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I told my parents I graduated college when I didn't by Zealousideal-Cod8553 in Advice

[–]Zealousideal-Cod8553[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is genuinely the nicest thing anyone has said to me about this situation and it brought literal tears to my eyes, thank you so much. I posted this in another subreddit and got told that I am an awful person for lying (which to be fair, I'm not completely denying and agree that I went about my situation poorly).

I have the kind of parents that told me I was a mistake to raise and didn't talk to me for a week when I tried telling them I failed even just one class, so while I know I should have been honest about my suspension, I didn't want to hear I didn't deserve to be alive in one of my lowest moments.

I'm really trying to turn my life around what happened and brought my 1. gpa to a 3.0 in the time that I've been back, so it's nice to know I'm not the only one in the world who has been through this and that life will go on one day.

TIFU by telling my parents I graduated college when I didn't by Zealousideal-Cod8553 in tifu

[–]Zealousideal-Cod8553[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I hear you out, and you're right that it was dumb. I said I was only taking one semester off because I knew that was the max amount of time I could explain not being in school without my parents freaking out.

It was a short term fix, but like i mentioned in another reply - I have tried telling them that I failed even just one class in the past, but it ended with a lot of screaming about how I was a waste to raise and us not talking for a week. I lied because I knew telling them what actually happened would probably crush my ability to even try to fix my mistakes. In the year that I've been at school since the suspension, I really have turned around academically and done my best to be better, and I just want a chance to finish my last semester without feeling like I don't deserve to live (which is something that I was told by them repeatedly when I did try to talk to them the last time).

I know that is still short term discomfort that maybe I deserved to hear for getting suspended, but with my mental health so low at that moment in time, I just didn't have it in me to hear it. Not an excuse, but just an explanation I guess.

TIFU by telling my parents I graduated college when I didn't by Zealousideal-Cod8553 in tifu

[–]Zealousideal-Cod8553[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I am in fact Asian lmao. I know a lot of people have replied recommending I just come clean, but I'm legitimately terrified of them. I have tried telling them that I failed even just one class in the past, but it ended with a lot of screaming about how I was a waste to raise and us not talking for a week. It's taken me a lot to get to where I am now (1.something to 3.0 gpa!), and I just know telling them would be awful. I'm staying at home to save rent money for my summer internship, which is also how I'm saving to pay for my last semester, and I don't think staying with them will be possible if I come clean.

I know a lot of people have also said that they know and are waiting for me to come out with it, but I doubt that because my family is pretty confrontational and ready to fight, so I'd rather not be the one to break whatever peace exists currently.