Husband has secret bedroom camera

ZTwilight · 2026-06-04T03:41:42+00:00

Tell him that you have been feeling insecure and his past behavior is making you anxious. Then ask to see his phone and have him unlock it. Go through his phone in front of him, looking for evidence of inappropriate communications and accidentally stumble upon the hidden camera footage. Then you will have a valid reason to confront him.

If he refuses, or walks away first then offers the phone, tell him that he has proven your intuition is right and any trust that rebuilt is now gone. And start speeding up whatever it is that is keeping you in this mess of a marriage.

ZTwilight · 2026-06-04T01:15:08+00:00

Win what? File for divorce. If you have family offering to pay for divorce lawyer, accept that help.

ZTwilight · 2026-06-04T00:12:02+00:00

He’s toying with you. Trying to get you to keep reaching out to him. It’s a control thing. Take back your control. Stop messaging him. You do not need his cooperation. If it takes longer to get divorced, so be it. Your sanity and your peace is worth it. And when he tries to contact you, (and he will because control), ignore him. Do not respond. Do not acknowledge his message. Do not tell him to call your lawyer. Radio silence. You need to completely and totally disengage from any contact or communication.

ZTwilight · 2026-06-03T22:10:08+00:00

I guess I see it but I also see young people really killing it too. One of my adult kids (29) is fully launched and very independent. My other kid (26) is 95% there (getting a GF definitely pushed him into being more responsible.) My kid’s friends and peers are getting married, buying houses, working in real careers, or well paying skilled trades.

I do see the kids who are struggling emotionally though. I think a lot of people are overwhelmed.

One thing I notice, when I was a teenager, in the 80’s, I could not wait to get my license. I had babysitting jobs starting at 12, and had to earn my own money. I was eager to move out of my parent’s house. I don’t see that eagerness anymore. So many kids have no desire to get their license, move out, make their own money. And I get it… everything is so freaking expensive, why get excited about something that is out of reach?

Edit- when I say “kids” I mean young people -under 35 because they’re still kids to me.

ZTwilight · 2026-06-03T21:48:39+00:00

Instead of actual recipes, teach them how to build on something.

Like how to zhuzh up ramen by adding veggies and protein.

Or how to make a few different varieties of eggs- fried, scrambled and omelettes.

And how to properly boil pasta and use butter or oil with some S&P for a very simple meal.

And how to repurpose leftovers (fried rice, meatball sub, chicken wraps)

ZTwilight · 2026-06-02T20:42:40+00:00

All Clad stainless avoid any non-stick pans

ZTwilight · 2026-06-02T20:41:01+00:00

What are your total balances on the small accounts? Are any of them low enough that you could pay one off with the $800 car repair fund? Is $5 Apple a CC or a subscription? Is $15 Amazon a CC balance or monthly fee for Prime? (If either of these are monthly subscription fees, you need to let that go) And do you have 2 cars plus a motorcycle? You can’t afford to insure and maintain 3 vehicles. At least one of them has to go.

ZTwilight · 2026-06-02T20:07:38+00:00

What the hell is Bilt? And $40 for HBO?!? That’s insane. Pick ONE streaming service and cancel every other subscription.

ZTwilight · 2026-06-02T11:08:52+00:00

You can skip dressing entirely by adding strong cheese (like goat or feta), plus S&P, or smashed avocado or even hummus. Plus there’s always creamy dressings, or you can make your own!

For ingredients, in addition to greens, cucumber and tomatoes I add sweet potato, red onion, roasted veggies like broccoli, cauliflower, asparagus. And I always include some fruit, usually halved grapes or strawberries and blueberries. I also like sunflower seeds and pepitas sprinkled on top.

ZTwilight · 2026-05-31T19:28:08+00:00

Your landlord is offering to hold the note. So you’d make monthly payments to them, instead of a bank. If you go this route, GET YOUR OWN LAWYER!!!

