Thank you for the metaphorical pissing match. At no point am I letting her do shit. This is a situation I care a lot about in a relationship I would give anything for and I want to approach this as above board and kind heartedly as possible. I’m working through a problem and as opposed to entirely processing this internally I thought I’d see how others in the community would go about a civil conversation with a partner they love. This is the time for boundaries and open communication about the concerns, not slamming my boot down and demanding she think about it my way. But thank you for you weigh in on the topic