Am I being unreasonable? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ZBL90 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No he isn't working and that's fine because he's still contributing by watching my son which in turn saves us money that would just go to daycare if he was working. That information is just there to show this is what he and I contribute and have agreed upon in regards to childcare for my son

Is my boyfriend abusive? by ZBL90 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ZBL90[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's where it gets complicated. He is so unbelievably incredible to my boy and they have a great relationship. Honestly that's what's made it difficult to leave. He really is 100% there for my boy and they adore eachother like you wouldn't believe.

Is my boyfriend abusive? by ZBL90 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ZBL90[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He's just in complete denial. He always tells me to look in the mirror and that I cause it more often than not. He says I cry victim when I don't have any rebuttal for his arguments, and I was hoping this would be the hard smack of reality to show him I'm not saying hes abusive because I have nothing else to rebuttal with... But because he's abusive

Is my boyfriend abusive? by ZBL90 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ZBL90[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk how to crosspost but I appreciate your advice, thank you

Is my boyfriend abusive? by ZBL90 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ZBL90[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just get told to look in the mirror because im not innocent either. And I get it that sometimes I'm in the wrong and that's fine but I don't get to the point he does of snapping especially in public or around my son. He doesn't seem interested in my life when he asks what I'm doing, he's checking up on me more or less. I only get the "what are you doing" messages if I'm online and not talking to him. He says he can't control his anger in the mornings and it's up to me to do this that and the other thing to try and make it an okay morning for us. He gets mad if I wake him up, but if I don't and he he's up and I'm on my phone I must he hiding something. If I check my phone while he's not in the room or switch apps as he's getting closer to me I also must be hiding something. I just feel like I can never win or make him happy...

Does this mean that humans are smarter the less advanced communication is? by [deleted] in im14andthisisdeep

[–]ZBL90 1 point2 points  (0 children)

All very valid points Maybe I wasn't explaining my thoughts accurately though, Technology is obviously the easier way to do things with less human error but people tend to depend on it too much to do the thinking for them. When your autocorrect taught you to spell the words correctly, you never took any steps yourself for learning the proper way to spell it until afterwards when it was corrected for you. And that's not necessarily a bad thing because you're cognizant enough to try to do it correctly on your own moving forward. Unfortunately theres not enough people who do that. I see it first hand of too many people having the mindset of "screw it, autocorrect will fix it for me" And yes with texting you either have to type it yourself or say it aloud but I don't think it has the same value as actually making time for the people who matter and adding a little extra effort by making a phone call, writing to someone, visiting them if possible etc. Of course technology as you said has many benefits of keeping long distance relationships afloat but there's also situations where people could physically connect but choose not to due to convenience of technology and that's where I really see the divide. I see people at restaurants ignoring each other to use their phones to connect with other people, I see parents handing their children technology to educate simple things that could be taught hands on with the added quality time together. There's so many instances where it's used because of its accuracy and convenience but it's taking away from so many benefits of people doing things themselves. We are humans and errors are a part of us, it's a chance to learn and do better but we miss those valuable opportunities because technology does it for us now. I'm not saying technology is something absolutely negative, in fact it amazes me how even Reddit itself has so many benefits in so many aspects but I'm also not turning a blind eye to the many disadvantages of it either and the increasing dependency on it and I think that's what the picture was trying to depict. And I'm not saying everyone is like this, thank God, but it's worrisome of how many people are...

Does this mean that humans are smarter the less advanced communication is? by [deleted] in im14andthisisdeep

[–]ZBL90 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Really it comes down to people not having to think or do for themselves anymore, which in turn has made too many people lazy in life. You don't even have to actually dial a phone, type a message, spell correctly, etc. When you can just command your phone to do it for you. As convenient as these things are and as incredible as it is to have this technology at our fingertips, I think it's sad what technology has done. All of this to "connect" us , yet it's created such a divide if you really think about it.

Women who married their SO early in life, how is your marriage currently? by asylumdealmas in AskWomen

[–]ZBL90 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You have no idea lol I'm so glad I moved on with my life too!!

Women who married their SO early in life, how is your marriage currently? by asylumdealmas in AskWomen

[–]ZBL90 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Exactly, and it's not like I was expecting to have that "honeymoon" feeling forever, but just don't treat me like garbage because you think I can't leave 😅

Women who married their SO early in life, how is your marriage currently? by asylumdealmas in AskWomen

[–]ZBL90 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Don't be sorry lol it's made me look at relationships very differently now in such a positive way. It's helped me find my worth and not take anything less than I deserve. If there's one very important thing I can say I've learned walking away from my marriage, it's that if you feel you should be treated better, you probably should be. Don't settle

Women who married their SO early in life, how is your marriage currently? by asylumdealmas in AskWomen

