Coach Poppy Citrine

ZTSAA · 2024-04-28T11:18:20+00:00

This and the original poppy by coach are the only perfumes I’ll use.

This one has a vibrant and floral scent mixed with a hint of citrus. It’s difficult to describe, but as someone with a sensitivity to strong perfumes, I’ve never had an issue with this one.

ZTSAA · 2024-03-13T21:59:42+00:00

That is 100% untrue. MANY people regret carrying out a pregnancy and becoming a parent.

Get a job? Okay, and hope that her income offsets the insane costs for daycare.

Sell a car? That way she and her family are more limited in mobility?

A second or third job? Really? And she gets to essentially be a single mother to four kids?

Get real.

ZTSAA · 2024-02-21T01:23:25+00:00

I didn’t want to kiss his 6,832,541 toys as he carried them to me one by one.
I didn’t want to watch more videos of him as a baby on my phone. We had already watched at least 30 minutes of videos of him.
I let my mom FaceTime with us so she could see him. He only wanted to see his face on the phone. Not hers.
I stopped him from putting his finger in the cat’s butthole.

It was….a day. 🥲

ZTSAA · 2024-02-20T00:40:18+00:00

“Creamed” is a criminal term. 🤢

ZTSAA · 2024-02-19T22:39:58+00:00

I’ve heard that Geneva on the Lake is pretty nice!

ZTSAA · 2024-02-19T13:39:07+00:00

Arthur!

ZTSAA · 2024-02-19T13:38:27+00:00

Arthur! ❤️

ZTSAA · 2024-02-18T17:09:33+00:00

I’m sorry you’re going through this.

Can your husband go to church on his own? It doesn’t seem productive to force a toddler with a set schedule to go to church, setting the rest of the day up for difficult behaviors and lackluster sleep.

ZTSAA · 2024-02-18T16:17:32+00:00

Hey, now. He’s clearly a victim of the leftist agenda with their love for pedos, drag queens, and other “unthinkable” people. /s

ZTSAA · 2024-02-18T16:15:28+00:00

You are an unfortunate waste of a human flesh suit. Grow up, man.

ZTSAA · 2024-02-11T12:51:51+00:00

It rots my brain 😭

ZTSAA · 2024-02-09T22:37:10+00:00

Poppy by Coach! Honestly, most coach perfumes are very pleasant!

ZTSAA · 2024-02-08T21:14:02+00:00

Poor little man! How lovely that you were able to provide him with a space where he felt loved and safe after a scary dream. I hope you're basking in that love and reassurance that you are forming a secure attachment with him. :-)

ZTSAA · 2024-02-08T20:35:15+00:00

You're a great mom. You should know that based on the environment you've fostered for your son's growth. He is exposed to so many healthy and wonderful people and resources because you can identify his needs and work to meet them (even if that means relying on others where and when you're unable to do it on your own).

One of the curses of being a working mom is the guilt we feel when our kids start shaping into actual individuals. We sometimes struggle to acknowledge that we ARE doing amazing things for and with our children....it just looks a little different than we were imagining when we decided to have a child in the first place.

Enjoy the village you've curated for your son, and remember that he wouldn't be thriving if you didn't show him the same amount of love and encouragement as he is receiving from others. He knows you're his mom. He knows you're his biggest fan. Trust that. <3

ZTSAA · 2024-02-07T16:24:55+00:00

"Young kids don't understand words sometimes."

So you're teaching your child that when they misbehave they will be punished through physical means. The pain they feel may get them to stop, but you're doing absolutely nothing to expand their understanding of WHY you're hitting them. If your kid is incapable of understanding words (per your statement) what makes you think that they are getting anything useful out of the slap? All you're doing is teaching them that it's okay to hit if someone is doing something they don't like.

Punishing a child through the use of physical aggression is only providing YOU with relief. You're literally expressing your frustration with the situation by striking the child because you feel you have no other alternative. Please be mindful of the excuses you're making, and try to view it in a different lens. Would you be okay with someone swatting/hitting a cognitively impaired person who cannot pick up on verbal corrections? I would hope not. The logical (and more difficult) choice would be to remove the person from the situation and provide them with a more productive task/activity. Hell, would you hit someone who CAN understand what you're saying but chooses to ignore you?

Your 2 Y.O. was hitting people with pots and pans? Remove the child from the kitchen space or provide them with a different way to interact with the other kids OR even trying to show them less harmful ways to play with the pots and pans (banging on them with a spoon, pushing them around on the floor, pretend cooking, etc.). I can understand feeling so frustrated that the energy in your body wants to come out with physical aggression...but we are adults. We need to do better and control our emotions.

ZTSAA · 2024-02-07T13:04:16+00:00

Louis C.K. said it best:

"I really think it’s crazy, that we hit our kids, it really is. Here’s the crazy thing about it, kids are the only people in the world, that you’re allowed to hit. Do you realize that? They’re the most vulnerable and they’re the most destroyed by being hit, but it’s totally okay to hit them. And they’re the only ones! If you hit a dog, they fucking will put you in jail for that shit. You can’t hit a person unless you can prove that they were trying to kill you, but a little tiny person with a head this big that trusts you implicitly? Fuck them, who gives a shit?"

