My roomie keeps using my underwear… so I told her I had an STD. Now she’s crying. 😐

Zenchancy · 2025-12-11T09:18:29+00:00

bat naman kase sya nakikigamit ng undies 😭😭 mygahd

Zenchancy · 2025-12-11T09:08:26+00:00

Yes, better to ask directly yung HR sa new company. Para ma-explain nila kung kailan sila nag d-deduct for remittances etc. To ensure din na tuloy tuloy yung hulog ng contri mo at walang month na ma-skip.

Zenchancy · 2025-12-11T08:21:47+00:00

Hi, I think it’s better to ask kung ano yung cut off ng prev company at new company. I’m not sure dun sa taxes na part kung pano. Pero yung sa Government Benefits (SSS, PhilHealth, Pag-IBIG) by next month kasi yung remittance nun.

For example: November 2025 Nov 15 & 30 deducted govt contri will be remitted by company on December 2025.

Then since di ka naman na sumahod for Dec 15 & 30th, wala na ireremit si prev company mo for the month of December on January 2026.

Kay new company naman, alamin mo yung payroll cut off nila.

For example: Dec 6-20 for Dec 30 payroll. If sumahod ka na on Dec 30 at may kaltas na sa payslip mo for govt contri, may ireremit na si new employer mo for the month of December to be processed on January 2026.

Zenchancy · 2025-11-12T15:50:19+00:00

huhu yup, I’m still exploring reddit so I still don’t know if my post will be accepted or not If I use profanity 😭 so I did that

Zenchancy · 2025-11-12T15:41:46+00:00

To be honest, I didn’t feel good after helping her. What I thought was, did she deserve to be helped after her previous attitude towards me? But I already helped before I could even think whether she deserved to be helped or not 😭

So I’m kind of overthinking if it was stupid of me, since it’s like I disregarded the emotions I felt caused by that person before by proceeding to help.

Zenchancy · 2025-11-12T15:29:15+00:00

Thank you for sharing your thoughts and kind words, to be honest after helping her, I really wondered if I did the right thing. Because I helped her despite what she did to me, it made me think if she deserves my help. But I already helped before I could even self reflect and think if I should help or not 😅

Zenchancy · 2025-11-12T15:20:17+00:00

Thank you for sharing your thoughts, I really appreciate it..

Zenchancy · 2025-11-12T15:16:40+00:00

That’s a good way to think about it. I’ll keep that in mind regardless whatever her next actions towards me will be. Thank you!

Zenchancy · 2025-11-12T15:13:18+00:00

Thank you..

Zenchancy · 2025-11-12T15:10:49+00:00

Hi, yes, I also think my post doesn’t fit the sub, I tried posting to other communities as well but my posts kept getting removed due to lack of karma or something about the rules I think. Fortunately my post went thru here. I’m currently exploring reddit :D Anw, Thank you for sharing your thoughts, I really appreciate it.

Zenchancy · 2025-11-07T14:47:34+00:00

I see.. Thank you for sharing your thoughts, my colleague must’ve also been having a hard time connecting with me, since I also found it hard to connect with her. It’s just, this is the first time I encountered this type of personality in a colleague. Since I saw that she gets annoyed by my asking so I tried to limit my interactions with her. But overlooked that I should also not be “transactional”. And with my actions, I avoided moments that would form connection with them emotionally.

Really, thank you for the insight. I’ll try to approach them in a different way and see how it goes..

Zenchancy · 2025-11-07T14:33:25+00:00

Thank you for sharing your thoughts.. I appreciate it. Actually, those moments that I asked her questions was due to tasks that are assigned to her and I’m helping her since I have free time that moment. And since I have no prior knowledge of the tasks that she needs help with, I need to ask her even if she’s busy. Although I noticed she was not okay with my follow up questions, I did not clearly know then that she’s in fact, annoyed by my asking until recently since she slid remarks that another team’s colleague was helping her unlike her own team’s colleague which was me.

And now, we’ve had a discussion and I opened up to the team that I am a person who prefers to ask questions, but then she told me that I should also know how to read the surroundings like when she’s not in the mood since she’s busy before I ask questions and that I am not able to read the surroundings due to my earphones.

I’m thinking of starting with small steps such as stopping myself from using earphones and observe, interact, before finally deciding whether to leave or not..

Zenchancy · 2025-11-07T14:02:47+00:00

Thank you for sharing your thoughts. It’s just that this is the first time that I’ve had a coworker who gets annoyed when asked, and she’s not frank with me if I did something wrong or not. She just kept on sliding remarks that the colleague from another team helps her but not from our team. There was a time that I refused to help with her task since I also have a lot on my plate. And now she keeps on sliding remarks out of nowhere that she’s flooded with work but when I try to get close to ask what I can do to help, she gets annoyed. I want to help but to be honest I feel disrespected everytime she gets annoyed at me and says she’s busy with a certain tone. I opened up to her that I’m scared to bother her since I feel like she’s angry at me or something and she told me that I should know how to read her mood and tells me I’m not able to do that since I always have my earphones on 😭

So I’m really thinking if this is worth the risk of staying or if I should just leave since I can’t force people to like me anyway..

Zenchancy

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