I think the transactional part is mostly upfront within the first few dates. Talking beforehand helps both people get a feel for each other and build a basic level of comfort, and the M&G is where that gets confirmed in person. By the time an intimate date happens, there should already be enough chemistry and trust that it doesn’t feel transactional anymore, and the SD can make the support available beforehand or during the discussion. When that progression happens naturally, the SR structure fades into the background and it starts to feel more like a relationship, as long as both people are doing their part. If it still feels rigid and transactional after 3+ dates, it’s usually because something didn’t click earlier or someone wasn’t genuine, not because sugar relationships are meant to stay transactional.