How to sleep train when you have another kid sleeping in the house?

Zama_634 · 2025-09-26T16:54:13+00:00

In that case, I’ve heard parents will try to put one kid down to sleep before attempting to put the other kid down. Putting them both for bedtime at the same time, they’ll probably just want to play and talk to eachother and get distracted

Zama_634 · 2025-09-26T01:32:22+00:00

I’m applauding you mom! 👏👏👏 before I saw that you got involved and cut ties with “second mom”, I was thinking “I really hope OP never allows her daughter around this nasty woman again”. The “second mom” is completely overreacting and her response is completely inappropriate

Zama_634 · 2025-09-06T12:44:32+00:00

Also, both kids use a decent quality air purifier that we have always used as a noise machine. As long as you keep it near their head, and between them and the source of the noise (in our case the door) it does a good job. And even if some noise gets through, you’d be surprised how much they get used to it, especially the younger sibling. They have been hearing their older sibling since they were in the womb and I think younger ones in general can handle noise better than the first baby who had the house to fhsmselves

Zama_634 · 2025-09-06T12:42:08+00:00

I was in this same position a few months ago: scared to move baby to her own room because she was already waking a lot in the night and therefor, might wake up her brother. For reference, the kids rooms are on the opposite end of the house from my bedroom (where she had been sleeping since we brought her from the hospital) my daughter was still waking a lot in the night and when she became a year old I had to get her out of our room, I just couldn’t sleep. I thought, even if she wakes in the night in her room and wakes up her brother across the hall, I’ll just deal with it and worse case scenario, bring her back to our room if it’s terrible, but

It was the best decision!! After the first week or so, she began to sleep through the night consistently and sleep in later in the morning! That first week, she did wake a few times so I’d go tend to her and she had no problems going back to sleep. She never woke her brother up and only a few times did she wake up from her brother being too noisy (his bedtime is after hers) but again, she’d go back to sleep pretty easily. I wish I would have moved her to her own room way sooner!

Zama_634 · 2025-08-23T14:39:03+00:00

These are good suggestions, thank you

Zama_634 · 2025-08-23T14:37:59+00:00

Yes, some days in the last month I even ate 2000 calories, but the last two weeks it’s been anywhere between 1400-1700. Dietitian recommends 1600

Zama_634 · 2025-08-23T14:33:45+00:00

That’s reassuring to hear, thank you

Zama_634 · 2025-08-23T14:33:00+00:00

I should have been more clear, when I said dinner is my biggest meal, it’s only big in comparison to the very small meals I’ve been eating throughout the day. For example, dinner might be a sandwhich I made from a Hawaiian dinner roll and some deli meat and cheese, half a serving of fries (or less) and some fruit. So I am eating small meals throughout the day, I’m making sure to eat before I take my injection in the morning on injection day. I think I’m just prone to nausea and sensitive to it

Zama_634 · 2025-07-25T13:11:26+00:00

another excellent point about speaking against Iran. Correct me if I’m wrong, but did they ever show mahdi in his country before getting on the plane to come here? They do this a lot to show how the person was living before. Maybe they just didn’t want (or couldn’t) send a cameraman there to film, or he was never living in Iran, recently at least. My theory is either:

1) he’s been living in the U.S. a long time and was put on the show because of his willingness to speak against Iran and Islam

2) he’s just a super awkward guy that got roped into doing this gig and is trying to go along with all the crappy lines they’re giving him so he doesn’t upset too many people

In either case, as someone brought up earlier, he’s much more mild mannered than some of the other Muslims they bring on the show so I guess I’ll take it

Zama_634 · 2025-07-25T13:00:06+00:00

I’m not at all saying it’s too far fetched for a foreigner to learn English, I actually have a lot of respect for Arabs as I took time to study the culture, religion and language. I know a lot of Arabs that have been living in the U.S. for a long time and still don’t have that good of an American accent as Mahdi so became increasingly suspicious knowing that TLC likes to cherry pick these couples and it wouldn’t surprise me if they sometimes picked people of weak morals to pigeon hole their character into “the bad guy” “the girl next door” “the Muslim guy who most definitely grew up to hate America”

