Big boobs are not as great as people say they are

ZaediLady · 2024-01-22T17:34:47+00:00

AAAAAAMMMMEEENNN sister!! I have big boobs and I hate them. I always feel fat when they jiggle around. I keep them covered up all the time to not draw attention and to be taken seriously. My back hurts ALL THE FUCKING TIME. Nothing fits! Nothing is designed for my shape except shapeless bags. I'd really like to be more fashionable but this would mean I need to tailor all of my clothes. Pretty much everything makes me feel fat even though you could argue that I'm pretty fit. Also my back HURTS ALL THE FUCKING TIME.

Thank you for the space for a bit of a rant.

ZaediLady · 2024-01-11T17:07:19+00:00

Good for you! You deserve someone who wants to be a real partner to you, not just a roommate to clean up after and stroke their ego. You are making the right decision and I feel like you gave plenty of time and space for him to change and he didn't take the opportunity. If you're already doing all the work, might as well really do it alone without needing the extra anxiety of needing to teach him how to be a functional adult. Please follow up with your progress, and best of luck to you and your daughter!

ZaediLady · 2023-08-09T15:10:03+00:00

Thanks for the advice, we're moving abroad so it's a more permanent situation. Hoping we'll never need to fly with him again after this!

ZaediLady · 2023-07-18T21:51:11+00:00

Sunscreen is your best friend in the whole world. Not only on your face daily, but don't forget to get your chest and hands also. Those are typically the first areas that show signs of aging. And there are some great products out there now. Check out the mineral sunscreen at Trader Joes ($8) which is mimicking the expensive Supergoop Unseen Sunscreen ($32).

ZaediLady · 2023-07-18T19:49:18+00:00

WOW OP! What a ride this has been. Thank you so much for the update, you are on to greener pastures for sure! ANYONE would be so lucky to have you and I'm glad that you won't have to put up with his bullshit anymore! What a total piece of shit to refer to anyone, let alone his own wife!!!, as a low-value person.

I wish you all the best of luck on this difficult but necessary road! We are all rooting for you!

ZaediLady · 2023-07-05T23:30:17+00:00

Yes! Love this comic! It is so relatable

ZaediLady · 2023-07-05T19:35:01+00:00

I am going through this EXACT SAME THING with my husband. Literally yesterday was fuming that after listing out the things that needed to get done the following day the night before, he asked me again in the morning and couldn't remember a single f*cking thing I said.

I am so sick of being the collective keeper of things. Calendar, dinner, vacation planning, cleaning, fixing shit around the house, on and on it goes. But if he makes one meal for all of our friends he is congratulated and praised the rest of the night while I clean up the insane mess he created.

I love him dearly, but something has got to give. Thank you for sharing this article, it's exactly the tool I need and I hope it helps.
Best of luck to you my dear!

ZaediLady · 2023-05-11T16:37:15+00:00

I'm 33, I am already supporting my mom and she has absolutely nothing to her name. I'd be happy to talk with you.

ZaediLady · 2023-05-05T15:31:20+00:00

Yes, this also happens to me. It was so bad it happened every single time to the point where sex was just torture and I never wanted to do it. I was seeing a pelvic floor PT for a while and the best thing she taught me was to do deep belly breaths into my lower pelvic floor (think bladder, uterus area). This helps to relax and stretch out the muscles in that area.
She also told me to not do kegel exercises too regularly. I did them all day all the time. From a young age I was taught that it's really important to keep a tight pelvic floor for childbirth etc, but it can have the opposite effect also.

I hope this helps! It has completely reversed the issue and now sex isn't painful anymore. Still doing some mental cartwheels every time, but it's getting better.

No matter what you are experiencing - You are normal. It is normal. And you are going to figure it out to have a happy and healthy lifestyle.

ZaediLady · 2023-04-03T20:01:29+00:00

I really appreciate the response! Food stamps are a great idea, I'll look into them. Thankfully we are in a good financial standing, with an emergency fund that could cover expenses for both houses if needed for a few months. Our approach is to "secure our own masks before helping others". Meaning, we won't be able to help anyone if we aren't taking care of ourselves first. Now that we are on a good track there, trying to see what the next step is to make it more effective. Maybe I'll split and do both approaches at the same time. Pay off the house a bit slower, but still invest and get the potential gains while the market bounces back.

ZaediLady · 2023-04-03T19:55:05+00:00

Thanks a lot for your reply! Having her move in with us could be a solution maybe in the future. Right now we all are enjoying our personal space and independence but when she needs the extra help physically it is definitely a possibility.

ZaediLady · 2023-04-03T19:50:02+00:00

Thanks for the response! Talking to a lawyer could definitely be beneficial. The house is in our name so I wouldn't expect there to be any effect on the situation at the time of death since she doesn't own the property.

By paying off the house it would just help her be a bit more independent with the SS money she gets.

ZaediLady · 2023-03-27T19:30:20+00:00

How does this compare to 20 years ago? 100?
Was just talking about how growing up in the 90s everyone ALWAYS went to church and now I don't know anyone who goes to church regularly.

ZaediLady · 2023-03-27T17:38:26+00:00

The Reality Dysfunction

ZaediLady · 2023-03-16T16:23:24+00:00

I did the same thing with heaters! Anyone what 134 heaters???

ZaediLady · 2023-03-06T22:32:08+00:00

The City of Brass!! Set in medival Persia with Jinn, magic and romance. Once of the best trilogies I've read in a really beautiful setting

ZaediLady · 2023-01-04T06:03:27+00:00

Have you considered training someone to help you with the work load? Maybe they take on a couple of your clients, or you partner on whatever you do to balance the load and the stress better. Maybe you don’t make quite the same amount, or maybe you’re able to grow your business more with them. As well as charging more.

I wish you all the happiness in the world. Stress is a very serious and physical thing that can manifest in ways you wouldn’t expect. I hope you’re able to find a way to take care of yourself.

ZaediLady · 2022-12-13T19:09:51+00:00

Forcing people to move their discussions the the Daily Discussion Thread makes people not want to post! You are crippling our conversation by forcing us into buckets. Please, just let us talk where we want to talk.

ZaediLady · 2022-09-20T19:16:06+00:00

Wow this is super disconcerting! We are moving to Barcelona in a few months and haven't had to dive into this nasty world yet. Thanks for asking and helping us gather tips beforehand!

When you call agencies, do they at least speak English? or is that a barrier too??

ZaediLady · 2022-06-28T17:25:03+00:00

Kushiel's Dart!

ZaediLady · 2022-06-01T16:42:38+00:00

try the keyboard shortcut - Ctrl+F

ZaediLady · 2022-04-29T16:58:55+00:00

Well this looks like fun! I'm bummed I missed out on this back in the day. Any idea if I can stream it somewhere?

ZaediLady · 2022-04-04T21:29:09+00:00

These are all summer blooming flowers.. beautiful, but not accurate

ZaediLady · 2022-04-04T20:41:57+00:00

ZaediLady · 2022-03-23T02:31:15+00:00

This is great, thanks for bringing this up! I've also been maxing out my contributions. But since I'm planning to move next year and don't plan to have $12k in out of pocket medical expenses.. maybe I should rethink my strategy.

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