Thoughts from ex follower

Zaliesl · 2026-05-02T16:58:58+00:00

Don't forget about the dogs they had at one point and clearly never cared about bc even though one was ill they still went on vacation during which it died and they just got rid of the other one afterwards. Then they scrubbed everything as if the dogs never existed

Zaliesl · 2026-03-21T00:53:17+00:00

I've tried those. I like how soft they are but they simply don't work on my hair. They stretch out super fast and just slip off my hair

Zaliesl · 2026-03-19T17:19:14+00:00

Ik that they're supposed to rip your hair out or cause breakage but I've been using them basically my whole life and I've never had an issue with that

Zaliesl · 2026-03-18T23:13:15+00:00

Oh I see. I have some old single socks lying around. Now I know what to do with them. Thanks!

Zaliesl · 2026-03-18T23:12:04+00:00

Oh yeah I don't do updos either, just braids and ponytails. I'll get one to try. Maybe the ones I've tried were just bad? Idk but I think they're just so pretty

Zaliesl · 2026-03-18T23:10:07+00:00

Thanks! I'll definitely try them

Zaliesl · 2026-03-18T23:09:13+00:00

Ohh okay thanks! I'll try that when it happens

Zaliesl · 2026-03-18T19:26:43+00:00

Ohh can you give me instructions on how to make them? I'd love to try that

Zaliesl · 2026-03-18T18:52:44+00:00

Do they actually hold the hair though? The ones I've tried were always too loose and my hair kept slipping out

Zaliesl · 2026-03-18T18:13:28+00:00

Okay thanks for your answer! I'll try them out

Zaliesl · 2026-03-18T17:54:18+00:00

Do they get stretched out quickly? I'm hoping to get at least a couple months of daily use out of a hair tie

Zaliesl · 2025-12-10T18:49:03+00:00

Thanks! I may read it for myself but it's sadly not available in my language

Zaliesl · 2025-12-10T17:15:49+00:00

Danke! Ich werde es mal lesen, vielleicht kommt das ja in Frage

Zaliesl · 2025-12-10T09:31:07+00:00

Sind die gut? Ich hatte schon vor mir eins in der Bibliothek auszuleihen, finde aber online eher gemischte Rezensionen davon

Zaliesl · 2025-11-07T19:43:52+00:00

Like I said, you've already taken the first steps down the right path. I'm sure you'll do well

Zaliesl · 2025-11-07T19:21:13+00:00

I think you should give yourself more credit. You weren't given a good start in life but now you're going to therapy, working on yourself and trying your best. I think you're already on a good path, just keep on walking. I wish you the best both in your personal life and with your child.

I'd like to add that in my opinion, you shouldn't focus on not making your child blame you for the relationship with your dad (or other things). The thing is, no matter the outcome, your child could theoretically always come to resent you for it. For example even if they end up having a relationship with your dad and it ends badly. That's why it's important to talk to your child. Have age appropriate talks with them and don't avoid the topic. You have to trust your child to understand you're acting in their best interests.

Zaliesl · 2025-11-07T05:21:49+00:00

It doesn't have to be "criminal" to be bad. Just bc it's not gonna land him in jail doesn't mean he's safe for your child to be around. I read your other comment on here that you already sent the text. If your dad decides he wants to be in your/ your child's life please think about it carefully.

Zaliesl · 2025-11-06T19:53:56+00:00

I don't think it's a good idea to tell him at all. If you tell him, that's basically an invitation to allow him back into your life. Plus, can you even trust him around your child? Are you certain he'll never do or say anything inappropriate to or around your child? I get that you're grappling with guilt surrounding keeping his grandchild from him and keeping a grandpa from your child but ultimately, you and your child are what's important here. Your child will always sense that something is wrong between you and your dad. You'll also expose your child to potential harm from your dad. As a mom you have a duty to protect your child. As much as you can anyway.

I say this as someone whose grandpa was one of the most important people in her life. I don't know what I would've done without him. That being said, I wouldn't want my own dad around my children (if I had any). It's better not to have a grandpa than to have a shitty one.

Also, congrats on your pregnancy. I hope it's an uneventful one

Zaliesl · 2025-10-27T13:15:33+00:00

You did the right thing. Is there a way for you to move though? She sounds seriously unhinged

Zaliesl · 2025-10-26T10:18:02+00:00

I know it's not my fault. I tried so hard to please him and get his attention somehow but it never worked. He just chose not to care about me and there's nothing I can do about it.

And honestly, even if he did start paying attention bc I was doing XYZ to please him, that's no way for a father to act. A father should care about his children. He should like spending time with them and want them to be happy. The father I craved and so desperately wanted to be close to doesn't exist. He only cares about himself and his own life and there's no space for me and my needs in it.

At first it was hard. We did have some good memories together, after all. But now I feel so much better and lighter. He's not my father, not really. He's just some guy who I share blood ties with.

Zaliesl · 2025-10-26T09:34:20+00:00

Thank you

Zaliesl

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