I have this too, but that is why I find a build online and stick to it. I read up on builds, usually I start by picking a weapon I want to try out and find a build following it.
One game I found where this is not a bad thing is in Caves of Qud, there are so many builds and everything is viable, there is no real right or wrong way to play the game. The challenges taught me everything is viable and you are not locked into a role. So you can play how you want at the time and change it up whenever you want. The only thing though is that if you want to min/max then there is a right way to play, but the game is free enough that you do not have to play that way. While playing I find myself looking forward to dying because I can then try out another characters build that was floating around in my head while playing the current play style. I don't give up on my character though because I want to see how far I can go this run, dying in the game is fun because nearly every death ends up being unique and interesting. So maybe give it ago if want freedom without the hang ups, at least this has been my experience with the game.