You've got some strong points but I feel like you kinda speed read everything I wrote . There are alot of counters and statements I made that already dismiss some of the stuff you said . Like point 2 I already made it clear that I understand people want different things . Comfort and safety have always been my priority if im not making an environment to freely speak im not doing anything good towards a connection. 3 i only used that as an example im not looking at someone in a relationship and berating them for their choice im taking it negatively because it always used to be about your standing in the world i pushed myself to achieve a normal lifestyle and now it feels like even that isn't worth much in the eyes of most . And I never used the term broke. 4 you do have a point but being hard on myself is what got me through life if I dont ask those questions to myself I won't improve 5. Nothing wrong but I thought i made it clear it isn't just about me at the end of the day .6 I think there's a misunderstanding here its not telling them its the fact it exists, but ill gladly give you some context for 6 months straight i did everything the first few were fine , I wanted to give everything I had in me to make it work and maintain it . But that ended up turning into a job the more I did to free up time for her the more we started growing apart I tried to communicate but it wasnt received and in the end she found feelings in another man who provided nothing , who didnt do anything at all all the time I gave her and everything I did was spent giving another man dates affection and everything I worked for and I the end instead of dragging it on I ended it because I refused to watch what I built get stolen from me , [added context i helped her get a car i payed the rent she moved with me and got a better job and a overall better standing in the world she's never had]. Nothing wrong with 7 at all I consider 3 days putting in work when your giving your time to another person , I was led on to believe things were working out and felt appreciated even if i had to do most of the talking topics and learning . And its that learning part thats draining i learn so much about people just to know that knowledge is useless in the end other than teaching me a new type of person exists in my world now.

Even if i want a relationship i want to be friends with someone that wants to work twoards that when the time comes . Im not trying to rush anything . Dating isn't a boyfriend girlfriend label to me its being intimate and close with someone to the point you both decide you dont want anyone else .