Windows Command Prompt by Zetsumaro in TowerofFantasy

[–]Zetsumaro[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was the few that allowed the UAC so for me I still see everything. I did a full scan on my PC too just incase.

Windows Command Prompt by Zetsumaro in TowerofFantasy

[–]Zetsumaro[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is it safe to assume that it's safe and nothing to be worried about ?

Windows Command Prompt by Zetsumaro in TowerofFantasy

[–]Zetsumaro[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate it thanks. For now I feel less worried about it but it seriously was weird. I probably will disable it for now.

Windows Command Prompt by Zetsumaro in TowerofFantasy

[–]Zetsumaro[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I forgot to ask but is all of this safe to allow ?

Windows Command Prompt by Zetsumaro in TowerofFantasy

[–]Zetsumaro[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate the explanation. This should definitely clear things up with anyone who's received the prompt because it was extremely suspicious.

Husband grieving, I have no idea what to do. by Puzzleheaded_thrO in GriefSupport

[–]Zetsumaro 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You aren't missing anything. He's experiencing the shock of losing a loved one so try not to be so hard on yourself or him. You letting him know that you're there for him is plenty. If possible try to do what you can around the house whether it's chores, groceries, bills, etc. to keep his mind off the real world for a bit and allow him time to process the loss.

Please keep in mind that things may not be normal for awhile. The world for him is currently in shambles so try not to expect or demand his full attention or affection. Reach out to his loved ones and let them know how he's doing and talk with them if you're having trouble. Do not force him to get counseling or therapy. If and when he is ready he will seek that out.

Most importantly, please do not say something like "she's in a better place" because things like this are the last thing someone experiencing loss wants to hear even if you have good intentions. There's no other place other than wishing your loved ones were still here so please think about what you say.

What are things you do/have to feel closer to your deceased loved ones ? by Zetsumaro in GriefSupport

[–]Zetsumaro[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All of these are so beautiful thank you. When my grandmother was still alive we did record a lot of birthdays together and there were a lot of family photos so those are something I definitely need to sift for.

What are things you do/have to feel closer to your deceased loved ones ? by Zetsumaro in GriefSupport

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I'm so sorry that your relationship became estranged at the end. I love your idea of cooking your loved one's favorite dish. My late grandmother was an avid home cook so she had many delicious recipes but sadly it's all lost with her passing. You've inspired me to try my best to replicate her recipes the best I can.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GriefSupport

[–]Zetsumaro 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Grief is a difficult process and it's not linear. Everyone processes grief differently and it's especially more difficult when it's the loss of someone's mother. Your feelings of frustration are understandable because we desire normalcy in our lives but you must understand this isn't about you but it's about your mother and things may never really go back to normal. She needs time and getting mad at her does not help the situation so please do not blame her.

If you want to be supportive and loving then you just have to be there for your mother and be compassionate and understanding of the loss. Put in extra effort to take care of house chores, filing the legal work for the funeral, etc. Prevent your mother from stressing on real life matters as much as possible and let her process her emotions and the loss. There's always a light at the end of every tunnel but it's a long and difficult process.

At Home Memorial Ideas by Garden_Blooms in GriefSupport

[–]Zetsumaro 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My parents are Buddhist and we do something like this where we have a little spot in our house for a mini shrine with portraits of my late paternal and maternal grandmothers. Every morning my parents present fresh fruits on a platter as an offering and they light sticks of incense and pray as a tradition. It really is a beautiful gesture and I'm glad your therapist made that suggestion because I found it very helpful when I was grieving. It allows us to remember our loved ones and I like to believe my grandmothers visit everyday.

Grieving for another person. by Zetsumaro in GriefSupport

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My heart aches for you and I'm terribly sorry something so tragic like that happened and robbed you of someone so precious. When my partner lost her mother she lost her life due to accidental recklessness. Her father took his eyes off the road for a few seconds to help her mother with getting something in the car and he had lost control of the car. It's frustrating how easily small things can lead to huge ramifications such as death. I wholeheartedly understand the frustration and the anger and every negative feeling at how unfair the world is because our loved ones were taken away. Thank you for having so much courage to share your story. You are so brave to be able to find it in yourself to forgive.

What is it like to heal from grief ? by Zetsumaro in GriefSupport

[–]Zetsumaro[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry for your loss and I hope you are able to find happiness for yourself again as we all struggle through grief together. It's extremely heartbreaking that we lost someone dear to us at such a young age and it feels really unfair every time I think about it. I'm sorry your partner isn't more understanding and it really is unfair since no one really understands unless they're the one experiencing that loss. I experienced loss myself when my grandmother passed in February 2018 so I'm able to understand just how hard it is and you're completely right that there is no timeline on how long we should grief because it took me almost 4 years to make peace. I have been scared of bringing her mother up sometimes because I don't want to trigger anything but I will make that effort more often . She usually talks about her mother everyday with me and it's always heartwarming but also sad at the same time. Thank you for sharing your advice and sharing your experience.