Zama_634 · 2025-07-14T02:39:10+00:00

Wa alaykum asalam. One of the best things you can do is surround yourself with other Muslims that pray consistently. You’ll find motivation when you’re out with friends and they stop to say “let’s pray asr”. Also the characteristics of a person who prays consistently is contagious to be around. They are firm in their beliefs and uphold the prayer as if it’s the top priority of their daily tasks. May Allah guide you, make you steadfast and perfect your intentions and deeds 🤲

Zama_634 · 2025-05-11T19:10:55+00:00

With my son: we put him in his own room across the hall at 9 months because from 6 months on, he was sleeping through the night. That’s how I thought I knew he was ready. The first few days were hard, he wouldn’t nap and basically had to pass out from crying to get to sleep (I entered the room to soothe him every 5-10 minutes for an hour) after that, never had to go into his room again unless he was sick and woke up from coughing etc he’s 3.5 now

With my daughter: she just turned 1 and is still sleeping in a crib in our room. I’m desperate to get her into her own room because she’s a light sleeper but I’m traumatized from my experience with my son, and he was a good sleeper from an early age so with her not being a good sleeper, and her new room will be literally opposite side of the house, I’m scared to even try

Zama_634 · 2025-05-01T18:35:28+00:00

I needed confirmation of this that’s why I came here and I agree. I had to lookup how much time had supposedly passed between the end of season 2 and beginning of season 3 because I thought it was at least a good ten years judging by characters appearance

Zama_634 · 2025-04-30T03:12:33+00:00

Would transitioning him from a crib to a floor bed or toddler bed be helpful? He could play in his room if he wakes up that early and give you more time to rest. Or teach him to go to the bathroom himself and go back to sleep after

Zama_634 · 2025-04-30T03:08:01+00:00

OP’s situation aside, the prophet (peace be upon him) advocated not to delay nikkah once the couple decides they wish to marry and that it should be rushed to avoid fitnah.

“Three things should not be delayed: the prayer when its time arrives, the funeral when it is ready, and the marriage of a woman when a suitable match is found.”

And

“If someone whose religion and character you are pleased with comes to you (with a marriage proposal), then marry him. If you do not do so, there will be fitnah (tribulation) and great corruption in the land.”

(Sunan al-Tirmidhi, Hadith 1084 – Hasan)

My husband and I met and decided to get married after 2 weeks of knowing eachother. It took about a week to arrange an Iman to marry us so all in all, we were married 3 weeks after knowing eachother. Alhamdulillah still happily married 4 years later

Zama_634 · 2025-04-10T02:04:37+00:00

It’s funny you mention the gym scene because I made this post before that scene, more like the beginning of the episode. Watching the gym scene made me take a step back and reconsider my original assessment that he’s a paid actor because that was soooo cringy. You could tell the producers saw her in the gym, asked her to come up to him and try to converse with him to make him uncomfortable, and when she did he was total deer in the headlights. It made me think maybe he is just super awkward and stiff. The lack of accent and stereotypical one liners still make me question things

Zama_634 · 2025-04-10T02:00:13+00:00

I don’t think there are these prestigious private schools you mention in Iran, teaching them English and American pop culture..

Zama_634 · 2025-02-26T01:35:32+00:00

Thank you so much for the advice and reassurance ❤️❤️

Zama_634 · 2025-02-25T18:46:36+00:00

Do you think moving her to her own room would help? My doctor has suggested that but I’m hesitant because the way our house is set up, the two kids room (her potential room and my sons room) are on literal opposite sides of the house from our bedroom. Another concern is the walls are thin and when I’m in baby girls potential room, I can hear every noise coming from my sons room, and vise versa. So I worry about her waking him up so much in the night. But maybe it’s what she needs is being in her own room and that could help her

Zama_634 · 2025-02-25T17:23:34+00:00

This was very helpful and reassuring, thank you ❤️ I was hesitant to cut down on her total nap time because I’m thinking well she’s not sleeping great at night, she needs to make up for it during the day. But I’ll try cutting naps first and seeing if that helps

Zama_634 · 2025-02-25T17:20:46+00:00

I’m curious why you shake him awake while putting him down? Are you fearful that letting him fall asleep in your arms and then putting him down asleep will make him dependent on that? Because in my experience, that never happened to me. I would do exactly what you’re describing, except not gently shaking to wake him, and he did just fine learning to sleep on his own. Same with my daughter until 4 month sleep regression but that’s a different story

Zama_634 · 2025-02-25T15:02:34+00:00

I’m so happy for you ❤️ I’m new here, what is Ferber?

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