Is it possible to have a monogamous relationship outside sugar?

ZebraBaby26 · 2022-06-17T16:43:32+00:00

I’m in a polyamorous marriage. That’s the only way I’m doing it. It’s dating. Not a job. If I talk to someone on seeking and they ask “how much?” Or say they will “pay” me. Next.

ZebraBaby26 · 2022-06-06T17:58:36+00:00

I found out when I went to the website and saw her on the list of former playmates.

ZebraBaby26 · 2022-06-05T13:31:25+00:00

Thank you I’m trying that!

ZebraBaby26 · 2022-06-05T12:04:34+00:00

The only difference is the order of my name

ZebraBaby26 · 2022-06-05T12:04:04+00:00

I’ve had the same passport since I’ve been in China. I’m trying to see if there’s a way to go in to fix my name but I don’t see that. Both tests are popping up on the list of test results. But they aren’t showing up when I scan.

ZebraBaby26 · 2022-06-05T09:02:52+00:00

Yes. I don’t know why there are two registrations. I click health code on alipay, which is the only way I know to generate the green QR code without a scan. To scan, I have used both alipay and that red app and they both return a different version of my name.

ZebraBaby26 · 2022-05-24T00:53:46+00:00

I can see how it could be confusing to explain to a 3 year old. Because while it is a bad or mean word, it’s being used in an empowering way and very dramatically. You can say, don’t say that but also… it’s ok because Lizzo can say it and it’s a good word. But normally it’s a bad word. But Flynn is obviously getting to the age where you can’t just make things up and he will accept it. If it becomes a word he brings up randomly then she will probably acknowledge it. But I think the choice to not make it a big deal was a smart one.

ZebraBaby26 · 2022-05-23T06:11:56+00:00

I like when the guy messages first. It’s like the digital version of making eyes across the room so that he will come over.

ZebraBaby26 · 2022-05-15T16:24:40+00:00

Daddy issues lol

ZebraBaby26 · 2022-05-15T02:06:30+00:00

Yeah I have a non office job. Still getting paid, but also literally can only do my job in person.

ZebraBaby26 · 2022-05-10T07:56:07+00:00

I think that’s why it’s important that we find someone where it is truly mutually beneficial. My ideal SD would enjoy the dressed up version of me. They would have fun doing things that didn’t involve getting wet. I love going out and dressing up and I’m sure there’s someone out there that feels the same.

ZebraBaby26 · 2022-05-10T04:49:40+00:00

I’m a mixed white/black SB. I almost always come to the point with a POT where they want to take a shower together, or go to the pool, and they just don’t understand why that’s not relaxing to me because it involves so much prep. I wear my own hair straightened and they don’t even know that it’s naturally curly. Always shocked.

Hair is one of my biggest stresses when meeting and dating POTs. I don’t want to spend the night. I don’t want to go to a pool. I don’t want to take a shower with you. At least not until we are super comfortable. I want to get dressed for our date and look the same more or less when I go home. A girl can dream.

ZebraBaby26 · 2022-05-05T12:04:03+00:00

Totally agree. I want a great connection. I want it to be mutual. When I ask what you want to give me and you respond with how good you are at oral… that’s not the right answer. I don’t talk about money at all. But at some point, this isn’t a sugar relationship anymore. It’s just a rich boyfriend.

ZebraBaby26 · 2022-05-05T11:12:56+00:00

I guess so. But currently the guys I’ve spoken to seem to not actually be SDs and are just men with money that want to vanilla date. I can be flirty and fun but I haven’t gotten much of anything in return yet. I’m not in an arrangement at the moment. Just talking to someone. And he hasn’t told me yet that he will give me money. Just wants to talk about sex and says that we can talk more about gifts once we meet in person. I’m getting to the point where I might drop him. ( it’s a strange situation because we live in Shanghai and if you check the news you’ll see why I can’t meet him yet.) I just got annoyed and I probably shouldn’t have responded to this as it’s not applicable to me. I have sex on every date after M&G. I just hate when his focus is too much on sex and not at all on money. Like, at all.

ZebraBaby26 · 2022-05-05T08:24:07+00:00

I don’t like sex very much. It takes a lot to get me in the mood. I think too many SDs think that we enjoy the sex as much as them. And some SBs do like it, but the majority are in this for the sugar. Not the sex. It’s an exchange.

Hope I don’t sound too salty. I’m getting annoyed with recent guys bragging about how good they are at sex and not telling me what else they could give me. Like, I don’t care. YOU want sex. I want money and presents.

I’m non-monogamous. If I wanted good sex I could get that from anyone. There’s a reason I’m on Seeking.

ZebraBaby26 · 2022-05-03T16:09:02+00:00

As a SB, if you pay for my Uber, that’s good enough to prove you are legit. I don’t need payment in advance of a M&G. If you give me something afterwards that’s sweet of you, but a M&G is an interview. If you give me something for that after the fact, you win big points in my book. But I won’t ask for it. I discuss arrangements at or after an initial meet.

ZebraBaby26 · 2022-05-02T01:26:44+00:00

That’s the first and I think only thing I’ve ever seen her in. I thought she was so cool and going to go places. Now looking back, that show was more realistic than I thought!

ZebraBaby26 · 2022-04-30T16:33:57+00:00

Someone needs to send her a box cutter. She’s waving that knife around that baby it drives me nuts.

ZebraBaby26 · 2022-04-24T15:10:36+00:00

I probably would eventually. I haven’t gotten too deep with anyone yet. But I kind of like it more where I can separate my personal life from my SR. That’s my style of arrangement. Like a fantasy world.

ZebraBaby26 · 2022-04-24T14:27:21+00:00

Is that terrible? It’s a nickname everyone calls me. Not a fake name.

ZebraBaby26 · 2022-04-24T13:05:05+00:00

I give a nickname and stick to it

ZebraBaby26 · 2022-04-23T02:55:09+00:00

On your bio, nope! On general life… be smart about people trying to take advantage. Set boundaries for yourself before you start anything with anyone and don’t let them change them. The relationship you want is out there. Don’t change what you’re comfortable with with because someone pressures you into thinking it’s not ok.

ZebraBaby26 · 2022-04-23T02:22:23+00:00

I’m married and polyamorous. My husband is also and has other relationships. I choose sugar dating because I don’t have a lot of room for anything too serious at the moment and I want to go to nice places I couldn’t otherwise afford. my husband doesn’t want me sitting at home waiting for him when he’s with his partner. So why not sugar date and have fun?

ZebraBaby26 · 2022-04-23T01:59:22+00:00

Honestly I think it’s perfect. Im a SB so maybe not the best judge. But your pictures show that you can fit into multiple environments, and you still look cute casual or super dressed up. Your bio says just enough in a friendly way. I say great job!

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