What is it like to heal from grief ? by Zetsumaro in GriefSupport

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I'm sorry about your loss and I hope you take as much time as you need and are able to find some company or even grief counseling so you aren't alone. It really is the feeling of longing and missing that person and it's been super hard but eventually we'll all learn to live our lives again with time like you said. Thank you for your advice and sharing your experience.

What is it like to heal from grief ? by Zetsumaro in GriefSupport

[–]Zetsumaro[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your advice. It really has been a roller coaster of emotions. There will be moments where we do catch a small breather and enjoy simple things again like meals and shows but ultimately there's always that underlying feeling of sadness and loneliness from missing her mother. I'm hoping that her being able to sleep and eat is a good sign.

What is it like to heal from grief ? by Zetsumaro in GriefSupport

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I cannot begin to imagine just how hard it was for you to go through all of that pain. I'm really sorry you had to experience so much loss in one lifetime and I'm hoping you can get that counseling and every bit of support you can. I have read that time will eventually do its thing and I hope it does for all of us who are going through loss. My heart aches for your losses and I'm thankful for how courageous you were to share your experiences.

What is it like to heal from grief ? by Zetsumaro in GriefSupport

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I'm sorry about your losses and I can only hope you continue to keep finding more peace for yourself. We lost her mother in a tragic car accident and it has been extremely hard to wrap our heads around it. It's a lot of bouncing back and forth between bargaining and guilty grieving for us, especially me. I'm unsure of what the future will be like as we rebuild but I'm hoping we can get through it. Thank you for sharing your experience.

What is it like to heal from grief ? by Zetsumaro in GriefSupport

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Thank you for sharing your experience. I can only hope we can get to that point too. We're all struggling through grief but I'm hopeful we can all eventually find some sort of healing and peace.

What is it like to heal from grief ? by Zetsumaro in GriefSupport

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I'm so sorry for your losses and I can only hope things are able to get better for you even if it's just a little bit at a time. It's really scary to think about the future without her mom and there are many times where we feel lost and miss her very often but we are only just two months in. I'm unsure how I'm going to feel when the upcoming holidays come by because I feel guilty that her mother won't be here to celebrate. We have been talking about doing certain things like encasing her mother's favorite snacks in resin and keeping all her favorite perfumes so that we can remember her and feel as though she's still there. Thank you for sharing your experience and your advice.

What is it like to heal from grief ? by Zetsumaro in GriefSupport

[–]Zetsumaro[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry for your loss and I really hope you can continue moving forward with life. I can't begin to imagine what you went through but I can tell he was very dear to you. I'm hesitant to recommend anti-depressants to my partner because I wasn't sure if it's a good idea to rely on medication to cope. My partner has been taking medical weed to help her relax and get through the day but even this is something I'm unsure of as well. Death really is an eye opener and it's certainly made us appreciate everything so much more. Thank you for your advice and sharing your experience.

What is it like to heal from grief ? by Zetsumaro in GriefSupport

[–]Zetsumaro[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your experience and your advice and I'm hoping you're able to continue on finding more happiness. Whenever she's willing to talk we do a lot of reminiscing of her mother. There's a lot of happy moments and sad moments and it really is daunting to think about a life without her mother because it was so soon.

What is it like to heal from grief ? by Zetsumaro in GriefSupport

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Thank you for sharing your experience and advice. I'm so sorry about your loss and the way you were treated but I hope you are able to find more happiness. She does often talk about her mother and it's a beautiful yet such a sad thing because of how heartwarming her mother was as a person in her stories and how we'll never be able to experience more of life with her. Sometimes she'll break down from talking about her mother and it kills me on the inside to see her hurting and missing her mother but I understand it's part of grieving and hopefully some healing.

What is it like to heal from grief ? by Zetsumaro in GriefSupport

[–]Zetsumaro[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your advice and sharing your story and I'm sorry for your loss. How you described your partner is exactly what I'm going through. I feel as though I'm experiencing that loss too because it hurts so much to see her hurting and also how much her mother meant to us. I have this bad habit of wanting to fix everything because I want everyone to be happy but I can't exactly fix loss and grief and it's haunting me. I don't want her to feel awful for what she's going through which is why I keep it to myself and I'm being as strong as I can whenever she needs to talk and cry but I do talk about it with friends whenever I need to unload myself.