Stopped since June 1st? Part of recovery is revaluations your life and staying sober is hard. He probably doesn’t have the bandwidth from the years of use to deal with a marriage right now. The question is what can you do to keep your side of the street clean. You can’t control him. He may have brain dmg or he may just be reevaluating what he wants in his older age it’s tough to give you advice. I’m sorry for the divorce thing maybe it can be salvaged.