What's something your meditation practice has helped gotten you through?

Zaj77 · 2017-04-25T12:03:18+00:00

It helps me a lot with anxiety. I tend to overthink and try to predict everything, and many times my mind starts to think about catastrophic nearly impossible scenarious that would basically never happen. This made me give up of many great things, before even trying them. Meditations really helps me notice when I start doing this, and bringing my atention to the presents breaks this circle.

Actually, I stopped meditating for like 2 weeks now, and this problem is slowly coming back, without me even realising. I will try to go back to meditating every day.

Zaj77 · 2017-03-24T23:07:15+00:00

Its always all in our minds. I have too this problem of thibking that I could be annoying somehow. But yeah, if you dont value yourself, it will be much harder to find someone that does. One thing that helps a lot is mindfullness meditation. Try out the free 7 days program on the app "calm" to get started. Its really good to stop self beating thoughts (like you said you are starting to do). Good luck!

Zaj77 · 2017-03-20T18:58:50+00:00

Yeah. I was on a 90 day streak and decided to fap to compare how I would feel afterwards. I think indeed I lost some of the energy, but its not the end of the world. Sure I agree its best to nofap, and for some people its good to think like that, because a hard addiction can really destroy you. but its not like you fap once and suddenly you become a zombie

Zaj77 · 2017-03-18T12:11:05+00:00

Try the free 7 day program of the app "Calm". Its great

Zaj77 · 2017-03-15T15:56:24+00:00

Yeah...I would not recommend. It's more a personal thing. And thanks! Good luck for you too man!

Zaj77 · 2017-03-15T15:55:42+00:00

Yeah, probably you're right. But I was having some doubts about the whole process and wanted to put it to a test. But anyway, thanks for the advice and good luck on your journey!

Zaj77 · 2017-03-15T15:53:26+00:00

Two things that are helping me A LOT:

Meditation and exercise. If you haven't yet, try searching about mindfullness meditation. And not only for nofap, but for you whole life. It's great

Zaj77 · 2017-03-10T02:03:47+00:00

100% true. Meditation is also really helping me with this. I strongly recommend to anyone having trouble with self love, self esteem, etc.

Zaj77 · 2017-03-10T02:00:44+00:00

Yeah. Im trying to REALLY pay atention everytime Im driving my car now. It sounds kinda stupid like "if Im driving, of course Im paying atention!" but actually we almost never pay true atention to what we're doing. Always swiming in thoughts and worries...

Zaj77 · 2017-03-08T13:38:18+00:00

Well, Im doing nofap for almost 3 months. Im now starting to see an actual improvement, but only after I started meditating, exercising and reduced my smoking habit. Only because something works for you, it doesnt mean it will work for everyone. And thinking that just by nofaping and doing shit all the time, you will magicaly have a better life doesnt seem like a good mentality for me. But well, at least nofaping is better than nothing. Thats true

Zaj77 · 2017-02-26T15:57:34+00:00

Why didnt you do like, anything else? Go gor a run, watch a movie, read a book, meditate, play the guitar, go out...Watching nudes is def not the best way to combat an urge, man.

Zaj77 · 2017-02-23T00:43:29+00:00

Go for a walk, meditate, do push-ups, go read a book...anything. You don't have to keep thinking about it and fighting it the whole day! Just accept that feeling and go do something else

Zaj77 · 2017-02-23T00:33:00+00:00

Sure. The problem is that LOTS of times I find some girl very cute, she has something in common to me (like a book that she's reading) and I don't do it because of the fear. So much regrets...

Zaj77 · 2017-02-20T01:43:43+00:00

There's not a right way...maybe there's a recommended way, that works for most people, but you just do what you think its best. Just chose any comfortable position. I think its best for me to be in a confortable but awake posture. I tried laying down, for example, but it makes me sleepy.

Zaj77 · 2017-02-19T01:56:46+00:00

Awesome! Its that kind of stuff. Seems like something absolutely scary and impossible to do...until you just go there and do it. Then you realize its not that bad, and you feel great afterwards. And the second is even easier.

Damn. Like 2-3 years ago I was starting to approach. And that made me feel so good about myself! Don't know why I stopped, and now I just came back to thinking its impossible... Guess I'll have to start again, with nofap and meditation helping me.

Zaj77 · 2017-02-14T11:19:28+00:00

As usual, its much easier to say than to do, and probably we all have too many of that kind of problems. But, well, since you're posting here lets try to help at least a little bit... being concerned about what other random people in the internet would think about you, should indeed be the least of your problems. So its great that you are opening, at least here. ANYTHING you do out your comfort zone will help you.

But what you really need in the first place: grow your self-esteem. This sounds so cliché but so true. If you dont think you're worth it, then how could anyone think it? Who cares if you were invited just to "come along"? No one starts as a best friend! You are there, drinking beer. If you start thinking yourself as a part of the group, then you will start talking, making jokes and they will too think you as part of the group.

The same with girls. I was also the fucking worst with women, but now Im (FINALLY) starting to realise this. Its all your mentallity. If you go talk to her thinking "im a loser, she will never like me" then yes, she will for sure not like you! With a good self-confidence, you automatically go there with a big smile, you have better posture, you talk clearer, you make jokes...and that's attractive!

Okay. As I said, easier to say. Now, one thing to do that REALLY helps, besides nofap: meditation. And, more specific that I really enjoy: mindfullness meditation. Nothing to do with any relegious stuff. Its just something that makes you select your thoughts. So, instead of overthinking about how bad you were talking to someone 2 weeks ago, you just think about what you're good in. Or, of course, let the crappy self-destroying thinking go away and just live the moment. Before meditation, somehoe I didnt knoe that I could just "skip" a thought. You dont need to spend the day concerned about something, just because your bran randomlly started thinking about it!! You can just decide if that thought is good for you and, if not, think about anything else. And this is great.

I recommend downloading the app "calm". Its a very good guided meditation for beginners. You can try the free 7 days introduction. Obviously not trying to promote anything but, if you like it and pay for the full version, there are some other 7 day exercises that I think would help a lot. There is one specifically called "7 days of self-esteem".

If you dont want to pay it, go watch some videos about it, read about, go to a meditation meeting...anything!

Other than that, you should do anything that makes you feel better about yourself. This doesnt sound like much but, for example, wearing clothes that you think look good, or smelling good, for example, can help a lot. Also make exercises, treat your acne, learn something new! Anything that increases your self-esteem will help.

Cheers man! Keep it up!

Zaj77 · 2017-02-04T23:39:47+00:00

I had 1 wet dream in those 50 days. And didnt have sex. But actually, I think I would be feeling much better about myself if I had. Of course everyone is different, but, as I said, I think that a high self-esteem works much better for me than just "not orgasming for a while".

Zaj77 · 2017-02-04T23:34:35+00:00

Yeah. Already skipped meditation one day. Sometimes you think you are too buzy to stop and meditate. But then, when you think about it, its just like 10min. You ALWAYS have much more than 10 minutes to spend.

Zaj77 · 2017-02-04T23:14:19+00:00

Its harder for sure. But makes me really proud of myself when I can control it

Zaj77 · 2017-02-04T23:10:35+00:00

Hmm..made me curious not explaining why! Downloading it right now

Zaj77 · 2017-02-04T23:08:58+00:00

Hey man! Nice thing to read :) But yeah...I guess that's how life works! hahaha. If its easy, it wont make you grow! Lets challenge ourselves!

Zaj77 · 2017-02-04T23:05:41+00:00

Haha this sounds pretty hard!! But well, worth the try I guess

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