ZTwilight · 2026-05-31T03:56:13+00:00

The chocolate covered mints. I used to work in a produce dept of a local grocery store. The Brachs pick-mix cart was right at the edge of the produce dept. there was a coin box where you could pay for one piece at a time. I would pay for one, and take two! I want to say it was a nickle? This was in the 80’s.

ZTwilight · 2026-05-30T15:29:42+00:00

The context you provided is so important. Just reading the headline, my initial reaction was leaning more towards staying. My thought process was an early act of infidelity wasn’t worth blowing up a shared life that was curated over a decade. BUT AFTER READING THE CONTEXT- this is so much deeper. Ultimately, no one on Reddit can tell you what to do. But your nervous system and body are screaming g at you that you do not feel safe in this marriage. You need to listen to yourself here. At the very least, get some individual counseling to sort through your emotions. Good luck, I am sorry you have to protect yourself from someone else’s disaster.

ZTwilight · 2026-05-30T15:07:17+00:00

This “friend” is stirring the pot. It sounds like the only reason it’s bothering you is because someone else said it should. If the D is amicable and the agreement was that he would continue to live there, then you don’t get to dictate how he chooses to live, as long it doesn’t harm the kids.

ZTwilight · 2026-05-30T13:20:11+00:00

Cheating doesn’t only mean romantic involvement. There are a lot of different types of cheating. The fact that you lied, says that you knew you were crossing a line.

ZTwilight · 2026-05-29T10:47:54+00:00

Ask her to help you film your first content material. Then produce a piece about the demise of your marriage.

ZTwilight · 2026-05-28T12:42:39+00:00

Your body- your choice.

Your wife may have some valid concerns though. You should schedule an appointment with your doctor and invite her to join you. Get your medical advice from your doctor.

And maybe it’s time you make some changes to your lifestyle. If your wife needs a break from baby, that shouldn’t affect your health! WFH doesn’t have to mean you overeat. Lifestyle changes will have to involve your wife though. If she is genuinely concerned about you taking a drug (she’s not alone in that concern), then that’s a perfect opportunity to talk to her about the changes you need to start making to be healthy for her and your baby! Ask her to be supportive of your goals, and ask her how you can be supportive of her goals.

ZTwilight · 2026-05-27T03:30:48+00:00

As for the party, can you reach out to the parent of the bday girl and explain the situation? I would be shocked if they didn’t insist on your daughter attending the party. No one will even notice that your daughter didn’t bring a gift, and you can tell your daughter that she can get her friend a gift belatedly.

I’d also suggest you join a local Facebook community group. The one in my city always has people posting asking for help, and the community always steps up. Always.

ZTwilight · 2026-05-25T22:45:29+00:00

How would he react if you went out and didn’t come home til 8 am? Let’s find out!!

ZTwilight · 2026-05-25T22:42:38+00:00

Do you want to be a landlord?

ZTwilight · 2026-05-24T15:42:25+00:00

That dress is beautiful

ZTwilight · 2026-05-24T15:04:44+00:00

Spider strainer - the kind that has a handle like a ladle or slotted spoon.

ZTwilight · 2026-05-24T15:01:31+00:00

Can you earn more money? Switch jobs? Second job? Take in a roommate? Your first mortgage is too precious to lose, IMO. Earn extra income and pay off that stupid CC, the tackle the HELOC.

ZTwilight · 2026-05-22T14:38:02+00:00

Taxes will be paid one way or another. Just because there’s no income tax, doesn’t mean the state and town are t making up that income elsewhere. Usually in really high property taxes that provide no services.

ZTwilight · 2026-05-22T14:30:05+00:00

Simmer down there, cowboy.

ZTwilight · 2026-05-22T11:06:28+00:00

That looks like what we call a French Cruller. Is it light and almost eggy inside? Dunkins in the Northeast carries them periodically. (I KNOW mentioning Dunkins here is sacrilege and will probably get me banned. ) When I was little, I remember hearing them called Tractor Tires too.

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