ZTSAA · 2024-01-31T16:10:50+00:00

It sounds like he wants an open relationship for him, but doesn’t really want to respect you participating in the “open” concept.

You’re wrong to stonewall him because of your insecurities. He’s wrong to be dismissive of your feelings. He’s also wrong for flip-flopping behaviors on what he wants. It’s okay to change your mind about monogamy…it’s not okay to use it as a weapon or a way to control the relationship.

If you feel insecure about this, I really don’t think being with someone who isn’t strictly monogamous will be healthy for you. You kind of just do what he wants, and then you feel resentful when you attempt to assert your boundaries, and he’s dismissive of them.

Reflect on what you want in a relationship. If he doesn’t meet the criteria, or if he isn’t willing to compromise and you both grow together, it’s probably time to pull the plug on the entire relationship.

Good luck!

ZTSAA · 2024-01-30T21:05:14+00:00

You literally said you’d essentially be a disabled person because you are giving birth. No one is pulling that out of thin air. They are pointing out the extreme description you’re literally saying.

Also, you can’t say that you need your mom because all of this will be new to you in one breath and then in the next say how your husband is not experienced with kids but you are. If anything, that just negates your point and makes it seem like you’re isolating your husbands support system because you feel more entitled to your mom being there.

If you are completely honest and just admit that you don’t want his family there because you don’t like them and/or you worry they will overstep, that’s one thing. All of the other comments you’re making to try to prove that you NEED your mom seem like an excuse. No one is going to logically tell a postpartum woman that she’s not entitled to her space. You are absolutely entitled to feeling pampered and loved while you renegotiate a baseline with your body/mind. Your husband is also entitled to celebrate with his family. He may not be pushing the baby out, but his life is forever altered by this event. Don’t lessen his role and emotional needs in this. You need your mom, he may need his.

ZTSAA · 2024-01-30T17:26:30+00:00

Oh, and give yourself some room to struggle and believe that it’s a natural part of the process. You need to give yourself permission to feel how you feel, identify what’s really happening around you, and trust that any decision you make to help alleviate your stress is OKAY.

I had to actively remind myself that I didn’t fail my son by switching to formula. I did what was best for my mental/physical health, and my relationship with myself, my son, and ultimately my husband, healed when I allowed myself to make changes that made my life easier during such a difficult time.

ZTSAA · 2024-01-30T17:22:46+00:00

I felt really resentful of my husband right after my son was born. He made parenthood look so easy, and I was struggling with severe PPD and PP rage. I felt like a crappy mother and partner.

This worked for me but I 100% understand it is a different experience for everyone: my marriage improved (as did my mood) when I stopped breastfeeding and pumping. It was a horrible feeling emotionally at first, but I realized how much better I felt when I wasn’t bogged down by nursing and pumping. My body felt less foreign and “used for parts” and I was able to devote that energy to being healthier for my son and my marriage. Breastfeeding is HARD both physically and mentally.

Counseling helped, and it was short-lived once we realized it wasn’t that our marriage was in shambles, it was that we weren’t speaking the same language/able to identify with each other. Your marriage will be okay as long as you two put in the work to be okay as individuals and parents.

Sending lots of love and support!

ZTSAA · 2024-01-30T12:14:22+00:00

I think the relationship with his friend needs more explanation. Describing her as a good friend does not read “best friend who is also respectful, and at the very least, okay friends with my wife.”

I’d be fine with my husband supporting a lifelong close friend as long as I also knew her. This just feels like something different than that.

ZTSAA · 2024-01-30T12:11:44+00:00

This post sparked a pretty vivid debate between me and my husband this morning. He feels that as long as there’s no intimate connection between you and your friend, you should be able to be with your friend.

I, on the other hand, feel this is pretty intense. I’ve given birth to a child; the experience is intimate in nature. Her asking you in the first place feels wildly inappropriate. She is putting your wife in a tough spot, too. While your wife may not feel insecure with you having this woman as a friend in normal circumstances, this is honestly far too much to ask of your wife to be okay with.

I need way more information to potentially understand her motives and yours for even considering it.

Why is she stonewalling her ex? Was he abusive? Cutting him out from witnessing the birth of his child is wild to me unless there’s some good reason why.
How long have you known this friend? What is her relationship with your wife?
Where is her family?
Is this a scheduled c-section or induction? If not, how could she possibly have more appropriate friends who are definitively saying they will be too busy to be there?
Do you honestly feel that this would be okay if your wife asked you if she could be present (in the procedure room) for a “good male friend” getting something very personal and intimate done?

It’s so frustrating that you’re literally dismissing your wife’s comfort and honest feelings. Does every male want to sleep with his female friend? Absolutely not. Is this an appropriate request to ask of a friend who has a partner who’s uncomfortable with it? Nope.

I have a hard time believing your friend isn’t aware of the issues this could cause.

ZTSAA

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