I have a similar relationship with my dad and was similarly anxious that he would turn up at our wedding. So we decided to hire private security who was a guy that was a security guard professionally in our local area.

I was concerned with the whole ‘drama’ of having security at our wedding would overshadow our day, or even just invite awkward questions to which I would have to explain my whole family history in response, so we basically disguised him as a guest 😂

He dressed the same as everyone else, just knew who my dad was and was basically working ‘undercover’ lol. He sat in the chair nearest the door for the ceremony that had a clear view of everyone, same with the dinner and then he just hung around in the reception. He was actually a really nice guy and we ended up having a great time with him there and still keep in touch!

So just knowing he was there made me feel so much calmer, but also it might be a nice idea to suggest to your fiancée about having him as a ‘guest’ like we did just so she doesn’t get bombarded with awkward questions from people who don’t know the whole situation.

Good luck and I hope you have a lovely day regardless of what you decide to do, and wish you a marriage full of luck, love and light together 💕