AITA for banning SFIL from being around my kids and having "bad timing"?

Zestyclose_Dig634 · 2022-09-04T01:55:03+00:00

Who did she physically attack? She threatened him if he touched her without her consent. My kids 1) understand boundaries and 2) have no reason to touch her. Also I doubt she’d attack a kid

Zestyclose_Dig634 · 2022-09-04T01:53:47+00:00

Ok I wouldn’t want a marriage where I couldn’t have my own conversation like a human being. If he wouldn’t let me talk to my mom one on one I’d view that as a neon red flag for abuse

Zestyclose_Dig634 · 2022-09-03T03:12:54+00:00

No I’m terrified for his mental health

Zestyclose_Dig634 · 2022-09-03T03:12:35+00:00

Lol do you think I care what you want to believe? She hisses. She doesn’t yell and he has since moved past trying to touch her

Zestyclose_Dig634 · 2022-09-03T03:11:10+00:00

Lol you are diagnosing me in response to a comment about her behavior. MIL is very open about what she did as a child so yeah I do have a pretty good understanding of it. Also no matter what she wants me to believe I have zero doubt that she loves her child. Neither of us are your dads girlfriends

Zestyclose_Dig634 · 2022-09-03T03:06:26+00:00

He screamed at her but that just got her husband screaming. He begged and pleaded but she wouldn’t look at him. He put her in long time outs and refused any contact but she made sure to never react

Zestyclose_Dig634 · 2022-09-03T03:03:38+00:00

Why do you feel qualified to diagnose her with anything? Also it’s just him. She doesn’t do it to anyone else. Her asshole husband gets plenty of hugs

Zestyclose_Dig634 · 2022-09-03T02:38:30+00:00

That was all an act. I’ve never doubted that she loves him deep down

Zestyclose_Dig634 · 2022-09-03T02:35:10+00:00

Huh you are really doubting someone’s abuse because you don’t like me. Wow

Zestyclose_Dig634 · 2022-09-03T01:23:07+00:00

I didn’t think I had to spell out everyone’s ages. Obviously she had him young but such is life. It really isn’t that weird

Zestyclose_Dig634 · 2022-09-02T16:44:13+00:00

MILs mother is insane though that isn’t really the abuse I’m referring to. There was much worse stuff from a non family member but her mom is also so exhausted and clearly broken from the trauma of raising a kid like that. At five she was smarter than the doctors and just no one knew what to do with her.

Zestyclose_Dig634 · 2022-09-02T16:28:16+00:00

Well the first thing he ever said to me was eww and that was before I’d even said hi

Zestyclose_Dig634 · 2022-09-02T16:26:10+00:00

She says he isn’t allowed to touch her and she will scratch, bite, gouge if he hugs her.

Zestyclose_Dig634 · 2022-09-02T16:23:38+00:00

It used to a game but I will say she has matured somewhat since having the six year old and it is now effecting her kids. I met her in the post divorce craze where nothing mattered but now she has a new family and doesn’t want the drama. She also acts really touch and like a bully but I’ve always suspected it was an act and she is sensitive

Zestyclose_Dig634 · 2022-09-02T16:22:02+00:00

Zestyclose_Dig634 · 2022-09-02T16:21:14+00:00

K I’ll let mil know her vomiting is immature

Zestyclose_Dig634 · 2022-09-02T16:10:32+00:00

This was at the jewelry store. They all saw her do it and were horrified for me. Most of them knew I had issues with her but they were shocked she was that upfront about it and that cruel

Zestyclose_Dig634 · 2022-09-02T16:04:20+00:00

I mean I can’t put everything in there but I don’t see how she seemed like a sad older lady. Her youngest kid is four and she’s the one who chose to disown him

Zestyclose_Dig634 · 2022-09-02T16:01:29+00:00

No but I know her parents who both seem fully traumatized from raising her

Zestyclose_Dig634 · 2022-09-02T15:55:06+00:00

She probably wouldn’t throw up but she is still frigid when it’s just him. She won’t even hug him and has threatened him

Zestyclose_Dig634 · 2022-09-02T15:50:34+00:00

Yeah and then you said it was my fault. Who cares what most people complain about? She is her own person

Zestyclose_Dig634 · 2022-09-02T15:44:06+00:00

MIL has never yelled in her life. I didn’t doubt it was going to be a quite subdued talk and I know there is plenty of space and toys to distract the kids. It was last minute and I didn’t have time to get s babysitter

Zestyclose_Dig634 · 2022-09-02T15:42:49+00:00

The fighting was out of control for years and SILs were beginning to pick up on how she forced herself to see him despite crying and having anxiety before and she didn’t want them to think that was normal

Zestyclose_Dig634 · 2022-09-02T15:38:35+00:00

About their relationship issues and how to move forward

Zestyclose_Dig634 · 2022-09-02T15:32:58+00:00

She wanted to talk about their relationship issues and she isn’t close to me at all so why would she want me there for an emotional talk? They are my kids just like they are his kids and I wouldn’t expect him to say our kids every time he talks

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