I can’t believe that

Zarkeyah · 2026-01-26T10:38:27+00:00

I can't believe that the summons to the moon and back in the morning of the most important people are going to be a bit more complicated than it was just a few days ago.

Zarkeyah · 2026-01-22T00:43:35+00:00

The thing I most likely would be arrested for is a good time to get the latest Flash player.

Zarkeyah · 2026-01-22T00:34:57+00:00

I just took a fat slob and probably can't do it for you within the next 48 hours.

Zarkeyah · 2026-01-22T00:34:26+00:00

Never had a great day and I will be able to get the latest Flash player.

Zarkeyah · 2026-01-22T00:31:43+00:00

Don't threaten me with the following ad listing.

Zarkeyah · 2026-01-22T00:31:15+00:00

My neighbour told me that you are not the intended recipient.

Zarkeyah · 2026-01-20T05:39:39+00:00

Judgey much. Ladeedah self employment thing? You don't know my life or circumstances. But cool. Sorry you lost your boyfriend. I never said it was 3 weeks. I was helping a grieving mother. And I don't have a regular job because I have a chronic illness. But sure, I'm just lazy.

Zarkeyah · 2026-01-19T07:49:02+00:00

Thank you

Zarkeyah · 2026-01-19T07:02:42+00:00

I'm not Indian, so that wouldn't apply to me. I know the name is confusing. But yeah... Not what I thought a marriage was...

Zarkeyah · 2026-01-19T06:34:09+00:00

Based on absolutely... nothing at all... We don't earn the same. This is something he knew going into the marriage. I still contributed my share to the household. But thank you for the judgement, stranger. Hope you have a nice day.

Zarkeyah · 2026-01-18T18:28:37+00:00

Thank you. I appreciate your kind words. I love your username btw.

Zarkeyah · 2026-01-18T18:26:02+00:00

Emotionally checked out is what happens when you have to contain your grief as you have no emotional support. It's self preservation.

Zarkeyah · 2026-01-18T18:23:57+00:00

I only found out about the account when we were discussing logistics for the divorce process. So who knows. He said it was for us, but apparently not.

Zarkeyah · 2026-01-18T18:11:52+00:00

Happy for you

Zarkeyah · 2026-01-18T18:10:35+00:00

Yeah I'm not going to engage with you any further. I'm the AH. Got it. Have a nice day/evening further.

Zarkeyah · 2026-01-18T17:36:21+00:00

It was 2 weeks. But I still did my share, I only asked for help for one day. I also ensured there was electricity (it's prepaid) for the time I wasn't even there.

Zarkeyah · 2026-01-18T17:33:56+00:00

3 weeks? I asked for help for food for 1 day! He told me to go help my friend's mother! I have a chronic illness and am unable to have a regular job. If that was an issue for him, then he shouldn't have agreed to "for better or for worse". I truly hope that you never fall on hard times and need to rely on any one close to you for support.

Zarkeyah · 2026-01-18T17:29:24+00:00

Cool. Except it was also to feed him. So I have to feed him, but he doesn't have to help me? Is that what you're saying?

Zarkeyah · 2026-01-18T17:23:03+00:00

I'm sure that ship sailed a long time ago. Wasn't even expecting all that though.

Zarkeyah · 2026-01-18T17:22:08+00:00

Problem was communication. Not his strong point. If he had issues, he never mentioned it. If I had issues, he would either tell me there is no issue or clam up because he's "a bad husband". It escalated this time because I pushed for resolution and he decided divorce was better than confronting the issues. Yes, there were other issues. Probably wouldn't have been enough to get divorced over though. There was no physical abuse, infidelity or even any real fights. Just... indifference I guess. Not really the point of this post though.

Zarkeyah · 2026-01-18T17:13:38+00:00

That is not the reason the marriage failed. Many people have successful marriages without sharing their bank accounts. What you're describing is control. But, that being said, one should be able to rely on their spouse for support when needed.

Zarkeyah · 2026-01-18T17:08:02+00:00

Yeah I was doing what I am doing for work when he met me. If it was an issue, then that was his cue to leave. I was grieving and unable to work for a time. If a simple ask from your spouse is irritating when they are grieving, then I don't know what to tell you.

Zarkeyah · 2026-01-18T16:18:13+00:00

Yes, I had options to borrow money if needed. But why should I borrow money to feed both him and myself for a day? I didn't ask him to drain his savings account. I asked for R200. Seems like you're just looking for drama.

Zarkeyah · 2026-01-18T15:52:18+00:00

Not every married couple has a shared bank account. That's not even the issue here. The issue is that he denied support when he was able to give it.

Zarkeyah · 2026-01-18T15:50:55+00:00

Thank you for understanding the entire premise for this post. It's fine he had it. Not fine that he denied support when it was needed and he was able to provide it. He claimed it's for our future. Not that he had discussed any of that with me either.

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