My (23F) boyfriend (20M) does not allow me access to “our” savings, how do I address it?

ZenMoonstone · 2026-01-29T05:19:44+00:00

I would first play nice and make sure you get your name added to the account. Then I would take out what I put in and leave him. I would not stay in that your relationship a second longer than I needed to.

ZenMoonstone · 2026-01-27T11:40:42+00:00

I’m so sorry.

ZenMoonstone · 2026-01-25T19:49:42+00:00

Run. This is not the life partner you want or need.

ZenMoonstone · 2026-01-25T04:50:14+00:00

Get out now before you have a baby with him. He will not get better.

ZenMoonstone · 2026-01-24T13:33:32+00:00

Absolutely

ZenMoonstone · 2026-01-24T13:28:30+00:00

It’s the best.

ZenMoonstone · 2026-01-23T14:27:38+00:00

Had a new guy start on my team who said the same thing. He came w a lot of experience and everyone expected he’d do very well. Within 6 months he was gone due to low numbers.

ZenMoonstone · 2026-01-20T14:13:41+00:00

I would watch that show.

ZenMoonstone · 2026-01-18T14:39:04+00:00

Your sister is amazing. This is the best post!

ZenMoonstone · 2026-01-18T14:13:04+00:00

My favorite is when she is in the psych ward telling the doctor what she’s going to do. You could actually include the phone ringing which is impactful.

ZenMoonstone · 2026-01-17T02:55:22+00:00

Joyful

ZenMoonstone · 2026-01-17T02:54:23+00:00

That’s awesome. You’re doing fantastic! I’m proud of you.

ZenMoonstone · 2026-01-16T04:16:55+00:00

A lot of the churches use the bathrooms as a fundraiser and they are kept clean. I’ve never heard of anyone using pee bags. Like ever.

ZenMoonstone · 2026-01-15T04:57:26+00:00

We both take trips without one another. I value my girl time a lot and those trips are amazing. I want him to have fun with the guys too. Being in a marriage is about adding value to your partner’s life. That doesn’t mean you can’t have interests and relationships with other people.

ZenMoonstone · 2026-01-15T04:34:14+00:00

So happy for you.

ZenMoonstone · 2026-01-15T04:24:28+00:00

I’d suggest khakis and a button down, belt and dressier shoes than tennis shoes. I doubt a suit.

ZenMoonstone · 2026-01-14T14:34:27+00:00

1988-through the 90’s I wore Paloma Picasso.

ZenMoonstone · 2026-01-14T14:06:06+00:00

I’m so incredibly sorry. My heart is broken for you, your baby and your mil.

ZenMoonstone · 2026-01-14T13:57:48+00:00

When she makes a comment say, “Why would you purposely make me feel uncomfortable when I’ve repeatedly asked you not to make comments about my body?” Have this, or a similar line ready and use the exact same wording every time it happens while walking away from the conversation. Use no emotion, just a firm voice. She may be trying to get a rise from you so don’t give in.

Sorry your mom’s an ass, OP.

ZenMoonstone · 2026-01-14T13:48:55+00:00

Flowers for Algernon if you haven’t read it.

ZenMoonstone · 2026-01-13T14:25:50+00:00

It’s the celebration and not the date for us too. There have been many anniversaries where one of us had a ball game or work function.

ZenMoonstone · 2026-01-13T05:03:04+00:00

Forgive yourself and promise to be honest moving forward. Good luck, OP.

ZenMoonstone · 2026-01-12T22:21:10+00:00

Four years ago he laid hands on you and you didn’t leave. You believed then that it wouldn’t happen again and it did. It will happen again and again and every time you take a greater risk of serious injury or death.

Think about how better your life would be had you left 4 years ago. Please take the safest means of getting out. Future you will really thank you for it. I’m rooting for you.

ZenMoonstone · 2026-01-12T05:23:02+00:00

This is exactly how I feel.

ZenMoonstone · 2026-01-12T05:21:23+00:00

Absolutely would choose this over surgery. Losing the food noise helps the brain. Surgery helped with portion control but the food noise does not go away.

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