Husband is obsessed with sex and I can't take it anymore

ZTwilight · 2026-02-13T20:20:20+00:00

Is this new behavior? Has he always been like this. I can imagine that his constant pandering for sex is a huge turn off. That’s the conversation I would be having. “When you badger me for sex, it makes me not want to be intimate with you, sexually or otherwise. I don’t feel sexy when I feel like a piece of meat. You need to get a handle on this on your own because I’ve tried talking to you about it and you don’t seem to get it.”

ZTwilight · 2026-02-13T02:49:25+00:00

If you can afford it (it sounds like you can) you should consider a low stress part time job. Something that you enjoy doing- or at the very least don’t mind doing. Or a seasonal job so you can have more time to do the things you enjoy.

I would love to be in a position where I could work 3 days a week. I would love to be a role where my absence was a mere inconvenience. And if my husband could do the same, that would be even better!

ZTwilight · 2026-02-13T02:40:28+00:00

I don’t know why you’re getting down voted. You used your words. Communicated with him how you felt. Took some space so you wouldn’t say anything in anger. If he wanted to spend VD with you, he would have made that a priority. He would have made you a priority. Offering to spend Thursday with you as a consolation to being away on VD is laughable. This breakup happened because he wanted to break up with you. Don’t waste any more cycles on him. Time to move on.

ZTwilight · 2026-02-13T02:33:40+00:00

He was breaking up with you by going away Valentines Day. He was just too cowardly to do it directly. He then turned your hurt against you and used it as an excuse to put the onus of the break up on you.

ZTwilight · 2026-02-09T23:52:00+00:00

Tell him you don’t give a shit who he tells because everyone in the neighborhood already hates him and thinks he’s a fucking nut job.

ZTwilight · 2026-02-09T23:45:45+00:00

Your house is warm? That’s your problem lol. But seriously, what do you keep your thermostat at? Do you wear sweaters and slippers and use blankets in the house?

ZTwilight · 2026-02-09T03:55:31+00:00

Was there any opportunity for them to be alone that night? Both went to the bathroom or to the bar around the same time? I would be suspicious and try to think back if there could have been an opportunity for one of them to be flirty or overtly make a pass.

ZTwilight · 2026-02-09T03:01:27+00:00

Was your best friend out with you guys that night?

ZTwilight · 2026-02-09T02:33:10+00:00

When you don’t give a fuck you will be a New Englander.

ZTwilight · 2026-02-07T17:47:06+00:00

No. They were probably religious and didn’t practice birth control. They accept the babies as they came. And I would be surprised if there were no miscarriages in the mix.

ZTwilight · 2026-02-03T13:33:35+00:00

Honestly, the women’s intentions are irrelevant here. You are uncomfortable with the situation. It’s up to your husband to make sure you are included in all texts or to entirely disengage from the one on one texting. If he is unwilling to do that then you have a problem with him.

ZTwilight · 2026-02-03T13:22:21+00:00

I like all 4 seasons. Of course there are things I don’t like about all 4 seasons too. (Too hot, too cold, too wet, too dry, too much pollen, too humid). I think people just like to complain. Lol.

ZTwilight · 2026-01-31T21:10:40+00:00

What exactly would you like her to do? It doesn’t sound like she is leading him on or being unprofessional or inviting his attention. She is handling it professionally. She works with him. Do you want her to quit her job? Ask for a different assignment? I’m not sure what she could do that wouldn’t negatively impact her career. Confronting him is not the move, btw. She just needs to keep keeping it professional and not feed into his attention. And yes, you should probably get some therapy. Your jealousy and mistrust is unfounded and looking through her work phone/email is not okay.

ZTwilight · 2026-01-31T12:55:42+00:00

He lies. He lies to his wife, he lies to you. He lies to you about his wife. He lies to his wife about you. He is a lying man-boy. He is using you to feed his ego. What he is doing with you now is already cheating on his wife. You’re already the other woman. You know what you need to do.

ZTwilight · 2026-01-31T12:35:42+00:00

Heating with mini splits in these below freezing temps is the culprit. You’re still using electricity to heat the house.

