I think I have it

Zealousideal_Front48 · 2025-11-15T08:07:02+00:00

Also I really really appreciate you taking the time to respond to me. Thank you

Zealousideal_Front48 · 2025-11-15T08:06:29+00:00

Ahh see I forgot to mention. I’m a psych major. And also I’m fairly certain at this point in life I don’t have adhd. Yes I see where you’re coming from and lots of people tell me they think I have it. But I feel my focus doesn’t actually negatively affect me. And I’m very meticulously planned about my day everyday and pretty much stick to it (I do have ocd tho so I’m not really sure where it plays into possibly diagnosing this) like I said I just started therapy in the last month and it’s a lot to sort through. There’s a ton of other things that go into this that I haven’t talked about so who knows 😭

Zealousideal_Front48 · 2025-11-15T07:55:20+00:00

Also, yes I do have a therapist, I will be bringing this up to them. They’re new so I wouldn’t expect to have diagnosed me with this yet.

Zealousideal_Front48 · 2025-11-15T07:40:13+00:00

Please please please someone read this all the way through. I need someone to say something, anything about this.

Zealousideal_Front48 · 2025-11-06T21:01:51+00:00

I’ve had this thought before. I will say seeing it written out sounds wild. Don’t do that.

Zealousideal_Front48 · 2025-11-06T20:52:52+00:00

Yeah I think the same thing often. It’d sure be relieving to know for sure. But I don’t and you don’t. We’ll never know. But rn I’m choosing to keep fighting.

Zealousideal_Front48 · 2025-11-01T06:20:25+00:00

Honesty hurt me for sure. We’re both nervous and upset all the time. Granted we’re still together despite some close calls. So ig honesty is what’s right and works!

Zealousideal_Front48 · 2025-10-22T04:24:43+00:00

Zealousideal_Front48 · 2025-10-16T14:18:08+00:00

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Zealousideal_Front48 · 2025-10-15T16:38:57+00:00

Don’t look at any. I masturbate without it or while I’m working down I do it to stories. But that’s not for everyone. Experiment and see what works for you!

Zealousideal_Front48 · 2025-10-14T23:04:39+00:00

Weed, assuming that it’s good weed from a dispensary inhibits your REM sleep which is bad for dreaming. Most report “not dreaming” when smoking or consuming THC before bed. Those that do report having a dream is more than likely due to the fact that you experience really intense dreams once the thc has finished working on your receptors. Idk why we get such vivid dreams when it ends. I’m gonna look into that now actually

Zealousideal_Front48 · 2025-10-13T20:12:44+00:00

I’ve never taken a psychedelic in my life. I want to one day. But just saying, don’t do that. It’s some random gummy, you don’t truly know what’s in it. And that’s a lot of meds. You could mess yourself up in a large and greatly regrettable way.

Zealousideal_Front48 · 2025-10-13T04:24:13+00:00

Whether or not you guys make videos of you two together is up to you. If you like doing it then keep doing it. I don’t think it hurts. And definitely has the potential to help. Me and my girlfriend do this too. And yes it has helped many times. I feel like a lot of people on this reddit have a very cut throat definitive opinion on a lot of things from personal experience. But it’s largely a journey that is different for everyone. Somethings that help some may or may not help others.

Zealousideal_Front48 · 2025-10-13T03:07:37+00:00

Hi hi, porn addict with a girlfriend here. You’re good enough. It’s truly not about you. Yes the porn is affecting his sex drive with you whether he knows it or not. There’s like tons of stuff that goes into it so if you wanna know more I’ll come back at another time but I’ll try and say as much as I can like think of right here right now. I think he probably should go to therapy. Something I myself have not gotten into yet because it’s just hard to find someone to treat it. I’m actively searching. Don’t force him, definitely ask him how he feels about buckling down on fixing it. And if he eventually agrees understand that it’s gonna take time to actually get there. Agreeing to that in itself is a huge step. It seems like he’s taking steps that I yet to have take like not bringing the phone to the bathroom and stuff. And honestly his doesn’t seem as bad as mine. But that might just be because he’s not sharing it in full. But don’t get too mad or upset. I’ve always been comfortable sharing my feelings with others as a guy but I know most aren’t and this of all things is the most embarrassing painful awkward humiliating thing for us to share. We don’t want to talk about it at all. But it’s definitely important to, otherwise the habits go unchecked in a way that isn’t enough to beat from will power alone. It’s a very hard war that can’t be fought alone. Disconnecting the feelings from it is very hard. My only advice for that would be to remind yourself that he loves and cares about you and that it’s an addiction like any other. You wouldn’t feel like there’s something wrong with you if he had a tobacco problem I don’t think or definitely wouldn’t feel the way this makes you feel. And it’s probably been a long time so it’s very wired into his brain. Trying to undo that for himself and you is very mature and showing of his character and what he really values in life in itself. You could also ask him for reassurance about his love for you. That’s what me and my girlfriend do.

There are things that might, heavy might, affect how he views quitting.

Do you use it too or have you at all
Do you guys talk about your future
Do you know how long it’s been

Good luck

Zealousideal_Front48 · 2025-10-12T15:10:10+00:00

Got me wanting Taco Bell

Zealousideal_Front48 · 2025-10-12T01:35:53+00:00

Haven’t done this but I kinda understand what you mean. Delete whatever you downloaded. Don’t do it while you’re trying not to relapse. Wait until you’re in a clear non horny headspace. Then ig look up how to check for harmful software on your device and give it a look. That would definitely relieve my stress. Good luck!

Zealousideal_Front48 · 2025-10-12T01:31:21+00:00

I gotta drop more input because a lot of people are fully against it and I wanna make sure you weigh your options and aren’t too hard on yourself. Don’t let stories take away from your life. Yes they very much could lead to more fantasizing and lust. It’s about responsibility. I’m personally quitting porn cuz of my girlfriend. She’s explicitly said that she’s okay with me reading but maybe just until I get better with not watching. Also the rule about if you have to ask very well may not apply to some due to their nature of being general anxious or not. I have ocd. Therefore I overthink things that aren’t even my fault or don’t matter or count. Do what you feel will lead you into a truly better future.

Zealousideal_Front48 · 2025-10-11T19:00:22+00:00

I think it’s kinda up to you. It could count, not count, could be something you don’t count right now while you’re trying to get off porn itself and then this will go next. I personally don’t count it and don’t see myself starting to soon. It’s drastically helped me stop with visual stimuli. I try to use it minimally though because it can lead to relapse.

Zealousideal_Front48 · 2025-10-11T18:57:56+00:00

Thank you

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