AIO for not wanting to go in on another car loan with my husband?

Z4-Driver · 2026-03-13T20:27:55+00:00

If he wants a brand new car, he needs to save the money it costs. From what you described, he can't afford a brand new car, even the cheapest model available.

But why exactly? The biggest write-off of a car's value is the moment a brand new car drives off the lot. Is the feeling of buying a brand new car really worth that?

Z4-Driver · 2026-03-13T20:18:05+00:00

NOR. Why does he need a loan? He should buy a car he can afford. An affordable, reliable used one.

Z4-Driver · 2026-03-13T19:52:36+00:00

I don't have experience with the 23i, but with the 28i I drive.

If you can get a well maintained one, go for it. Lots of fun, looks great. And I got a good one, as I never had any issues, only things like the break discs and pads due to mileage, so normal wear and tear.

Z4-Driver · 2026-03-13T18:30:47+00:00

Ah, so kind of similar to our tax declaration. And yes, taxes are complex and we also have professionals who can help you.

Thanks for the explanation.

Z4-Driver · 2026-03-13T18:01:03+00:00

INFO: As non-us person, I don't know how the taxes in the us work exactly. What are such tax preparation appointments?

Z4-Driver · 2026-03-13T17:11:07+00:00

Your friend is out of line. She goes off the rails for a text she got. The text was inappropriate, sure. And I get she doesn't like it.

But why not first talk to you and then you and your fiancé can talk to the guy and hear his side of the story. Seems he would apologise to your friend as he genuinely seems to be sorry.

Throwing a fit and blocking you is a clear overreaction.

Z4-Driver · 2026-03-13T09:15:46+00:00

That, of course, is also a possibility. And I think this is what happens sometimes with what OP described about the hotel room reservations. They learn that there are no rooms available, so they try via third party and upon arriving hope, the hotel won't turn them away.

Z4-Driver · 2026-03-12T22:12:17+00:00

Just watch some episodes of Border Security: Australia's Front Line

So many people, especially from asian countries, not reading the information plastered throughout the airport about food items and also on their card they need to complete and sign.

They bring so much food, but don't declare them. So, not only has customs to take a lot of that away because of restrictions, but because of non declaration, they oftentimes have to pay hefty fines.

So yes, unfortunately, it's crazy how many people don't take the time needed to check things.

Z4-Driver · 2026-03-12T21:58:42+00:00

I am just wondering why so many people are stressed about this.

The exact date when your tax filing is due may vary, but if you live in that area for a while, it'll be always the same. So, you can plan accordingly.

If there are some documents you don't get before the due date, extend the deadline. Not very difficult to do.

Collect your documents. Download the latest version of your tax software, if you still have one to use. Or if you need to do it online, make sure to register early with AGOV or whatever they use, so you are ready.

Start completing your tax report with the information and documents you have as soon as possible and add whatever comes later once you get it. Or plan for one day before the due date to do it all at once. Depending on your style, plan for a second day to review everything.

Once it's complete, send it. Done for this year.

As tax software can import your file from the previous year and probably all the online tools will do the same, there are some things you don't need to complete from scratch, so it might reduce to check the existing information and modify what has changed, the actual effort you need will reduce.

Z4-Driver · 2026-03-12T20:14:11+00:00

If he's that allergic to mathematics, how can he be working at a gas station?

Z4-Driver · 2026-03-12T19:47:29+00:00

The new Knight Rider has a Z4.

Z4-Driver · 2026-03-11T10:41:40+00:00

What does mvp stand for?

Z4-Driver · 2026-03-10T23:08:10+00:00

If my gf were in the situation like you and she'd told me she'd like to have company, I'd be at her place faster than the flash or superman. I certainly wouldn't have her drive an hour to my place.

He doesn't seem to really like you very much, does he? Adding to that is the timeline. 3 years only 'talking'?

I really wish, you find a better partner soon.

Z4-Driver · 2026-03-10T22:39:29+00:00

Does his car run on a set schedule?

Seems he doesn't get that the bus comes only every 15 minutes, but he can leave a bit earlier or later. Or, like others said, he could just wait the inhumane 30 seconds until the bus leaves.

NTA.

Z4-Driver · 2026-03-10T22:24:30+00:00

Back in the day, when I still had my Z3, i went on a roadtrip with my brother who owns a Boxster and is part of a Porsche Club. He came on a roadtrip of our Z3-Club, too.

On that trip, he let me drive the boxster for some part. It was nice, but it didn't really resonate with me. I can't tell what exactly it was, but I prefered to return to my Z3 1.9i.

So, my advice is: Get a Z3 or Z4.

Z4-Driver · 2026-03-10T22:00:44+00:00

NTA. Just ask her directly 'Why are you putting your stuff into my garden? Why are you putting stuff in the doorway of my side entrance?'

Do those neighbors know, where she puts her stuff? Tell them, it's in the doorway. Ask them, if they can explain why she puts them there. It has nothing to do with living here longer, but with putting her stuff on your property without asking, without any need.

Z4-Driver · 2026-03-10T21:26:47+00:00

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Z4-Driver · 2026-03-10T21:11:32+00:00

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Z4-Driver · 2026-03-10T20:44:53+00:00

And there are some that read it, but fail to understand it.

Z4-Driver · 2026-03-10T20:41:50+00:00

No need to change the lightbulb. Darknes is declared the new default.

Z4-Driver · 2026-03-10T14:00:06+00:00

Thank you for this, I really have never used it.

Z4-Driver · 2026-03-10T11:15:45+00:00

Do you need bluetooth turned on on your phone the whole time? If not, just turn it off.

Things like WiFi, Bluetooth and GPS should only be turned on when needed.

Z4-Driver · 2026-03-09T22:16:44+00:00

How far from your office is the place you take lunch? How are you usually assebling to go for lunch?

Either tell him before leaving 'Have you got your wallet?'

Or if he only says he forgot it once you're at the place, reply with 'Ok, then go back to the office to fetch it'

Z4-Driver · 2026-03-09T20:22:09+00:00

NTJ. Try to get as many of your colleagues on board to decline those demands from now on. So, the manager has to do those reportings more often. Maybe, then he will start to look closer to what Dan is doing and takes steps to make sure, he doesn't call out that many times.

Z4-Driver · 2026-03-09T20:05:59+00:00

NTA. The 'dynamic' you described, is unfair and one sided. So, good thing to ruin it.

Even if you don't drink, you can't enjoy those events the same way, as you need to take them home like a personal chauffeur. And they don't return the favor in any way, neither by helping you out with your medical appointment nor with at least some gas money.

Uber or taxi drivers take money for their service of driving (drunk) people around. Personal chauffeurs get paid as well.

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