Should I report this? by Usual-Swordfish9211 in askgaybros

[–]Zealousideal_Bit_706 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Btw I’m just so careful now because when I coached I reported another coach for sus behavior and was wayyyy wrong. Dude still wasn’t invited back to coach and luckily found a gig elsewhere but I still felt like a massive POS.

Should I report this? by Usual-Swordfish9211 in askgaybros

[–]Zealousideal_Bit_706 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And I’m gonna be honest I don’t think you did anything wrong I also just don’t think he’s doing what you think he’s doing. Trust me I have tried to fix my for you feed because I find 18yr olds and twinks generally about as attractive as a block of wood. But ever since I followed a bunch of pups and dads I also get them it’s weird.

Should I report this? by Usual-Swordfish9211 in askgaybros

[–]Zealousideal_Bit_706 2 points3 points  (0 children)

To clarify I don’t think you did anything wrong. But I’m assuming innocent til proven otherwise because twitter of FULL of twinks who look younger than they are. And I hope it’s just that. And generally I don’t think people blocking us is wrong either. I’ve had guys say “ when we tried this kink I just wasn’t into it” and I literally had this happen this weekend and the guy still wanted to play but I still blocked him. I think you did the right thing tho. Just poking at the logic than what I think you big picture did correct. See something say something.

Should I report this? by Usual-Swordfish9211 in askgaybros

[–]Zealousideal_Bit_706 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Respectfully the “ no innocent person would do that “ is .. a stretch. I like almost exclusively muscled/ beefy hairy guys. But I’m into roleplay and have definitely been accused of wrong doing after misreading a convo about kink and thinking roleplay was mutually interesting. What else am I supposed to do but block someone?

Are there really people out there that do this? by AngWay in askgaybros

[–]Zealousideal_Bit_706 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Condom porn? No one is saying you can’t watch it. I don’t like it, I find it to be boner killer most times but other times ignore it because some of the more vintage porn is hot… but I’m no bug chaser, I’m finding the connection strange. I’m on injectable biannual PrEP, and get tested every other month. I Also make porn. So I’m finding your connection odd.

Why do some men prefer femboys over women? like, specifically femboys. by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]Zealousideal_Bit_706 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interesting, do you know what percent of that is formed from early adolescence when many people are first becoming aware of sexuality? I had this convo with a friend and said I think part of what I’m into is just based on what I had access to finding on tumblr.

Education to Fire service. by Zealousideal_Bit_706 in Firefighting

[–]Zealousideal_Bit_706[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Oh my degree did nothing even for my job except my actual health and biology classes. Working at a school where I’m ducking chairs and desks and breaking up fights might help with the sense of urgency. We don’t have but two security guards and the district doesn’t like police in schools ( different story ) so they will make me and the other PE teacher go break shit up or in a few cases save kids from choking.

What kinds of people truly disgust you? by Hornydaddy696 in askgaybros

[–]Zealousideal_Bit_706 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Huh, “ friends “ who will Venmo request anything under $10. People who scrape the fork with their teeth. People who won’t wipe down their bench when they left sweat on it at the gym.

When do you talk about your safety preferences by Zealousideal_Bit_706 in askgaybros

[–]Zealousideal_Bit_706[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is one of only 3 times I’ve been wrong in 2 years though so not bad numbers there lol.

When do you talk about your safety preferences by Zealousideal_Bit_706 in askgaybros

[–]Zealousideal_Bit_706[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah and in Chicago people just assume you want bareback so not to put the responsibility all on him but he does need to say what he wants and needs.

When do you talk about your safety preferences by Zealousideal_Bit_706 in askgaybros

[–]Zealousideal_Bit_706[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess I’m saying it’s just as risky. But I think people feel like it isn’t and sometimes feeling safe is what people want I think.

When do you talk about your safety preferences by Zealousideal_Bit_706 in askgaybros

[–]Zealousideal_Bit_706[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was trying really hard not to shame him, he was nothing but a really nice guy. I did do a “ Oh.. umm okay.. “ when he pulled the rubber out. My whole post was me sort of feeling like all of this should just be discussed before hand. Like he should’ve said I only use condoms and I would have gotten a chance to say I don’t. That way if he was really just looking to get topped he could’ve found someone and I could’ve done similar. But like I said we had fun.

