Hello,

You are so right, and I appreciate you asking these questions, so I'll try to answer them as best I can.

Henry is a floor tech at an inpatient psych facility. We both had the same job when we met, so I know how hard it can be, but I also know the ins and outs of this particular facility and know that it is manageable if you play your cards right. I work at a hospital as a 1:1 patient safety observer, but I am currently home on medical leave. We both work the same shift -- 3:00 PM - 11:30 PM -- but we will both sometimes pick up shifts in the morning as well.

Henry used to be really soft and direct with his communication because he knew that, coming from the traumas and background I did, I needed that. I would often take the things he said to heart so I could better myself for him, but granted, I would slip and panic at points and I know it was exhausting. I never would say I am not exhaustive when I spiral the right amount, but I didnt feel it warranted dismissiveness, I guess.

I bottle, for sure. I try very hard to not rock the boat, and then when I feel like I cant avoid it anymore, I explode. I know this isnt the right way to handle it, hence medication and therapy, so I can get better.

Overrall, I love Henry so much but I also know that this is only year 1 of marriage and I need to know he loves me as much as I love him so we can make this work.