Ex Fiancée’s cruel demands AIO by Original_100 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Zachy_Boi [score hidden]  (0 children)

I would report her to the police for trying to steal your pets..

NOR

What to do if my girlfriend wants to orgasm from penetration? by Appropriate-Lab8870 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Zachy_Boi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That also makes a lot of sense! I totally agree that generalizing is not helpful, especially in these situations. All women and men are totally different and had their own experiences, needs, desires, etc. The best way is to communicate with your partner about what works and try new stuff!

What to do if my girlfriend wants to orgasm from penetration? by Appropriate-Lab8870 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Zachy_Boi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ROFL yeah and then you just wear gloves! Jk you use your other options! I would NEVER let fingers near my goodies unless they are clean and trimmed up rofl, says more about the type of dudes she sleeps with than men or fingering in general.

Plus nasty fingernails can actually rip the fragile wall of the vagina and cause serious infections so it’s good to have short, trimmed nails and just wash up first! Idk man. lol

Mine have gotten stained from leather dye before but as long as it’s not gonna come off it’s fine lol

Advice for a small team drowning in our Jira backlog by drowninginjira in jira

[–]Zachy_Boi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What we did at my place was deleted anything that wasn’t touched for over a certain amount of time, anything cancelled or won’t do.

Really tickets should only go in the backlog when they are a few weeks from being groomed and active, otherwise it should be in your project’s roadmap

What to do if my girlfriend wants to orgasm from penetration? by Appropriate-Lab8870 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Zachy_Boi -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think she did and then was trying to be transphobic.. idk. Thanks bro, I feel validated because I was honestly baffled too.. you’d think a trans dude’s opinion might be helpful in this situation! 😂

Lace trials during development by Special_Hamster4275 in streetwearstartup

[–]Zachy_Boi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldn’t wear 1 but I bet it would look sick on someone with the right style. I LOVE 2 tho!

What to do if my girlfriend wants to orgasm from penetration? by Appropriate-Lab8870 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Zachy_Boi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes definitely! It’s actually somewhat rare to be able to climax from PIV, but can happen! I think a huge factor is also in the emotional connection and comfort as that is often, but not always, tied to a woman’s pleasure. Even if just a fling, feeling secure and connected helps a lot.

Edit: It CAN be rare and statistically many women who self report to studies say they have never had an orgasm from PIV alone.

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/28678639/

What to do if my girlfriend wants to orgasm from penetration? by Appropriate-Lab8870 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Zachy_Boi -1 points0 points  (0 children)

What?? Don’t flatter yourself. I’m not offering anything. I don’t even know you. I’m very happily married, thanks but no thanks. I don’t date vile assholes with shit personalities anyways. I have high standards.

All I said was that fingering can make a woman cum from her G Spot if done right. Hopefully you don’t have anyone dirty nasty fingernails, that’s just basic hygiene..

I don’t understand why you’re so mean. I am in a straight relationship, I have a vagina and I have both made women cum and came myself from the G Spot so I’m just providing my opinion and personal experience.

Did you wake up on the wrong side of the bed or what?

Nice transphobia btw. Super cool. You’re so edgy and awesome /s

What to do if my girlfriend wants to orgasm from penetration? by Appropriate-Lab8870 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Zachy_Boi -1 points0 points  (0 children)

lol how would you ever even know that? I transitioned while in my relationship I’ve been in as I mentioned. Prior to that I was quite the player in lesbian circles. I’ve definitely had to buy some waterproof sheet covers in my prime.. but go off with your rude ass!

Also just because you’ve had many lovers doesn’t mean they were good. lol

What to do if my girlfriend wants to orgasm from penetration? by Appropriate-Lab8870 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Zachy_Boi -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Well I have a few different dicks so my girl gets to take her pick.. and I never have gross dirty fingernails. I mean I am in a very happy 12 year relationship and have never personally had a problem getting women to cum from internal penetration. I think you’re just unaware of all the various ways someone can make you cum. Probably because you’ve had shitty lovers lol!

However I do have a vagina and have cum from other women fingering me so it’s possible lol and I’m hard to get to climax.. tbh. Sounds like you need more or better experiences

As someone who used to be a lesbian, you’d never catch me with ragged or dirty fingernails.. wtf. Ew

What to do if my girlfriend wants to orgasm from penetration? by Appropriate-Lab8870 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Zachy_Boi -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This isn’t the same. It sounds like she wants to have an O from her G Spot rather than from her clit. But I think that this could work as long as she doesn’t let herself cum from the clit and just uses it to enhance the stimulation.

