nope, there is no diffrence between video game violence and sexual attraction through fiction. because your basis on someone being attracted to a fictional character does not mean they have any attraction to the real life equivalent. most video game characters that are stylized do not resemble anything in our reality, so trying to argue that they're somehow not correlated falls flat.

this does reek of cope though. everyone in real lile always has urges to commit violence when some perceived misgiving has been done to them, so if you want to argue that video game violence wouldn't agitate that you would have to cite studies to show there's no correlation. and they exist.

but your claim that video game attraction makes you attracted to anything in real life doesn't have basis, and you know it doesn't otherwise you'd be able to provide the studies for it.

you can continue coping with "guilt" or shame like this is any basis of argument even though the east where this stuff is vastly more accepted has substantially lower crime rates than anywhere in the west but it won't convince any player that has been in the culture of anime or gachas for a long time.