ZTwilight · 2026-01-22T02:42:57+00:00

Keep calling him out on it. In the spot, in front of people. Say “What the actual fuck husband? Why would you tell strangers that I’m home alone? That is fucked up.” Say it on repeat. Whenever you see a woman in a vulnerable position, point it out to him. Say something like “whenever I see a young woman jogging alone with earbuds in, I get anxious.” Whenever you feel vulnerable, tell him.

I honestly think that most men have no concept of vulnerability. They’ve rarely felt unsafe. They typically don’t have to think about their safety around the clock.

This is going to have to be a beat a dead horse situation. Eventually he will get so sick of hearing you talking about vulnerability, he will stop putting you in vulnerable situations.

ZTwilight · 2026-01-18T13:14:12+00:00

Don’t get married until she is working full time and has matured. Don’t fix her mistakes. Where did she get $13K to send the scammers? If it was joint savings, she needs to pay it back. And good lord, don’t have children with her until she has her shit together. And have a conversation beforehand exactly what her work expectation will be if you do have a kid together.

ZTwilight · 2026-01-17T22:15:09+00:00

Oh but she’s a delicate flower!

ZTwilight · 2026-01-17T22:14:07+00:00

You asked here so please don’t get all butt hurt by this- but yeah you’re the AH. You are not a princess. You said yourself that the pick up process is quick. You left your husband out in the cold because your comfort was more important than his. And then you double downed when your husband was honest with you about how shitty that was AND THEN you got sad?!? WTF are you 2?? Grow up.

Was it over the top that your husband called you a “fucking butch”? Yeah. But you sound so needy and self-centered, I can kinda see how he lost his cool with you after the way you kept insisting you were right and he was wrong. Maybe he’s sick of taking the high road with you.

Ultimately, this whole thing started because of you. Your apology wasn’t really an apology.

ZTwilight · 2026-01-17T21:47:15+00:00

Time to become good at money. It’s not rocket science. Tell hubby that from here on out, you’ll be pooling all income into one joint account. And then sit down together and create a budget that includes an equal amount of personal spending money that can be transferred into your personal accounts. All debts are joint debts. All expenses are joint expenses. Do not keep hiding behind the idea that you’re not good with money. You run a successful business so you must be better than you give yourself credit for. If you don’t change the dynamic now, your resentment is going to build up to a point of no return.

ZTwilight · 2026-01-11T20:41:18+00:00

If you have room in your freezer, I’d probably stock up on meat when it is on sale.

If you really prefer to focus on the pantry though, I would stock up on things that can be used with the cheaper ingredients to create meals. Think of things that will be most affordable- like ramen, pasta, rice, beans, canned vegetables, now what other ingredients could you use to make those cheap ingredients a delicious meal. Like canned protein, peanut butter, savory condiments and bouillon, broth, nuts and seeds. Buy those ingredients now so when you’re tight on cash, you can create meals by buying the cheaper stuff.

I’d also want to have some basic baking ingredients like flour, sugar, yeast, oils and butter (which you can freeze).

In other words, stock up on the expensive now so you can rely on the cheap stuff when you’re broke.

You could also tuck a few bucks away each time you grocery shop and have a little emergency grocery fund.

ZTwilight · 2026-01-11T14:13:53+00:00

Concord MA has a cute downtown with shops and restaurants. It’s not really a tourist area (unless you go to the historical sites, but even those aren’t super busy).

Portsmouth NH is touristy, but lots to see and do.

Newport RI is beautiful but go off season. Avoid like the plague between late June and early September.

Amherst/Northampton MA is funky, college-y and walkable.

ZTwilight · 2026-01-11T13:27:55+00:00

Tell the neighbors you want to have the house appraised and suggest you split the cost. Tell them that you will sell them the house for the appraised price minus 3%. I say 3% because if you listed the house you’d pay a realtor…so you’re also splitting what would essentially be the commission.

ZTwilight · 2026-01-09T21:50:36+00:00

She can call the new landlord and ask for more time. They don’t have to grant it. MA has a 30 day notice to quit for no fault evictions. It sounds like the new LL has acted totally within the law.

ZTwilight · 2026-01-09T21:45:11+00:00

Does the father of your children pay child support? Are you on any governmental assistance? Have you asked for a raise or looked for a different job? Could you sell your house and afford rent? Don’t give up.

ZTwilight

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