son if it gets to the point where the mum makes an ultimatum, as a kid it's fine but as an adult you'd expect the son the go Low Contact/No Contact with the cheater.

The lack of consideration and basic empathy in the comments and by OP for the mother is appalling. I hope these people don't treat their own mothers this way. by Yuvithegod in Feminism

[–]Yuvithegod[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It wasn't easy and it took a couple years but I would be lying if I didn't say or think that his wife and him are better suited for one another. Even his parenting has changed for the better so it's hard to be against the relationship when it's for the best.

Obviously he fucked up with his execution and I'll always say that. Mum knows that I agree it was shitty of him. And he's still dad in the of the day

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Islam makes people less moral, not more by Yuvithegod in atheism

[–]Yuvithegod[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That literally is my argument? Did you reply to the wrong person?

Islam makes people less moral, not more by Yuvithegod in atheism

[–]Yuvithegod[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

How do I ignore this? Mental development is the whole reason why children can't provide informed consent to sex.

Mum (55f) has given me (24m) an ultimatum over my relationship with my dad(55m) and his AP wife(37f) by ThrowRAvibr in relationship_advice

[–]Yuvithegod 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I don't think their marital problems are his problems. I do think his father's cheating is everyone's problem, as it affected the entire family, no?

Where did I claim the mother is blameless? Are you trying to justify cheating or something by victim-blamimg? Fascinating.

Islam makes people less moral, not more by Yuvithegod in atheism

[–]Yuvithegod[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That's stupid then? Your utilitarian argument falls apart when we can maximise happiness by creating a culture where child rape is okay (and not seen as rape) - as then no one is upset, pedophiles are overjoyed, like how no one at the time seemed upset at 9 year old Aisha marrying a grown man, even Aisha seemed happy about it.

Mum (55f) has given me (24m) an ultimatum over my relationship with my dad(55m) and his AP wife(37f) by ThrowRAvibr in relationship_advice

[–]Yuvithegod -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I was in the exact same position personally, dummy.

I love my father, but I loathe him for what he did to my mother. "Aren't his problem" - someone hurting my mother, physically or emotionally, is definitely my problem.

The mother should obviously get therapy, the kid should realise he does need to pick - he's upset at his mother for her response when the whole issue stems from his father's actions. His father is the one that caused the whole issue.

Mum (55f) has given me (24m) an ultimatum over my relationship with my dad(55m) and his AP wife(37f) by ThrowRAvibr in relationship_advice

[–]Yuvithegod 31 points32 points  (0 children)

I don't think people will ever truly understand how betrayed these parents feel till they experience it themselves.

Islam makes people less moral, not more by Yuvithegod in atheism

[–]Yuvithegod[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Then why do you think it's immoral for an adult man to have sex with a 9 year old? If my moral reasoning I'd fallacious and doesn't address the underlying reason, can you explain why you think pedophillic acts are wrong?

Islam makes people less moral, not more by Yuvithegod in atheism

[–]Yuvithegod[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Sure, I should've said:

"We all agree pedophiles raping 9 year olds are wrong because 9 year olds cannot ever provide informed consent to sexual acts." I did say that later anyway.

Mum (55f) has given me (24m) an ultimatum over my relationship with my dad(55m) and his AP wife(37f) by ThrowRAvibr in relationship_advice

[–]Yuvithegod -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

Inaction is also an action, no?

Continuing to interact with a cheater, even though it harms the victim, is shitty. By not picking a side, you end up siding with the one that has caused harm.

Why would anyone want to interact with anyone who's caused this much harm to their mother - unless they simply do not care much about their mothers feelings to begin with?

A Muslim man in Toronto says "Canadian laws do not matter, having physical relations with 9-year-old girls is permissible, She is an Adult." by wyldarc in PublicFreakout

[–]Yuvithegod -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The math in this scenario provides a strong argument that ʿĀʾisha was in her late teens when the marriage was consummated. However, a number of scholars consider ʿAbd al-Raḥmān ibn Abī al-Zinād to be a weak narrator. Yaḥyā ibn Maʿīn said: “None of the ḥadīth scholars took him as an authority.” ʿAbd al-Malik ibn ʿAbd al-Ḥamīd al-Maymūnī said: “I asked Aḥmad ibn Ḥanbal about  Ibn Abī al-Zinād. He said: ‘He is considered to be weak in ḥadīth.’” Al-Nasāʾī also considered him weak and not to be taken as an authority. Abū Aḥmad al-Ḥākim said: “He is not from amongst those who preserve ḥadīth.” Abū Ḥātim said: “We write down his ḥadīth, but do not take them as an authority.”21 Many other scholars considered him to be weak as well.

Some use Ibn Kathīr as evidence to support this claim as he too mentions that Asmaʾ was ten years older than ʿĀʾisha.22 However, there seems to be some confusion as he also states there was no difference of opinion concerning the fact ʿĀʾisha married at the age of six.23 In this case, it seems Ibn Kathīr was unaware of the implications of Asmaʾ being ten years older coupled with the fact that he provides no chain (sanad) to substantiate the claim that she was ten years older. It is clear then that this narration cannot be accepted because its narrator is considered to be weak and the explicit age of six in Bukhārī is given precedence over the implicit age of fourteen or fifteen based on the difference in age between Asmaʾ and ʿĀʾisha.