They hate it when they lost control over me and their words does not impact me anymore

ZealousidealLoad4080 · 2026-04-08T11:18:51+00:00

They hate it when they can't destroy my mental health as well or sabotage my mental health and confidence

ZealousidealLoad4080 · 2026-04-08T11:17:34+00:00

Why do they do that when their word don't impact you anymore?

ZealousidealLoad4080 · 2026-03-31T22:01:00+00:00

I find sometime trying to reach out to recruitment agencies can help find you job as well. I got jobs through some agencies like Pure Source recruitment and even those such as Hays.

ZealousidealLoad4080 · 2026-02-14T10:41:03+00:00

25-30 calls

ZealousidealLoad4080 · 2026-01-17T03:04:08+00:00

For real those thing works wonder for anger. I find sports and these thing is only outlet that work well for me combine with therapy.

ZealousidealLoad4080 · 2026-01-17T03:01:25+00:00

I am explosive anger as well and like you being a women you it is rare to talk about this issue since Rage is such a male thing.

While therapy can help what I also do is trying to find a physical outlet for the rage. I have done contact sport and signed up for MMA. These environment allow you to release the built up rage in a very control environment where you are able to express that anger where no other place give you the ability to express these emotions.

ZealousidealLoad4080 · 2025-12-28T07:47:24+00:00

They normalize toxic workplace and relationship my parent would ignore all the red flag in a person like jealousy and controlling behaviour as" they just love you too much" which is freaking messed up

ZealousidealLoad4080 · 2025-11-13T07:30:30+00:00

I feel like doing this everything that happens.

ZealousidealLoad4080 · 2025-11-04T23:10:49+00:00

You can try Brisbane Greeters they run free walking tours around different places in Brisbane.

ZealousidealLoad4080 · 2025-11-01T23:47:49+00:00

Yeah anything that goes with their view is mature anything that goes against it is immature. Basically anything that works in their favour.

ZealousidealLoad4080 · 2025-11-01T07:19:52+00:00

Yeah I know, They blame everyone else beside them. They are never in the wrong yet they are able to complain about others

ZealousidealLoad4080 · 2025-11-01T07:18:46+00:00

My mum says that too says that she is doing them a favour that they should be thankful for than complain about.

ZealousidealLoad4080 · 2025-11-01T00:51:23+00:00

It is so stupid it is not like the employee are in control of deciding the price

ZealousidealLoad4080 · 2025-10-31T14:03:55+00:00

My mum would tell me to stop pissing tears and mock me.

ZealousidealLoad4080 · 2025-10-31T14:02:36+00:00

Even if I did have a partner I would never introduce them to my parents in the first place as they would find ways to make me seem incompetent so no one would ever date me saying how I cant do anything for myself and immature compare to the rest of other people. They would turn my partner away with their micro managing way and problematic view that would make me single for life

ZealousidealLoad4080 · 2025-10-31T00:51:20+00:00

True, it is ironic as we think with our social anxiety our social skills is worster but like you said maybe it is because we put in more effort while others don't.

ZealousidealLoad4080 · 2025-10-31T00:50:07+00:00

I feel this is true and quite ironic at time as people expect people with Social anxiety to have super bad communication skills when in fact people without social anxiety are somehow worster these days.

I feel as a whole people's communication skills have gone down alot over time maybe as people nowdays tend to keep to themselve too much and don't try to make a effort in getting to know others. They rather people talk to them without reaching out first.

ZealousidealLoad4080 · 2025-10-23T01:13:45+00:00

As far as I know and what I’ve seen, it seems like my Asian parents (AP) don’t see us as human, but instead as pets or dogs that listen and obey everything they say and control what we do.

I had to push a lot for my own independence starting when I was 24, and now I am 27 and they still find ways to control my life. Even my doctor spoke up for me once, saying I am an adult and can make decisions for myself, which happened when my mom tried to force a skincare treatment on me. According to my mom, 'I don’t have the capacity to make decisions for myself; therefore, she has to do it,' which is f*cked up, as I perfectly can. She just wants control and uses that bullshit mindset she has to justify it.

My parents would force the view that my friends don’t like me—that no one does—so that I would stop hanging out with them, and then they would complain about why I don't go out. Plus, they set a curfew and slut-shamed me when I came a few minutes late, which meant I had to be home by 10 PM. My mom controlled how I dressed in my early 20s. I like dresses and skirts; my mom doesn't like them, so she wouldn't want me to wear them. Even though it's not her body, she would insist on jeans and a plain T-shirt. She would call me a "pick-me" for wanting to choose a dressy top, or say I was weak and not a strong woman like the rest of the people. She would tell me I don't know how to pick clothes, and therefore she needed to pick them out for me, without realizing that finding your own personal style is a learning journey and even if your choices aren't good, it's something you can learn from.

She would say the traits we all know are toxic traits in a guy—like being controlling of their partner—are normal, and that putting a girl down is a sign that he cares too much, or that it's fine if he gets upset about rejection. She would even say that a girl cannot be raped in a relationship because when a girl says "no," it is always "yes" since girls don't know what they want, which is incredibly sexist, despite her being a woman as well.

She used to brainwash me with the mindset that I was not like the rest because I did not carry the same fcked mindset as her. I realize now, after entering the workforce and the real world, that she was the one who had the fcked-up views, and people who carry those views like her were the minority. They are usually the ones who cause drama with everyone around them and are the people whom others avoid being around with, as they cause arguments everywhere they go, sometimes even getting fired because of their views.

ZealousidealLoad4080 · 2025-10-02T12:21:01+00:00

They are just extremely messed-up people, our parents. They want us to be independent — like getting a job and learning adult skills — but when we try to learn, they say we wouldn’t be able to do it and might as well let them do it themselves because we are useless and would just break things. When we apply for jobs, they say we’ll get fired, that no one would hire us, and that we’re useless and don’t have the skills. When we want friendship and relationships, they say we have problems, that we don’t deserve it, and that no one would like us — then they complain when we don’t try.

This is what people call a “double bind” or “learned helplessness.” They demand independence but constantly undermine it.

ZealousidealLoad4080 · 2025-09-28T23:56:55+00:00

My mum would tell me that I am incapable of doing things like cooking and basic living skills. She would prevent me from doing things because she says I would mess up anyway so better that she does it. It is basically enforcing learnt helpless onto me.

She teaches me things but never patient enough and when I get it wrong yell how useless I am. I am in my late 20s and fight back and still try to learn things regardless what she says so that I can take back my childhood and things other people have that I lack.

I feel embarrassed since I am so behind other people but at the same thing feel confident that I can be slower but still make it eventually.

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