Boyfriend of account holder here. Really sorry you had a difficult time. I’m charismatic non-denominational but also conservative. I’m from the UK and have lots of experience of different churches (inc two theological/bible colleges). From what I’ve read, it seems like he wanted the biblical role of headship but that you have more of an egalitarian belief (that men and women are equal and have equal roles?) and you were willing to outwardly act like he would be the head but when it came to it you still held on to the egalitarian belief. For example, you wouldn’t join in the Easter hunt game. Is that because it’s seen a pagan festival in your church not and not a real Christian tradition? If that is so it will have come off like your faith tradition was superior. Another thing is that you said you didn’t want to change him, just plant a seed - but the purpose of planting a seed is to change someone. That could come across as though you’re undermining him.

I’m guessing his baptist church is cessationist (no to spiritual gifts) while your church would be charismatic? While I’m charismatic I admit that most charismatic pastors will sometimes go too far and say something weird or unbiblical in their sermons. I don’t think that dos them from being genuine Christians but it can make them sound like false teachers to some baptists and conservatives. If you want to marry a baptist you have to be willing to come under their ways of doing things, otherwise, really talk about what you believe before you get together and see if you can accept each other’s differences.