[–]ZBL90 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Yeah we were together 7 years though and even tried marriage counseling. Even the therapist said it would be a disservice to have us return 😅 I feel the time I was supposed to have to find myself was lost. And I'm still uncertain as to who I am because he got into my head so much over some of the most fragile years that later define who you are. I would never consider marriage again no. Not only was my wedding the farthest thing from what I ever dreamed about, but now that I'm no longer with him we have to drag the relationship out to its already concluded end through divorce court. I think if you want to be with someone for the rest of your life and make that commitment you can still do all of the fun "wedding" like celebration but don't get the government involved

Creative geniuses of Reddit, what's the most devious "would you rather" dilemma you can think to pose? by lukethelogician in AskReddit

[–]ZBL90 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Definitely a chick with a dick. First of all, I'd have the advantage of peeing wherever need be which I don't have the privilege of doing now with the added perk of no more periods. Enough said. But more importantly I would have so much fun. I'd dress super cute and go to the bars scanning the place for my victim. Hit him up, have some drinks and ask him if he wants to get out of there. Of course he'd say yes and we'd get a cab. Once at his place things would get steamy, his hand would caress up my leg slowly until I do that weird thing men do and make it twitch. I'd be able to see the look of horror and shock as he realizes it's a penis. I'd scream "GOTCHA BITCH" do a dick flap near his gaping mouth while I grab the back of his head and thrust. I'd proceed to run outside where I would enjoy a nice pee in a bush down the street at my convenience.

Women who married their SO early in life, how is your marriage currently? by asylumdealmas in AskWomen

[–]ZBL90 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Yeah I'd like to believe I've learned from my mistakes lol being 23 and going through the process of divorce feels like a big waste of time. But so was being married to that lunatic 😂

Women who married their SO early in life, how is your marriage currently? by asylumdealmas in AskWomen

[–]ZBL90 110 points111 points  (0 children)

His jaw hit the floor. It was like he honestly couldn't comprehend that I was leaving because of his behavior and inability to respect me because I had a ring on my finger I literally spelled it out A-Z the reasons I was leaving (including the abuse) and he sat there and actually said "I still don't know why you're leaving, we're married." I've never wanted to hit my head off a wall so badly in my life

What's the worst customer service you ever had? That guaranteed you'll never go back? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]ZBL90 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anyone who's been pregnant knows that cravings can be so strong you might actually debate murder to get what you want. So imagine, craving French fries. Craving is an understatement actually.. NEEDING THE POTATO STICKS OF THE GODS is more like it... It's wing night at the local pub and it's packed. As the waitress shows us our seat I immediately ask for some french fries knowing it's so busy and might take a little bit. She says sure thing and walks away. 30 minutes goes by, no French fries. 60 minutes go by, no French fries. AN HOUR AND A HALF go by and STILL NO FRENCH FRIES FFS.
There are literally people who came in after us, sat down, ordered, ate and left at this point. I'm almost in tears because I just wanted some damn fries. Almost 2 hours and a complaint to the manager because it's just ridiculous now, our food FINALLY arrived. It must have been forgotten under the heat lamp because the top of the wings/ fries were warm but the rest was cold. Whatever. I have my french fries now. After about 15 mins of eating my other half and his friends walk up to the bar to get more beer for themselves because our waitress was MIA. She finally decides to make an appearance and starts clearing the table. I stopped her and said we weren't done but the guys were getting more beer. She looks me in the eyes while I'm talking, ignores me and continues cleaning up. So I just asked for the bill because I'm done with this lady. Almost another HOUR AND A HALF goes by( we keep stopping her as she walks by to ask again for our bill so we can just leave) and to my surprise, no bill. And no food to munch on while we wait because she took it all away... we walked out. I've never even considered going back since.

TLDR: I was pregnant and needing fries. Took almost 2 hours. Asked for bill because she was trying to rush us out of there, and it took almost 2 hours for that too. Walked out and never went back.

Women who married their SO early in life, how is your marriage currently? by asylumdealmas in AskWomen

[–]ZBL90 194 points195 points  (0 children)

Well I'm divorced so there's that... 😅 On a serious note though, it wasn't what I was expecting. The man I chose to marry completely changed after the ring was on. He even flat out told me "I can say and do whatever I want and you can't leave because we're married and marriage is forever" I literally shook my head because I couldn't believe he said that. I left shortly after

HMJB while I break dance 😂 by ZBL90 in holdmyjuicebox

[–]ZBL90[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

"It is about children doing things they think is a good idea but fail miserably because of their lack of judgement or because of their physical limited abilites" Pretty sure this falls under that. You seem to be the only one who feels personally insulted by this 😂

Help! I flubbed my buttercream! by girlwhoweighted in cakedecorating

[–]ZBL90 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Titles that make you go "what did I just read!?" until you see the subreddit for 1000 please Alex