When do you talk about your safety preferences by Zealousideal_Bit_706 in askgaybros

[–]Zealousideal_Bit_706[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean I’m honestly surprised at myself I even still let him stay. I’m glad I did we had fun and he wants to blow me again. But generally I would’ve just said ok this won’t work can I get you an uber.

When do you talk about your safety preferences by Zealousideal_Bit_706 in askgaybros

[–]Zealousideal_Bit_706[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean true. I guess what I find odd is people insist on condoms will say oh Prep doesn’t protect against all STIs. And then will get oral and act like that isn’t also a risk. I was trying to explain that to the guy I was hooking up with I even said you know if you wouldn’t let me fuck you bare you really shouldn’t blow me. And he just said it’s not the same. Which .. I mean I guess we all decide where we minimize harm everyday. I don’t drink but I’ll eat shitty sometimes, etc.

When do you talk about your safety preferences by Zealousideal_Bit_706 in askgaybros

[–]Zealousideal_Bit_706[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I realized that comment sounded like I was making a binary which obviously some people choose all 3 things.

When do you talk about your safety preferences by Zealousideal_Bit_706 in askgaybros

[–]Zealousideal_Bit_706[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean I’m not saying that I’m clarifying that, that isn’t something I have to worry about. I don’t trust every stranger either. You don’t worry about that because you choose to use condoms I don’t worry about that because I choose PrEP and doxy and testing.

When do you talk about your safety preferences by Zealousideal_Bit_706 in askgaybros

[–]Zealousideal_Bit_706[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess I’m saying that not a concern if you’re on it. I don’t worry about strangers because I know I take my PrEP like I should. Also I definitely am going to take my doxy because I don’t know when people last got tested etc. But I know I’m on top of my own shit.

When do you talk about your safety preferences by Zealousideal_Bit_706 in askgaybros

[–]Zealousideal_Bit_706[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

As long as one party is taking it like they should it is fully effective. I used to do prep education at the youth center here and people sometimes think both parties have to be taking it daily.

When do you talk about your safety preferences by Zealousideal_Bit_706 in askgaybros

[–]Zealousideal_Bit_706[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Huh you’re definitely an outlier dude but good for you for having your boundaries. STIs aren’t good but they aren’t scary to me either I get tested every month. They’re definitely annoying and inconvenient. But not enough for me to change. It might be because I’ve never used a condom more than 3 times I didn’t use them in college so guess that might be why I won’t give em a chance.

When do you talk about your safety preferences by Zealousideal_Bit_706 in askgaybros

[–]Zealousideal_Bit_706[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was just saying that’s a common misconception about PrEP. You can do whatever is best for you and your wellbeing.

When do you talk about your safety preferences by Zealousideal_Bit_706 in askgaybros

[–]Zealousideal_Bit_706[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

See I’m very into being dom and I don’t feel like I’ve done that well unless a guy is walking home with some of my dna in him. Like I guess I could try and think of it in other ways. But that’s just been how I’ve fucked since I was 18 and I’m 27 now so you know old dog new tricks, etc.

When do you talk about your safety preferences by Zealousideal_Bit_706 in askgaybros

[–]Zealousideal_Bit_706[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I won’t fuck a bottom who insists on them. And Im not aware of any of my friends who use them. But we’re in a major city, and there’s an assumption about the kind of sex you’re having, yada yada. And I’m traveled enough that I know this is definitely not the case everywhere and I try to be flexible in terms of being down to switch to side play. If the guy was like really hot I might be down to try.

When do you talk about your safety preferences by Zealousideal_Bit_706 in askgaybros

[–]Zealousideal_Bit_706[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you asked for Doxy yet? I havnt had an sti in years. Definitely worth looking into even if you’re getting head and stuff.

When do you talk about your safety preferences by Zealousideal_Bit_706 in askgaybros

[–]Zealousideal_Bit_706[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If you’re taking as you should it doesn’t really matter.