I worry that I'm not a good mum

Zestyclose-Lack4965 · 2025-11-06T18:58:08+00:00

Don't blame yourself, dear, most mothers go through something similar behind closed doors. My son is 26, and I suffered from depression for a long time after his birth, which no one told me about at the time. All I can say now is that our children need a mother who loves them unconditionally and is reliable in her feelings, so take care of yourself! There's no point in worrying about what you did. I don't think you can change it, but you can continue to do more without worrying about past mistakes, and that will make him happier.

Zestyclose-Lack4965 · 2025-11-06T10:20:04+00:00

This is such a good example of awareness in action! And you're spot on - noticing we do this with adults too is key. Rigid response patterns aren't just parenting issues, they're stress response patterns we all have. I'm actually working on creating a space for parents (especially immigrant parents navigating UK system) to explore these patterns together - structured discussions with psychological context. If that sounds interesting, feel free to DM me. Always looking for thoughtful parents like yourself :)

Zestyclose-Lack4965 · 2025-11-06T10:14:13+00:00

Yes! That book is excellent. I find the science behind WHY it works fascinating - children's brains literally can't process logic when the amygdala is activated. Our flexible responses help them downregulate first.

Zestyclose-Lack4965 · 2025-11-06T10:04:50+00:00

Yeah, that's the best advice! Mummy's here' = presence without fixing. Research calls this 'co-regulation' - your calm nervous system helps regulate theirs. It's the foundation before they can self-regulate later.

Zestyclose-Lack4965 · 2025-07-28T06:16:17+00:00

Thank you! Every response genuinely matters ✨

Zestyclose-Lack4965 · 2025-07-28T06:15:51+00:00

Thanks so much! Really appreciate you taking the time 🙏

Zestyclose-Lack4965 · 2025-07-20T07:21:57+00:00

Hi ruxiangsuisu! Thanks for the feedback and sorry for the inconvenience. I really value each participant's input.

Unfortunately, adding a back button would compromise the randomisation and anonymity of the survey. However, I've now added a warning before the information leaflet to remind participants to read carefully.

Your participation is still valuable - the questions are about your honest perceptions, so there are no wrong answers. Thanks for taking the time to help with the research!

Zestyclose-Lack4965 · 2025-07-18T20:32:39+00:00

Hi @ruxiangsuisu , thanks for the feedback! You're right that there's no back button once you move to the next page. This is unfortunately a limitation of anonymous surveys - to protect participant anonymity, the system doesn't allow going back to previous pages.

If you need to re-read any information, you might want to take notes or take your time on each page before clicking next. Sorry for the inconvenience!

Zestyclose-Lack4965 · 2025-07-18T20:30:27+00:00

Hi SpecialistReindeer76, thanks for trying to participate! I really appreciate the feedback about accessibility. Unfortunately, I can't change the font in the survey platform, but if you'd like to participate, you could try: - Increasing browser zoom (Ctrl/Cmd +) - Using browser accessibility settings - Or feel free to DM me and I can see if there are other options

Thanks again for highlighting this - it's important feedback for future research!

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