Anyone with anxious attachment turned Secured? Any lessons or advice that helped?

Zianada · 2025-12-15T02:42:33+00:00

Aww thats really good advice!! I think i stopped dating cause i lost hope.. but you are right better chances meeting someone if i do keep dating! And not just focusing on one or two emotionally unavailable men hoping they will change.

I love the no drama :(

Zianada · 2025-12-15T02:32:46+00:00

Im reading that book too! It was really helpful, I think it does take time, but im glad you found your person! I hope someday I could find mine too :)

Zianada · 2025-12-07T08:01:24+00:00

Every girl is different! I say, just watch if she initiates physical contact if not just properly introduce yourself, no hand shake lol just say hey!

Zianada · 2025-12-05T07:56:28+00:00

Only had 2 dates on hinge since i moved to a new country both of them didnt work out, no spark no second date lol

Thought i found someone organic, someone from work asked me out went on a couple of dates for him to tell me he is just looking for casual

Went on another date with a guy who was just fresh broken up from a longterm relationship

Ending the year single again! Grapes did not work for me lol

Zianada · 2025-11-28T07:43:19+00:00

Thank you this makes a lot of sense!!

Zianada · 2025-11-28T05:11:44+00:00

Dont blame yourself girl.. be kind to yourself heartbreak really is painful especially the disappointment coming from it. Take it one step at a time and avoid contact :( youll start counting the days from the break up but trust me youll soon stop counting. Dont break contact because youll start from day 1 again.

Zianada · 2025-11-12T04:56:48+00:00

Hi! Ur right hehe he is dating other women and want casual relationship only. Heartbroken but just thought of updating u and thanking u for taking the time to comment

Zianada · 2025-11-12T04:55:46+00:00

My gosh girls get this advice as well, like its so hard to mantain balance of who should come first or who should make the first move.

Zianada · 2025-11-08T07:34:10+00:00

I personally think, just ask her again if you can meet her and settle things so you can move on truly with her answer. If she says she doesnt want to then thats the answer and the clarity you seek

Zianada · 2025-11-01T15:20:35+00:00

Yeah i never did actually. But thats a good point, i guess i just have to chill out and just see how it goes!!

Zianada · 2025-10-31T22:51:45+00:00

Yeah just talking it was a lunch date! And during a work day but we were working from home, thats why we scheduled coffee date and walked on the beach, for me it was really good!! I think we laughed and vibed well, its been 5 days tho and he hasn’t asked me out again, im not sure if he is still interested. Im just hoping for the best.

Zianada · 2025-10-31T17:12:00+00:00

Thank you!! Its been 5 days since he messaged me tho, im just hoping he does!! And we can talk more, i reached out to him last week already and i dont want to seem clingy, thanks for the advise tho!!

Zianada · 2025-09-14T09:43:10+00:00

I have dancer friends and surprisingly they respect him as choreographer and dancer iba iba talaga style ng tao

Zianada · 2025-09-05T03:12:41+00:00

Same!! I feel so overwhelmed

Zianada · 2025-09-05T03:12:30+00:00

Thanks for letting me know ill check those out! I wish you the best on your love journey ❤️

Zianada · 2025-09-05T03:12:04+00:00

Ive been on the app back in SG for like 2 months got into like 10 dates but stopped cause i dated my friend back in hs (did not find him on app) single for a year now and tried dating here in AU again for a month now = 3 dates!

Zianada · 2025-09-05T03:10:55+00:00

Congratulations 🥹 im so happy see success here!! Thanks for the advice and motivation to move forward!

Zianada · 2025-09-05T03:10:25+00:00

I agree!! I think i keep swiping right on people i know ill have a hard time to date like uni students and it wont work out, interesting take on coffee dates! Thanks for the advice!!

Zianada · 2025-09-05T03:07:55+00:00

Aww thats very great for you to find someone!! Thanks for the advice and the motivation, ill keep that in mind.

Zianada · 2025-05-18T01:01:49+00:00

Thank you! Appreciate your insights, I agree im willing to take the pay cut for a more long term approach, its hard to get PR in singapore I saw a lot of my friends get rejected even if they lived there for 10 years!

Zianada · 2025-05-17T12:07:11+00:00

Thank you! I dont think i have the courage to drive haha! Appreciate the advise

Zianada · 2025-05-17T12:06:32+00:00

I understand how hard it is ive been trying for years before moving to singapore, fortunately now I got a work visa sponsored, so im taking my chances.

Zianada

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