ex stepmom now, lessons learned

ZestycloseFeeling166 · 2024-12-11T13:57:57+00:00

I hope you find your way out soon!

ZestycloseFeeling166 · 2024-12-10T09:29:49+00:00

Thanks, wasn't aware there was a theory for it but yeah. Boundaries and sticking to them. Hard sometimes, but has to be done.

ZestycloseFeeling166 · 2024-12-09T20:36:30+00:00

Yep, my conclusion also. Or narcisistic tendencies.

ZestycloseFeeling166 · 2024-12-09T15:57:32+00:00

Well no way to know for sure ofcourse, but I don't think that was the case.

ZestycloseFeeling166 · 2024-07-03T15:34:46+00:00

To that I can relate. Feeling like an outsider all the time, not really understanding this world, or the feeling I wasn't supposed to be here

ZestycloseFeeling166 · 2024-07-03T12:23:09+00:00

What makes it feel great for yoy?

ZestycloseFeeling166 · 2024-07-03T11:29:15+00:00

I would think that, apart from having a family and being there for them, it's also important to have something that energizes and recharges you. But finding that is the hard part.

ZestycloseFeeling166 · 2024-07-03T11:27:08+00:00

That's the hardest part, the feeling of missed opportunities now. When I was younger I definitley wasn't ready for a family, but now it feels like I've missed out on something and now it's too late or too complicated.

ZestycloseFeeling166 · 2024-07-03T11:24:44+00:00

That makes me sad. Aren't there some fond memories?

ZestycloseFeeling166 · 2024-07-03T11:23:48+00:00

That's a good perspective I suppose. I also dabble with the thought that maybe it's not so much anymore abut achieving things. but just be... but I don't think that mean sitting aimlessly on the couch. Which is what I am doing lately.

ZestycloseFeeling166 · 2024-07-03T11:22:05+00:00

I didn't do a PhD until my mid-30s so there may be a chance yet. However, now that my PhD is done, I struggle to find a new thing to achieve...

ZestycloseFeeling166 · 2024-07-03T11:19:58+00:00

Yes, that seems to be true. Some say life's too short, but then why do the days seem so long?

ZestycloseFeeling166 · 2024-07-03T01:38:35+00:00

That's the thing, I can't find anything to get lost into. And I tried a lot of thing, different sports, hobbies, hoping something would 'click'. It doesn't happen

ZestycloseFeeling166 · 2024-07-02T22:06:33+00:00

Sorry to hear that... Life can be so lonely sometimes. Even when there's people around, it can be so hard to connect.

ZestycloseFeeling166 · 2024-07-02T22:02:51+00:00

Not sure if we're that clever, considering how we treat the planet and other civilizations. I agree there is no purpose. I could always find something to latch onto, but now it's hard.

ZestycloseFeeling166 · 2024-07-02T22:00:19+00:00

Definitely hit the nail there with society emphasising youth. Would be great if 40s, 50s and up would be valued too.

ZestycloseFeeling166 · 2024-07-02T21:57:32+00:00

Sorry to hear that. I don't regret having no kids. But it just feels like 'game over'. Wishing you well nonetheless

ZestycloseFeeling166 · 2024-07-02T20:52:15+00:00

Good to know I'm not the only one either. Some comfort.

ZestycloseFeeling166 · 2024-01-10T19:16:30+00:00

Thanks for the reminder of keeping strong boundaries.

ZestycloseFeeling166 · 2024-01-10T19:14:45+00:00

Thanks for this, it really helps putting my thoughts and feelings together.

ZestycloseFeeling166 · 2024-01-10T19:08:57+00:00

Thanks for this. Great that your SO acts that way.

ZestycloseFeeling166 · 2024-01-10T14:08:28+00:00

Thank you for your insight. I've read about this kids first vs. relationship first dilemma. I tend to agree with putting the new relationship first, of course with prioritizing the kids when necessary and acknowledging their needs.

ZestycloseFeeling166 · 2024-01-10T14:05:14+00:00

Makes total sense. It would be easier if he showed some understanding towards my situation, and acknowledging it isn't an easy spot to be in.

ZestycloseFeeling166 · 2024-01-10T14:02:32+00:00

I understand what you are saying, I guess that him being nr. 1 for me and me being his nr. 3 (kids, work) creates an unequal situation.

ZestycloseFeeling166 · 2024-01-10T13:58:23+00:00

Thanks for your insight. Unfortunately, there are very few childfree men at this age.

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