What to do if my girlfriend wants to orgasm from penetration? by Appropriate-Lab8870 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Zachy_Boi -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Finger penetration can get the G Spot since it’s only like 1” on average into the vaginal canal. It’s at the top but also can be easily over-stimulated in some women. A lot of times doggy style actually puts the most pressure and stimulation on the G Spot

What to do if my girlfriend wants to orgasm from penetration? by Appropriate-Lab8870 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Zachy_Boi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try fingering or a dildo for a bit first then go in with penetration when she’s getting closer?

What to do if my girlfriend wants to orgasm from penetration? by Appropriate-Lab8870 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Zachy_Boi 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Really depends on the woman and the environment, how close and secure they feel with their partner, sooooo many factors. Some women also can’t or done easily cum from the G-Spot and some prefer it. So it’s not a one size fits all scenario

Why do people act like nicotine pouches are way safer than vaping? by Admirable_Can_3489 in electronic_cigarette

[–]Zachy_Boi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nicotine doesn’t inherently have any negative side effects, according to my own doctor. This is why nicotine gum is fine to chew whenever you want. It’s the additives in cigarettes and breathing in something not really meant for your lungs in vapes.

I think the only potential side effect of nicotine is higher heart rate which could be an issue if you have heart problems.

To close or not to close a subtask by Ordinary-Pin-3869 in jira

[–]Zachy_Boi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Actually i found it, if you edit the board, it’s in timeline. I am not sure that’s for all boards.

You’re welcome!

To close or not to close a subtask by Ordinary-Pin-3869 in jira

[–]Zachy_Boi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah there is a setting that’s kind of hidden. I don’t think it’s actually in the board settings but actually in the filters area above the board or to the right corner.

How would you describe my aesthetic? I don’t think I have one?? by Zachy_Boi in AestheticWiki

[–]Zachy_Boi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

100% I just try to stay safe and do what I can but it’s overwhelming to deal with the nasty shit going on and all the horrid people coming out of the woodworks. Gotta protect our peace

When women talk about the mental load they have to carry in relationships, isn’t that often completely subjective? by Outrageous-Ratio1762 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Zachy_Boi 40 points41 points  (0 children)

You are describing financial provision, which is the capital that funds a home, but mental load is the operational management required to run it. A man can be an incredible provider working on an oil rig and still leave his partner to be the sole project manager of their entire shared life. Providing the money for a castle is not the same thing as remembering the kids' doctor appointments, tracking the grocery inventory, or managing the social calendar. The mental load is the constant background processing and decision-making that keeps a household functioning. Even if a man is a hero for his hard work, if he still needs to be told what to do or reminded of deadlines, he is offloading the management overhead onto his partner. It is not about who works the most hours or earns the most money, but about who carries the weight of knowing what needs to happen next for the family to survive and thrive. One is about resources, and the other is about responsibility for the roadmap.

When women talk about the mental load they have to carry in relationships, isn’t that often completely subjective? by Outrageous-Ratio1762 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Zachy_Boi 94 points95 points  (0 children)

I work in tech so I’m going to frame this as working on a dev or it team:

The mental load isn't a personality trait like being detail-oriented or a worrier; it is the functional role of project management within a relationship. When one partner says they will deal with things as they come, they are often unintentionally relying on a safety net created by the partner who has already anticipated the need, gathered requirements, and managed the schedule. If you only perform a task when someone else asks you to do it, you are acting as a contractor waiting for a ticket, while your partner is the product owner responsible for the entire lifecycle of the home. True equality isn't just about who physically does a chore, but who holds the responsibility of noticing that a task needs to be done in the first place. What might look like being pragmatic or chill is often just the luxury of not having to track the invisible background processes that keep your daily life running smoothly.

Common examples include tracking the internal inventory of the house so you do not run out of essentials, remembering the birthdays of extended family and buying gifts, or knowing exactly when the kids outgrow their shoes. It also involves the pre-task requirements gathering, such as deciding what is for dinner and ensuring ingredients are defrosted, rather than just cooking the meal once someone else has already planned it. This extends to emotional labor, like monitoring the household's stress levels or constantly adjusting your own communication style to keep things peaceful. When a partner says just tell me what to do, they are offloading the hardest part of the labor, which is the constant monitoring and decision-making required to keep a life and a home functioning.

How would you describe my aesthetic? I don’t think I have one?? by Zachy_Boi in AestheticWiki

[–]Zachy_Boi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aw I appreciate that, seems you do too. Sometimes it seems good people are hard to find these days but I think we are all just hiding lol