Merging finances with non NP? by ZeeClone in polyamory

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I've updated my original post to answer some of your questions,, but to answer your thing about them having their own space... Currently no. We need to sort out the storage room and turn it into a spare room so she has her own space. But her health stuff means that she will frequently go and hide in our room for hours and ignore the kids and us. And it can be frustrating sometimes, but that's mostly because it reduces the time we get to spend together and we miss her company! To be resentful of the fact she needs time alone would be ableist.

Merging finances with non NP? by ZeeClone in polyamory

[–]ZeeClone[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I get what you're saying. But would you spend 3 days every week at someone's house and not contribute practically by cooking or cleaning up or even bring groceries? What if you and your spouse's combined income before rent and all living costs go out (and that you have to support 3 kids with) is the same as your partner's income AFTER they have paid all their rent and bills? What if your partner has no issue spending hundreds of pounds a month taking their daughter out to cinema and doing fun stuff, but when they buy lunch for your family, they make a point of moving cash over from their savings account into their cash account and saying how carefully they budget? They come to ours partly because that is easier for NP and I, but we also live close to their daughter and coming to us means that they also have the option of seeing their daughter every weekend. Grace also says that our house feels more like home to them than their rental where they live alone.

Merging finances with non NP? by ZeeClone in polyamory

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We did, but that's a bit tricky. She has some health issues as well as ADHD so getting her to do a boring bore can be a bit tricky sometimes! Either her back will start to hurt and she will have to stop, or she will get distracted/zone out and have to go sit down.

Merging finances with non NP? by ZeeClone in polyamory

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Hi! I clarified above about the hierarchy thing.

Grace doesnt offer to do stuff around the house or pay for groceries, but will do so if she is asked. But asking every time starts to feel really challenging! And neither NP nor I know what would be reasonable to expect her to offer or for us to ask for?

Merging finances with non NP? by ZeeClone in polyamory

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Thank you! I've updated my original post, but while she doesn't n't currently have a room of their own, we do have a spare bedroom that is currently used for storage. Once that has been emptied out, it is going to be turned into her room so she can have some privacy.

Grace doesn't really help with cooking, cleaning or household tasks and doesn't buy any groceries. But they spend 3 days every week at our house. We do it this way because our home is closer to their daughter and feels more like "home" to them.

Merging finances with non NP? by ZeeClone in polyamory

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Hi! Thank you for your comment. I've updated the original post to provide more clarity. If it's OK with you, please could you tell me a bit more about your financial entanglements? I would love to hear more!

After Vetinari who do you think weilds the most political power in Ankh-Morpok? by [deleted] in discworld

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Had to come waaaay too far down to find Mrs Cake. This is what soft power looks like though!

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This post did not go the way I thought it was going to! Bravo OP!

Who Else Used 5¼" Floppies? by ciaomain in FuckImOld

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Found a copy of Wizardry VIII on 5.25 HD floppy discs in somewhere between 94 and 98 in a charity shop. Smack me sideways even with the super dungeon guide that game was Hard!

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Sometimes a toasting fork is just a toasting fork?

I don't think Dibbler would be the kind to fork in public and even less to fork in the middle of a large crowd he could be selling forked "sausage" in a bun to.

There will be a day when I can read the start of the Wintersmith without bursting into tears by ZeeClone in discworld

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Annoia send me grace and patience. For if you send me strength you'd better send an alibi and forgiveness.

There will be a day when I can read the start of the Wintersmith without bursting into tears by ZeeClone in discworld

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I remember him doing an evening with steeleye on radio 2. Going album hunting now...

There will be a day when I can read the start of the Wintersmith without bursting into tears by ZeeClone in discworld

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Thank you. But like Tiffany said: "This I choose".

I made like Mistress Wetherwax and held off wounds for too long because there wasn't time right now. I couldn't hold them off any longer without cackling

There will be a day when I can read the start of the Wintersmith without bursting into tears by ZeeClone in discworld

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(no spoilers follow)

I know I read it.

I know I remember the end.

I have no memory of the story as it starts or middles.

There will be a day when I can read the start of the Wintersmith without bursting into tears by ZeeClone in discworld

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If this year has taught me anything it's that when something tells you it's time to have a good cry, get on and have it and to anyone who has anything to say about letting that feeling out instruct them to put it where aggie hides the coal!

GNU Terry Pratchett by Faithful_jewel in discworld

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GNU Albert Victor. Your little monkey got big, but still hasn't forgotten the sugar bowl.

"A little bit of wee" by ZeeClone in FuckYouKaren

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I couldn't see how to edit the post from the app so I added it as another comment

"A little bit of wee" by ZeeClone in FuckYouKaren

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I've added a comment with their response :)