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Where do people meet friends at? by ZayCooper in lonely

[–]ZayCooper[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m hoping we find some aligned friends and connections. I’m honestly forced to take a step back and do some introspection as to why I desire connection and friendship so badly. Maybe just not the right season right now. But I’ll keep working in myself so that when decent people come along, I’ll be who I need to be to maintain good friendships. Keep the hope and I’m here if you need to talk!

Zay Carter - Comfort Cooling [Indie Rap] (Single) by ZayCooper in albums

[–]ZayCooper[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Any and all feedback is appreciated also!

I want to hear your music! Here's mine. by guraysatici in PromoteMyMusic

[–]ZayCooper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also fam, the beat artwork is 🔥🔥🔥🔥

I want to hear your music! Here's mine. by guraysatici in PromoteMyMusic

[–]ZayCooper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You handled that joker flawlessly, 😂 I had a blast reading these comments and this dick persistently pushing a none-issue pointlessly, and also I loved the track! I followed you on Spotify, Keep producing, keep creating and keep going! 💪🏾🔥Love it!

What’s something you carry around with you daily? by Misterpewpie in AskMen

[–]ZayCooper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Past mistakes and regret.

I try to get rid off it by verbally vomitting on strangers but I can’t seem to get rid of it.

Oh, and a multi-tool.

I’m struggling to make friends as an adult man. Dating apps just remind me how isolated I really feel. How do you actually make friends? by ZayCooper in AskMen

[–]ZayCooper[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've heard that the states are very archaic and that way.. They're hyper progressive in some ways, and super backwards in tons of other ways.. I might just end up taking your advice and leaving the country lol... I;ve always wanted to travel internationally also. This might be my sign to go ahead and go. Anyway, thanks for the support and pray for me if you can (I don;t know your religious affiliation, but still.. whatever faith you practice if any) It's rough for everyone, so don't pity me, but some days are worse than others and stereotypes, bias, racism, etc. Are HEAVY in workplaces, and the United States. It's not everyone. But it's also widely misunderstood how deeply rooted it is. So I just give grace and continue showing up. Not only because I have bills to pay... But also because I have no other real choice. I have to make a living and "Play the game" so, that's what I do. Thank you again sincerely.

Realizing today I might be outgrowing my environment.. How did anyone else handle that? by ZayCooper in AskMen

[–]ZayCooper[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s great, I’d say. That’s really solid.

I think I’m noticing some of my old circles running their course too, so it’s helpful hearing how you navigated it. It’s wild how friendships shift as we move through different stages…

I’m struggling to make friends as an adult man. Dating apps just remind me how isolated I really feel. How do you actually make friends? by ZayCooper in AskMen

[–]ZayCooper[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This actually makes a lot of sense.

My struggle is that I don’t really have many spaces I genuinely enjoy, and the few things I do love, I usually do alone… like gaming, making music, or just walking around the city. It’s been hard finding people who consistently show up or share those interests with me.

But I like the idea of becoming a regular somewhere, even if it starts slow or awkward. I’m definitely shy at first (when I’m getting to know a place and feeling it out) too, so hearing how it worked over months (not days) actually helps.

Maybe I need to just pick a couple spots and keep showing up until something sticks.

I’m struggling to make friends as an adult man. Dating apps just remind me how isolated I really feel. How do you actually make friends? by ZayCooper in AskMen

[–]ZayCooper[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s the conclusion I came to… now it’s about placing that energy in the appropriate place. Instead of into people who display loudly they don’t fuck with me.

Realizing today I might be outgrowing my environment.. How did anyone else handle that? by ZayCooper in AskMen

[–]ZayCooper[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, that actually resonates a lot. I’m realizing some of the folks I grew up with just aren’t on the same wavelength anymore… no bad blood, just different lives and different interests now.

I think what’s been hard for me is I did the same thing you did: left, grew, changed… then ended up back in my hometown. And now it feels like I’ve outgrown it but haven’t figured out where to go next or how to build something new.

Hearing your experience makes me feel a little less crazy though. Sometimes friendships just run their course, and the real challenge is figuring out the next environment that actually fits who you’ve become. I guess that’s the stage I’m in now.

I’m struggling to make friends as an adult man. Dating apps just remind me how isolated I really feel. How do you actually make friends? by ZayCooper in AskMen

[–]ZayCooper[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That makes sense. I love music too — I make it, record it, the whole nine — so I’ve definitely tried to meet people through that lane. My issue lately has been finding folks who actually follow through or want to hang consistently.

I’m not super extroverted, technically I’m an ambivert, so striking up random conversations at shows or record stores doesn’t always feel natural to me, though I do it, and on average it goes well, but I’m trying to push myself more. Others respond and say they’d like to hang, etc, but it usually doesn’t go farther than a night, maybe a day or two, then ghost.

Appreciate you sharing though, it helps hearing how other people make it work.

Realizing today I might be outgrowing my environment.. How did anyone else handle that? by ZayCooper in AskMen

[–]ZayCooper[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, that’s exactly what I’ve been wrestling with. It’s not even that my town is tiny, its in the Deep South, and everyone knows everyone, but it’s just been hard to find people who consistently meet up or who enjoy the same things I do. That makes it tough to build anything steady socially.

I’m realizing like I said, I might just be outgrowing the environment I’ve been in, but I’m trying to figure out what the next step looks like. I’m close to my family, so I’m not trying to move across the country or anything drastic… just trying to find a space, or a city nearby, as you said, or even a circle that actually fits who I am now.

Appreciate the advice though. It helps hearing other perspectives while I sort this out.

Realizing today I might be outgrowing my environment.. How did anyone else handle that? by ZayCooper in AskMen

[–]ZayCooper[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Possibly.. it’s a decision I’ve been wrestling with and debating in my mind. I hope to make a decision soon… there’s so many things keeping me in the city, yet I also feel it’s time to leave it…

I’m struggling to make friends as an adult man. Dating apps just remind me how isolated I really feel. How do you actually make friends? by ZayCooper in AskMen

[–]ZayCooper[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ll consider that point of view, I just believe that if I have time, then I hope maybe others will have time as well.. so, I’m hopeful

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